On Internet Romance & Rebound Sex
My experiences with both phenomenon were with the same girl. Technically speaking there wasn’t any sex in the orthodox sense but there were physical relations that verged on the Clinton kind.
Back in 1996, chatting on the net was done in fanciless text-based environments. To find someone to chat to, you had to finger another network, usually another university’s (only a sex-starved geek can come up with “finger” as a command name, but I digress). This would produce a list of users who were currently logged on. I was studying for exams and during one of the numerous breaks that I took I fingered.
By chance I picked her username. At first it was innocent enough. “What course are you studying?”, “Don’t you hate exams?!” etc. Pretty soon, over the next few days subsequent chats became more and more personal until we started talking about relationships. I found out that she had just broken up with her boyfriend of 2 years.
Not knowing her back story, all I could do was console her. Apparently that was attractive to a girl who’s on a rebound. Long story short – we met up 2 weeks later, sight unseen. It was hot and heavy from the get go. Almost like she was doing it out of spite. I had no complaints. I’m a guy afterall, plus her previous boyfriend had made it such that I was fantastic in comparison.
The whole affair lasted 4 weeks from the time we met in person. I liken it to a very short candle burning furiously. When I realised that there was nothing more beyond the physical, fooling around with her just didn’t feel right or good anymore.The day that I ended it, I had the opportunity for one last romp which I didn’t take. Till this day friends who know the story still can’t believe it. “Sex is sex, however you get it right?” they said.
For me it was, and still is different. If I can’t connect with a person emotionally the sex becomes mechanical. As I’ve said previously, the brain does control what happens down there. Nonetheless, those were 4 memorable weeks. Interestingly enough, this would be the only time that I’d meet a girlfriend through the Net, or catch someone on the rebound. And it’s been almost 10 years since.
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The day that I ended it, I had the opportunity for one last romp which I didn’t take.
My history is littered with those passed opportunities. (Not bragging.) Sometimes I think I should have taken them all. Sometimes I wonder why I didn’t.
But it all comes back to: I must have had a good reason at the time.
curtis: I wonder it myself. When I think back, I wondered “Why not? It’s gonna end anyway.” Hmm, damn those good reasons.
I think somehow romping someone just for the sake of romping can leave a bad taste in the mouth forever. Good call Marc! A friend used to romp everyone including gays dressed like woman. For him it was fun then but im sure once he is 40 years old, he would be brushing his teeth and scrubbing himself everytime he would remember that bad episodes in his life.
Manila
Manila: yes yes, it should be more sacred than just “doing it”. Your friend – I hope he’s disease free?
Actually, I met my current boyfriend from the internet. I was kinda on the rebound too, but unlike the girl in your case – I ended up with a relationship (20 months and counting!).
It’s interesting how love found via the internet seems to be less stigmatised than it was before… or am I imagining things?
starryluvly: Lucky you! Congrats! There are always exceptions to the rule.
Yes it’s less stigmatised than before. My story was how it happened. I don’t regret it at all. And don’t get me wrong: I don’t mind meeting a girl from the net. Heck, I may even meet someone from blogging. Hahah I’m not ruling it out.
lol, don’t worry I wasn’t misconstruing you (not on purpose anyway). Was just making an observation.
In fact, I think more people are using the net to hook up with other people. I know two friends who met their boyfriends via irc. In fact, one of them met 3 boyfriends via the net!
I am not adverse to meeting people from the net – just depends on who, and how long I’ve known them I guess!
i met my late bf from the internet, actually thru my fren intro. The long distance relationship worked out quite well, eventhough i waited him to be back from US for 1.5 yrs, we been together for 4 yrs. But it was unfortunate event happened to him, he passed away 6 mths ago. I do really miss him alots!
*P/S i don’t really believe love in fist sight tho…
jo: my condolences. if you had those good years together, then it wasn’t a total loss. if it was a good rship, it doesn’t really matter how two people meet.
Girls use sex to get love, n guys use love to get sex, so i think, when u take it, she will demand a commitment or something which is scary, especially if you can’t connect with her in the first place.
handy: good summation.
sympathy sex..rebound sex..whatever u call it..all i can say is that
Love surfeits not, Lust like a glutton dies;
Love is all truth, Lust full of forged lies.
i choose to keep my faith that there are still guys who will turn down sympathy sex..cheers!
reign: erm, like me? Cos that’s what I did.