
In the past week, the term “Dirty Old Man” had cropped up several times. Last Saturday, during my dad’s belated birthday dinner, my brother and I was checking out the waitresses at Hog’s Breath Cafe and also the patrons. I’d be nudging him and signaling him with my eyebrows, winking and the moving of my mouth, saying, “There, there.”
Dad joined in. And promptly got scolded by mom.
They are young, they got an excuse. You are just making yourself look like a dirty old man.
To which, my brother defended my dad saying that “all guys look“. I concur. Ever since then though it got me thinking about myself. I’m 32 years old now and I like going to the clubs to look at pretty girls, among other things. I could easily be called a “Dirty Old Man” too.
During lunch with a few colleagues who are all 25 or below, one of them asked how come I still like clubbing. I said that I’m sure I’d grow out of it eventually but for now, as long as there are pretty girls to look at, I’m there. I said that I might become a dirty old man before I stop going and they all laughed.
Sometimes I do feel awkward when I talk to girls in clubs. Many of them would be uni students and when talking to uni students, they would always ask, “So what do you study?”
I always reply, “I studied Engineering. I’m working now.” I don’t say how long it was since I’ve graduated but I answer honestly if asked. Typically the girls would be around 18-20. Now I say I feel awkward but I don’t feel dirty about it, not in a preying sense anyway.
But how do the girls view this? So I asked my female colleague who is 23. And she said it depends on how old a guy looks. If he looks old, then it’s not so good. She said that I’m lucky to have a young face and I don’t come across as sleazy.
She added that some young girls may be turned off by the age gap, but most would be ok if you treat them with respect. Failing that she said, go for girls who’s just freshly graduated or who are already working. Women in the work force view men differently.
I wonder what’s the tipping point though? The point when I would walk into a place and know that people are thinking, “What’s this old guy doing in here?” I know I do when I see obviously older looking men in the clubs. Or should I just enjoy myself without thinking about the age thing and be like Hugh Hefner? Now he’s a dirty old man in the truest sense.

Hugh Hefner and his “Girls Next Door“
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I’m under 25, but when I talk to girls under 20, I feel “old” . It’s like, If I have a crush on them, I feel like paedophile u know ! Like , it’s wrong !
hugh is not dirty old man…he is disgustingly rich dirty old man.
You would be suprised how many girls out there would be star stunned by an older man.As a ‘working man’ with dough to spend, it would be completely different from the student norm of dinghy lodgings and pinching pennies.Sorta like hugh above.
I must say that you are dead lucky to not look obviously older than you are. I had an ex-collegue who was only 28,but looked and acted like he was 40…until I found out how old he was,I was under the impression that he was a ham sup uncle..
Sleaziness doesn’t make a difference no matter how old. I think though that stereotypes, like Hugh equate the “old” thing to sleaziness. Nevertheless, I reckon it’s literally, the old dirty men, who are balding and forming pot bellies and dancing in their work suits then hitting on girls. Yeah, those are the real “dirty, old men”.
Aiyah lah, I used to sneak into clubs underaged, these men are old enough to be my dad!
But, I agree you are rather baby-faced. Wouldn’t have known you were 32!
And even so, I don’t think it’s really that bad.
Herman ==> An age gap of 5 is still quite alright bah. But some of those young chicks started calling me uncle. Bah.
Concur with Mae that you are baby-faced. Hahahaha.
Actually this “Dirty Old Man” issue is not of age but rather as a expression used. You see, take u as and example and some young chicks.
If they are interested, this expression will neber be surfaced. But if they are not interested and find you digusting, then they start calling you “Dirty Old Man”, regardless of how old you are. I give you another example
Now, I quite into salsa, and will be @ this salsa club almost every saturday after salsa class. Where we dance with our classmates and strangers. There is this 2 old guy, don’t know from where that all gals upon knowing will shun. They are the “Dirty old man”. Which we guys will always warn our new juniors (gals lah) about when we head down to the club.
So there you have it. “Dirty Old Man”
Hope you talk about “Auntieness” someday. hahahaha.
Lupin
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I guess if you dont use ur eyes to “rape” the younger chicks, then they wont classified you as Dirty-Old-Man.
Dirty-Old-Man is when they’re looking at you and you so can tell via they look, they have kinky thought.
I’ve seen it this morning. I went to subi market to get some veggies, and these 2 uncles were checking out at some chicks… Hmmm, all i can say is i so wanted to slap them.
Just be polite and dont show ur “urge” on ur face, u should be fine… heheheheh
herman: damn dude, your problem is not a *real* problem lah! Hahah.
ront: basically he’s rich enough that there will always be willing women to indulge his dirty old man ways. Heh.
malaysian at heart: I see your point about being “star struck”. Which confirms what a lot of my older relatives say, “Concentrate on your career. When you got the money, the women will come.” If a man does not mind the kind of women that that will attract, I guess it’s a win-win situation.
mae: hahah now those are the *typical* dirty old man. But like you said lah, it boils down to the man’s attitude towards the woman.
Lupin: great story about the salsa club. “Auntieness”? You mean older women with younger men? I haven’t come across that situation yet. If I meet a MILF, I shall let you know.
Eunice: don’t show my “urge” eh? So that means controlling my smile and the way my eyes appear. Ok that’d be difficult. Hahah! One thing’s for sure though, I wouldn’t stare. I’d steal glances instead.
Oh I get what you mean, Mr. Ooi. These days I am quite wary of clubbing, especially if places where the young ones are at. Because the question will inevitably be asked, “So what’s your name? Can I have your mobile number please? Do you want another drink? Etc etc? and it’s bloody embarrassing when you KNOW that boy is barely out of high school and you have to say, “Hold your pretty horses, kiddo. I am aunty already. I am 30 and a little out of your age bracket.”
Which becomes even more embarrassing when they reply with the coy, “I like older women”.
Dirty young men!
Oh hell, men are dirty no matter what age.
Otto: Aunty! Hahah! Ok you made a fair point. We *are* dirty no matter the age.
“Auntiness” like “Dirty old man” is a social status impose by others.
Both are behavioural, there are set of rules
But seriously what do you say to some college kid who wants to buy you a drink, when you know full well that you could have babysat him and his brother in your teens! I find it so embarrassing whenever some 19 yr old asks for my number or ask for name or whatever… It reminds me that I am not THAT YOUNG anymore.
Cannot play-play anymore
Lupin: Yeah behavioural first, followed by appearance.
Otto: I guess there’s a double-standard here. Men can “play-play” much longer than a woman can.
Erm, Mr. Ooi… I think men and women are equals. A man who “play-play” when he looks like apot belly pig with bald head is just sad looking. The only difference between women and men in this case is – women smart enough to know when to quit the circuit. Or appear quite sad, with long hair, saggy tits and skirt borrowed from daughter look.
Hey she can stand next to the pot bellied bald man. Maybe they’ll go home together if no young one wants them? *smirks*
Otto: ok if you put it that way, dirty old anything is just pathetic then.
I agree with the comments saying that you look young, so people probably wouldn’t guess you are 32 hence you wouldn’t look like a dirty old man. but there definitely ARE the guys in clubs that do look like dirty old men. you know the ones; the guys who look in their 40s standing around checking out all the 19-year-olds.
I am 22 and I personally really like older guys, I always have. When I was 18 or 19 i dated some ‘dirty old men’ that were well into their twenties. So I really wouldn’t have a problem with dating a guy your age. a lot of other girls probably think like me as well
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