A child with a defect: what would you do?
A couple in Penrith, New South Wales, the Suttons murdered their 28 year old son who was born with severe defects - “Matthew had intellectual disabilities, and had been born with no eyes and part of his face missing, but he could hear, and sound was his link to the outside world.” The story does not say whether he was mute as well but it is safe to assume so from the phrasing above.
From the story:
[Matthew] had suffered chronic, painful ear infections and needed an operation which would have made him deaf for three months, if not permanently.
Mrs Sutton told the inquest in July 2005 that she believed her son would have had no quality of life after the operation.
Rather than see their son deprived of his last remaining stimuli besides touch, they’d decided to end his life rather than to see him suffer, at least in their point of view anyway.
More at We killed Matthew: parents - National - smh.com.au
What would you do?
A couple of interesting questions are raised:
- if pre-natal checks reveal that your child has defects, would you abort it or strongly encourage your partner to abort it?
- if you view physical and mental completeness as the only way to live, would it tear at your heart if your child is “incomplete”?
- if due to unforeseen circumstances, like in Matthew’s case, that you would have to make a decision that will save your child’s life but disable him even further, would you do it?
My answers to the questions above:
- Yes.
- Yes.
- I don’t know.
#3 is particularly hard to answer. Also, if the child has a sound mind and had requested to be euthanised, it’d be very hard for me to refuse him. In Matthew’s case, he was also mentally disabled and his parents had presumably made the decision for him.
The law is clear in this case. Even if euthanisation was legal, Matthew never asked to be killed. So this is murder and it is wrong in the eyes of the law. But what about the parents’ compassion for their child? Is that wrong too? Or was it misguided compassion?
Be like “Gattaca”?
In the movie “Gattaca“, parents of the future can alter and modify the genes of their babies before they were born. If you had the means to do it, why not right? In the movie, two new classes of people were created: those who were perfected, and those who were born “natural”. Those who were perfected are guaranteed the best jobs and social positions.
If the technology is available now and you can afford it, would you do it if it meant that your child would not inherit your diseases and defects? And literally be a cut above the rest?
What about stem cells?
If you can abort a foetus simply because you know that it would be born with defects, what would your view be about harvesting aborted foetuses, or even creating foetuses to be destroyed for their stem cells?
The question then becomes “how do you value a life?” Afterall, pro-lifers would argue that a foetus is alive even though it has no conscience. If you can discard a foetus because it’s imperfect, then why not create foetuses for their stem cells that can help in the research to improve the length and quality of life for all mankind? No one is really harmed, and there’s everything to be gained isn’t it?
The Answer?
As you can see, I’ve posed a lot of questions here. The truth is: there are no easy answers. As medicine advances, these questions will pop up even more than they are now. As an individual, what would you do?
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16 Responses to “A child with a defect: what would you do?”
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Sep 27 2006 / 7:55 pm
In regards to your moral questions, I’d give the same answers as you have.
I think with ‘would you or wouldn’t you’ cases like this, the majority of people would do everything in their power to have a normal child. However, because there’s such a small minority who will ever have to go through that kind of self-questioning and doubting, many give their answer along the lines of, ‘Anyone who would kill their child because they’re not “perfect” is a monster”.
It’s the old ‘The disabled can live a full life’ argument. I know I must sound like an awful human being right now, but I believe the rights of the parent come before the rights of the unborn child.
And that’s all I have to say on that
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Sep 27 2006 / 8:00 pm
We have a close friend who is born with hereditary eye cancer. He is legally blind, and requires extremely thick glasses to even make out a blurb.Obviously he cannot read nor drive, and he watches tv with his nose literally two inches away.
Not knowing much about his defect, he proceeded to reproduce, and his son ended up being the youngest person in the UK to be diagnosed with cancer. The adorable little boy is now 4, and can see with help of powerful glasses.
As much as he and his wife love kids and want to have half a dozen of them, they do not want another child with the same defect, and for that reason had gone through numerous abortions as soon as the foetus was old enough to be tested for cancer.
In this case, their time is running out fast (she is approaching 35) but yet they refuse to have another child with the same defect, and continued trying, hoping for a miracle that one of the foetus will not be infected. It is sometimes too painful to watch your offspring go through that much pain.
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Sep 27 2006 / 8:13 pm
You do ask the tough questions here. It is a very interesting topic and there are no easy answers. As I have never had a child of my own nor ever been pregnant it’s easy to say what I THINK I would do, but hard to know what I would actually do given the circumstances.
Euthanasia and abortion are two of the biggest on-going debates and are constantly in the opinion section of the paper. personally, I am pro-choice. if someone’s quality of life is extremely poor, wouldn’t you rather them not live than continue to suffer and live an extremely poor-quality life? I also think there are situations where abortion is the best option.
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Sep 27 2006 / 11:18 pm
these questions boggle me as I read them. I can’t bring myself to come up with a definite yes or no.
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Sep 27 2006 / 11:24 pm
mrs sutton was just being a sensible parent, IMO. i can understand her logic.
my answers to your 3 questions above would be:
yes, yes and depending on the circumstances.if after we let the child go through the procedures or whatever it is, will the child be able to live life independently? because i have to also think when i’m gone, who’ll take care of her/him, y’know? i do not want the child to be a burden to some one else. they may not be able to give the child the same level of love and care as if it were to come from me, the mother. what if they were to treat my child badly? who would help him/her then as i’m not around to protect her anymore?
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Sep 28 2006 / 3:49 am
I think we should never pro-create in the first place. No sense in bringing an(other) innocent child into this evil world eh? I love kids so much! But not enough, it seems =p
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Sep 28 2006 / 8:28 am
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Sep 28 2006 / 10:30 am
I agree and my answer would be the same as yours.
However, even if the parents are damn rich, who would know how the child would be treated after they are gone? Who can say that they are unhappy or happy? Momentary laughter or smiles doesn’t mean that they are happy. Would the child be able to understand what’s going on, what’s going to happen etc.?
There was an article in SG Straits Times a few days ago on a father commiting suicide as no nursing home’s willing to take care of his disabled adult son.
It’s easy to say but does anyone really understand what those disabled people feel and what their parents feel?
hiaz….
As can be seen, I’m all for aborting an imperfect foetus and all for euthanasia for the right reasons.
Stem cells: I dun approve of creating foetuses just for their stem cells for research purpose. Give me a better reason…
Sourrain: have they considered adoption instead?
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Sep 28 2006 / 2:26 pm
An: I’m with you. if I couldn’t have healthy children then I’d rather adopt than go through the pain of having to repeated have abortions. apart from physically not being good for the mother. psychologically a mother can have strong bonds with the foetus from as early as the first month. As they can feel the foetus’ personality through chemical mood swings.
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Sep 28 2006 / 5:40 pm
Years ago some family friends of ours brought a disabled child into the world. This was before you could test to see if the child had any defects through ultrasound, so they didn’t know until the child was born. This child had a very severe case of Down Syndrome and never learned to talk. They tried to look after him for a while, but as he grew older it just got too much and they had to give him up. My mother always said they never got over giving up that child, but he was so severely disabled, they had to put him in a home; he just couldn’t live with a normal family. so i guess the question is; if she had known how disabled that child would be, would she have had an abortion? That child is now well and truly grown-up but living a sub-quality life in a home.
Also about sourrain’s story - I agree with mooiness, there probably isnt a high chance genetically that they will have a “normal” child. and also, it couldn’t possibly be good for your body to have so many abortions, not to mention the psychological impact. wouldn’t that make it harder to conceive and bring a child to full term? -
Sep 28 2006 / 8:00 pm
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Nov 09 2006 / 8:35 pm
I read BM’s blog sometimes and just visited your blog for the first time today. My first two answers would be yes and the third would be it depends. As most readers and yourself, I think the first question would be whether the person is capable of making a decision. If he or she can, then there is nothing more to debate. If they can’t, my answer would be no. It would be reasonable to assume that unless the disabled person is still very young and not mature enough to decide for themselves, the handicap must be severe. What quality of life would he or she have subsequently?
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Nov 10 2006 / 12:30 am
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Nov 10 2006 / 10:44 am
I think it is interesting that you indirectly drew attention the emotional factor involved for the parents. I was told by a doctor that it is really hard for parents to actually consent to “pull the plug” even if they are legally allowed to, for instance in cases where the child is a vegetable (which is more extreme than just having defects).
He told me this anecdote where the parents were really poor and their child was a vegetable. The fees were exorbitant and the dad actually hinted to the doctor in charge of the department that it was alright to let the kid go. The message was conveyed carefully in terms of don’t go all the way out to save this kid. And when the kid finally passed away, the father thanked the doctor.
Gattaca: I really hope that I would not be alive long enough to see this happen. If I was, I would choose not to reproduce. Under circumstances if I really had to, my child will be engineered. To me, the least I can do is to ensure that my child is not unfairly disadvantaged because of my (what I perceive to be selfish) attempt to prove a point or to strive for idealism.
Stem cells: I tend to take a more practical stance. If aborted, yes, might as well use them for research. However, to “manufacture” foetus for such purposes is something that I cannot stomach. Yet human nature is such that if the former is allowed, it is highly likely that we will end up abusing the law and the latter will result as well. It’s like the controversial issue of cloning and life will be a mere commodity.
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Nov 10 2006 / 11:05 am
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