Why don’t Aussie girls date Asian men?
because he snagged a white woman
Got your attention? The title is taken from Sam de Brito’s post on his SMH blog “All Men Are Liars“.
With such a provocative title, his post was bound to get a load of comments. At last count, there were 425, mostly from Asian males and Anglo females as expected. It took me an hour to wade through the first 300 or so. If you want to go and read the post and the comments first, go ahead. We’ll wait for you.
The rest of you, follow me …
Let’s get a few facts out of the way to set the mood right for this post:
- Yes, I know Asian-Australians are “Aussies” too but in this context, it will mean its traditional connotation of white Anglo-Saxons. And Asian will mean “East Asian” or yellow-skinned Asians, and yes I know Asia is a big place with many different-coloured people.
- I’ve never dated an Aussie girl but I would like to. Having said that, I don’t resent the fact that it’s harder for me as an Asian guy to date a white girl, than it is for an Asian girl to date a white man.
- And generally, I don’t “aim” for Aussie, Asian or whatever. I do aim for a nice and caring person. Date the person, not the race right?
To answer the question in the title, I will explain it from my point of view. To me, there are two big aspects as to why you wouldn’t see that many Asian male and Aussie female pairings: cultural, and physical.
Cultural
As a Chinese person, I am very family-centric. My family will always come first before anyone else. This thinking guides a lot of my behaviour which some Aussies probably wouldn’t understand. And when there’s no cultural connection, it’s that much harder to make an emotional connection.
However being family-centric is also a reason why I get along with Italians and Greeks, and to a certain extent, the Irish famously. In a way, our families behave very much the same. Unfortunately, all the nice Italian/Greek/Irish girls that I’ve met were never available.
In some of the comments, Anglo girls bemoan that they would like to date an Asian guy but they never get approached by them. Again, this is a cultural thing. Aussie men are more gung-ho and more willing to stick their neck out in a bar or club situation. Make a fool of yourself? Who cares!? However, Asian men don’t want to “lose face”.
Most times I don’t approach a strange girl (any girl, not just Aussies) unless I already know her and there’s a spark. This commenter echoed my sentiments.
I’m a Korean and my girlfriend is Anglo. I would absolutely approach white girls if I got to know one in a work/educational/recreational environment, but to be honest I probably wouldn’t try to pick one up in a bar scene where I would be entering the fray with no idea what she was like, and vice versa.
Why? Well I guess due to the rarity of mixed race couples where the male is Asian and the girl is Anglo, I’ve started to assume that white girls wouldn’t be interested in me, and would bar me from the get go. As I said, if I got to know a white girl first in one of the aforementioned settings and I thought there was a bit of a spark, nothing would stop me from having a go, but I wouldn’t approach one at random in a pub.
Tofuloaf at October 17, 2006 10:40 AM
Physical
All women would like their men taller and bigger. Asian men are generally smaller and shorter, sometimes too small or too short for a typical Aussie girl. I’m 5’4″ (164cm) and 60kgs. Therefore, the pool of white women for me to potentially date is that much more limited.
No point crying about it, it’s reality. Just like how most men would prefer a woman with a curvy body, there’s nothing wrong with having physical preferences.
In the comments, there are Anglo women who proclaim that they prefer Caucasian, rather than Asian features in a man. This is the same for Asian women who’d date Anglo men exclusively. Again, it’s a preference rather than a racial thing.
There was also the obligatory mention of penis sizes in the comments. Yes we are smaller, but we can still rock the boat quite well thank you very much.
Conclusion
In general it is true that the majority of Aussie women would date within their own cultural background, but that is true for people of all other cultures in this country. One tends to stick with what one knows and feels comfortable with.
in “The Dragon”
However there are many exceptions like the sons of Bing Lee of the electronics chain in NSW, and prominent Sydney neurosurgeon Charlie Teo. In my family alone, there is one male cousin who’s only ever dated white girls, and another about to marry one.
Personally I don’t think of it along racial or cultural terms at all. It’s all highly superficial and preference-based anyway. Even if the Asian guy is as ocker as they come, that doesn’t necessarily make it easier for him to snag an Aussie girl if she prefers a white fella physically.
So no, I don’t stress too much over how come I don’t get to date a white girl. Instead, I stress over how come I don’t get to date a girl, any girl at all! 
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I totally agree with your analysis on the Cultural ‘reason’ or difference. Being family-centric, lots of decisions made just don’t make sense to an Aussie partner.
The answer is here!!!
wohahahaha!
Well to be fair, I’ve never seen an Asian guy chatting up an Aussie girl.
Oh trust me, it’s hard. I am going to segregate my response into two sections, as I am fangrrl no.1 and also anal:
Culturally
I sometimes wish bacon’s family values were asian.It is so hard understanding that to have a meal together as a family, advance booking with the clan of up to 2 months is required.And the parents/outlaws do NOT visit us unless invited/gave advance notice.Can you imagine needing to wait for mommy to invite you before you can savour her homemade soup!??!?!
Heck, even borrowing £5 requires prompt return of the cash – if the same happens in my family,I think I will be turning over my whole salary to mom for a year.And dinners; even family dinners, are dutch – daddy will not pay for your meal, if you cannot afford it, don’t come.
And when I go over to visit, I am not allowed to go/make appointment during dinner time – Ok if its after 8 as they would finish their dinner by then. If I was going over to visit my parents, the first thing they would say is do i want to join them for dinner, and if I don’t WHY NOT?
WAHLAU
Physically
Yes I agree, physical features ARE important. BUT, find me a typically asian man that don’t want a super skinny,petite with long hair girl (moo is not allowed to take part!).I am considered too huge,too loud,too un-girly.
And like most girls, I am ashamed to say that yes, I do prefer men to be bigger than me , BUT I have gone out with men smaller than me before.Proven fact;it is easier to be bear-hugged. It is jsut a preference that I am willing to throw away if met with the right person.
And whoever that said asian men are ‘small in size’ obviously had not had an asian man before- Just because they are generalyl shorter than caucasians does not MEAN that everything else is small!
hehe.
I like white chicks. And Asian chicks. And African chicks. And Lebanesse chicks. And Japanesse chicks. And Korean chicks. And Jewish chicks. And Malaysian chicks. And Indo chicks. Remember ! No Discrimination Policy !
i know what u mean. i come from a university in the US that has an asian majority, ive been here a year and i think ive seen only 2 whitegirl-asianboy pairing. and one was because they were both french.
on an unrelated note: im 172cm and im dating and asian boy.
Personally I never look at race, although I’m ashamed to say that my parents are the kind that have a say about that. I guess it’s cultural differences and what not but I can’t understand or agree with it.
Although, not until recently, I’ve never really really considered dating white guys because I always had the idea that I would never really be appealing to them, so immediately I just don’t get attracted to them. Silly and quite out of point, I know, but for some reason. That’s always been to the case. Think it could be self esteem. Hrm…
But thank goodness that’s over! And btw loads of men in my family have married anglos.
Loads of women too.
Su: culture is a big deal isn’t it? If a person doesn’t know how we tick, then he or she probably won’t be a good bf/gf.
Snowflake: I know about that video. Have blogged about it previously, see the related posts below.
Yvonne: that’s what I was getting at in the “Culture” section above. Most Asian men typically won’t approach Anglo women for a variety of reasons.
fangrrl no. 1: why you don’t let me take part!? Hahah. His family may not be culturally open-minded or similar, but at least he is right? And thanks for sticking up for us in the “size” dept.
herman: yeah yeah why limit ourselves to one menu when it’s a buffet? Heh.
V: it’s a world-wide phenom. But unlike some Asian men who get all worked up about it, and also about “white men taking our women”, I prefer to focus my efforts elsewhere.
mae: yeah if you open up your mind (heart?), the choices and opportunities in the dating department would be so much bigger. So congrats on having done so!
Oh what coincidence, I read Sam’s post on that yesterday too. I second the family value factor. Most Asian parents expect their children to take care of them when they are old, and they fear a clash or conflict of culture between themselves and their daughter-in-laws. In overall, I’d still go after Asian girls, but I wouldn’t mind having a Caucasian as my girlfriend either… If only I have the guts to do so…
did i mention I am malaysian chinese and my last girlfriend is a Finn? she’s 5’6″ and I’m 5’10″ and heck i still feel short around here.
I am an anglo girl and i have never dated an asian guy but I wouldn’t rule it out. I don’t have a typical ‘look’ that I go for when it comes to guys; I have been attracted to very fair (blonde, blue eyed) guys, black guys, asian guys, italian/greek guys, you name it. there are attractive people of every race (and people that you will have a connection with, of course). I particularly find half-asian or eurasian guys attractive. I don’t know why there is just something about them!
when I say I would date an asian guy, I would probably prefer to date an asian guy that was raised in a western society than one who was raised in Asia due to cultural differences.
I also know numerous asian guy/anglo girl couples (although the guys have all been raised here and act pretty much like aussies).
so yeah, don’t rule out dating an aussie girl, maybe one day you will meet the aussie girl of your dreams!!
ian: if you don’t view them as “non-Asian” or whatever, you’d realise that girls are girls – so go for it! Don’t be afraid of them. Even tho I’ve tried myself and failed a few times.
ront: go away and allow me to seethe with anger.
girlstar7: I get what you mean about Asian guys who grew up here as opposed to those who aren’t. Mind you there are some who cling on to the “old” ways even though they’ve spend their entire lives here.
As for Eurasian guys, well you are not the only girl who goes crazy for them. I like Eurasian girls too. Woohoo!
And no I don’t rule out anything, I have a very open mind!
on a more serious note, just have to look past the race difference…not everyone’s the same.
by the way…5’4″ you??!?!? did i read that correctly? sure doesnt look that way in the pictures.
and correction on last comment…think she’s 5’4″ or is it 5’5″
ront: yes I’m only 5’4″. Now stfu.
i dont know many guys who is 5’4″….hehehe….full grown male that is…then again……Deng Xiao Ping is not exactly tall either…….so you’re among giants.
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Bro! 1st, I want you to know that although I was born in France and raised in the U.S.A. I do not look Europian. Women of different races have told me that I am a charming and attractive Asian guy, so I really don’t have any problems approaching any women, right? The truth is we all do. Yes! all of us men. Your looks cannot matter if you don’t have any GUTS! O.K? Anglo women do date Asian men. These women are human beings and they have needs. So, it’s possible they could be attracted to Asian men. You have got to believe me, and in yourself. It’s the beautiful Blondes with those nice curves that you are after. It’s those types that turn us down more often then most. My reason is simple, and you’ll believe there is some truth to it. Here it is: Many men are DOGZ + there are few beautiful Blondes = YOU, shit out of luck! Is this not true, if you never try??? So, if you still want a beautiful Blondie, you have got to make yourself more attractive to them, and you have got to run the numbers. This means that you will have to ask out every blondie you are attracted to, anywhere you may find them. You never know when she’s gonna say “yes”. As for myself, Blondes are KOOL, but I’m an equal opportunity player. Thanks for reading my 2 cents.
sal: thanks for your thoughts. I’m in agreement with you – especially the part about going after ALL kinds of women.
Okay, Here’s the deal, as I’ve told everyone who’s interested in this topic. We Asian men must create our own positive perceptions of ourselves in which white women or any other women will flock to. The media has catapulted white men into the desireable man, they are seen as action men, WHITE MEN DO THINGS AND ARE SOMETHING THAT OTHER WOMEN WANT TO BE WITH! Who controls the media? Mostly white males. When an Asian man approaches a lady at a bar, he is without virtually any positive preconceived notions of who he, so before he even gets there, there’s two strikes against him, whereas a white male, has the benefit of a prefabricated deluxe package of positive traits. Before he even approaches, the lady, he’s ahead of the count.
White women who don’t date outside of their race are very conservative, much like someone who would like to go to Paris, but not Nepal or Africa, because it’s just too exotic and wild. Asian women are like this, too, but white men have managed to not turn Asian women into courageous thrill seekers, but created a perception that White men dating Asian women is not strange or uncommon at all. There for it is a very regular, ordinary thing to do for an Asian women to date a white man. There’s no contraversy, stigma at all. Well, I’ve armed you with some powerful information, I hope you can use it to your advantage.
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dl: great ideas there man! thanks for your input.
ok, i admit i’m fascinated with this whole ‘white chicks + asian guys’ thing. most of the comments here did not do anything to help the asian men out in terms of self image. so here are a few things to prep yourself before you approach that hot blonde girl (politically incorrect and generalised but hey, if it works, it works!):
1) a high percentage of asian-australian males are well educated with university education and a good paying or at least comfortable office job.
2) most of these white blokes are probably plumbers, mechies, brickies etc etc and you’re probably an employer of one of them. some of these blokes may be the ones who bullied you at school…revenge is sweet.
3) you are probably business conscious and already started your own business if not planning to start your own business.
4) your culture and traditions are advantages, women find ‘exotic’ rituals interesting, fascinating and rich, so if you’re so aussie that you never knew about your heritage, i guess its time to ask grandma! anyway, women are followers of trends, right now, being ethnic is the IN thing.
5) our penis sizes are not small…when erect. we are like transformers! it begins small but it grows like a mofo! we’re talented sons of bitches!
6) we are hairless beings…and being hairless is IN. well, for me, i’ve got the advantage of having a hairless body but nice facial growth.
7) don’t underestimate white women, a lot of them are open minded nowadays. white chicks who have been to university and have been educated are more aware and in tune with different races and accept other cultures easily. shit, being amongst all those overseas students makes it hard to ignore!
good luck and stay yellow! peace out.
yellafella: heheh very politically incorrect indeed! but you do make some good points, especially about those who are more educated, are also the more open-minded.
oh yeah. something else (again, politically incorrect and generalisation!). there’s nothing special about white chicks anyway so what’s the fuss? [Mooiness says: edited, a bit over the top here
] asianwomen are [deleted] also but they’re harder to please, they want the package – good job, good looking, sweet ride, fashionable, money etc etc. white chicks put out just because u’re cute or just because u’re funny. there u go…yellow fellas should have confidence that they’ll be able to score a white chick if they have the right personality or look…they don’t even care if u have money!:) just go to the gym and work on that body, wear tight t’s around the club/pub/bar and u’ll be right mate! 
good luck.
Im an asian guy, born and raised in the US, also my parents are born and raised in the US, and even the most rare, my grandparents born and raised in the US but still have ‘old’ cultural values but also in tuned with US cultures and values, so pretty much (politically incorrect) im “white-washed” per-say, but yet i tend to idenitify with the other asian cultures its still hard for me to get a caucasian girl. Media plays a huge role on how ‘beauty’ is suppose to look like. I mean its hard to explain why i perfer white women than asian women..but yet i find white women even more attractive in asian culture clothing…it doesnt make sense?? For me both physical features and personality is a plus, but asian women tend to not have either or maybe lacks one of them. I just find white women more attractive than any other ‘race’ of people, i dont know though lol, its like now i have something in common with other asian guys lol, no offense…but i also believe cultural values play a role too, such as stereotypcially speaking, asian families are together, asians are grown to respect and have full respect, kinda like that respect/honor thing you see in martial art movies, also to be quiet and not out spoken, and also get the grades….but if you go deeper into how stereotypical asian families run, its usally asian guys are never to marry out of their race, usually for the mothers sake, example the mother would love to see their son bring home an an asian girl..back in the day, mothers would not allow their daughters to bring home a white male to their house as portrayed in the joy luck club……but its very accpeted for an asian mother to encourage her daughter to date an white guy, but not encouraging his son to find a white girl. With this type of cultural mentality, theres a slim chance of the asian guy dating a white girl, if the asian girl has already cancled the option for another asian guy. So it boils down to family itself. if you think about it, its pretty twisted lol. I’m 5′ 11′ anyways thats my 2 cents in this whole asian-white marriages/dating…mostly and commonly WM and AF
jon: thanks for the very interesting point of the view! I can understand your dilemma – due to your background and where and how you grew up, you are culturally more “white” so it’s only natural that you find white women more attractive. The Western media has a big bias towards “white” female beauty. And yes, a very high proportion of Asian+Anglo relationships consist of an Asian female and a Caucasian male.
Having said all that, media portrayal and societal attitudes are slowly changing. In the mean time, I’m not gonna get hung up about not getting a white woman or whatever. There’s a whole world of NON-white women out there.
I am dating an Asian guy, he is Spanish-Filipino. He has treated me better than any guy i have gone out with. I love him to bits. I found this blog interesting. His family does come first and i don’t mind that as it shows he has family values which is one of the traits i find attractive about him.
Tash: Thanks for dropping by and for your “side” of the story! It’s great that you found yourself a great guy.
Cool. Thanks for leaving a reply to my comment. I was searching for ‘things to know about Asian men’ and your site came up (well, this blog). I wanted to know more about my guy like his Asian culture and other things. I haven’t met his parents yet. I’ve asked him what his mum would think of me and he has said that the only thing she will ask me is if i love her son & of course i do & so she will be happy. I’m interested to read your other blogs and see what new ones you put on. By the way Jason Scott-Lee is hot!!
Tash: a lot of Asian parents are not as stereotypically traditional as ppl think. The key thing is manners and respect. If in doubt, behave like how your boyfriend behaves in front of his parents and you’d be fine.
I agree with you in that Italians/Greeks – continental/mediteranean Europeans are more like Chinese than Anglo Australians. Like you I’ve often gotten along with mainland Europeans more than the ones with English backgrounds. It is about different values.
Billie: yeah sharing of common values is vital for a relationship to work out in the long term.
unfortunetly, over here on the west coast of the united states, mostly bay area, its reallly rare to see a asian man and asian woman relationship. actually i dont even see that at all anymore. See i think the reasons are that theres this asian on asian “clashing” between both genders is that we are just sick of each other…and both genders need and want different things. for me growing up where there is mostly asians, whites, and latinos, i find beauty outside of my “race” i used to have a problem with asian girls going for white guys, now i dont even bother, its just another normal thing you see, but an asian guy and white woman, you will see it but very rare. see the problem is asian girls have already gotten over us (asian guys) while us asian guys are still complaining about “oh why are white guys taking our women” yeah its a question that still remains a mystery. Dating asians is quiet boring for me, theres no connection despite similiar cultural values, etc…thats just a turn off, but anyways yeah
jon: that’s an interesting perspective, and you are right about the “gotten over us” bit. I don’t begrudge the fact that there are more Asian women + white men pairings than the other way around. There’s plenty of other women around as you’ve discovered yourself.
Hi. Well I had a wonderful week with my boyfriend. We went to Northbridge Chinese Restaurant for Yum Cha. That was so cool. They talked really fast(well i thought so) so i looked at my boyf to pick from the trolley. It was a little bit of a turn on to watch him use chopsticks. I felt a little bit nervous thinking i might look like a bit of a dork first time trying Yum Cha and having to use a fork & spoon. I loooove miso soup and pork buns & tempura prawns. We went to Seizan Japanese Restaurant for teppanyaki but when i rang up to book for 2 i didn’t realise i had to say for teppanyaki, i thought it was all in Japanese restaurants. We had a nice little table. i tried saki – wow! Rene(my boyf) calls it rocket fuel.it wasn’t for me. Then on his last night we went to Midori Japanese restaurant for teppanyaki.yay! it was sooo cool. The cook is quite amazing and at the end he did ‘thank you and good night’ upside down on the hot cooking plate using a salt shaker. The meal was very delicious. I loved every minute of his time here. Rene showered me with gifts which was unbelievably sweet of him. I’ve never felt so spoilt. I’m glad i got to know him when we first started chatting & i saw him for who he is & that is my soul mate & true love.
Also thank you again for the names of restaurants & stores to visit. I’d recommend Midori Japanese Restaurant to anyone, it was a terrific place.
Tash: good to know that you’ve found your soul mate.
And great to know that your little Asian culinary adventure was fun. Just remember next time that not all Japanese restaurants do teppanyaki, and that the Japanese food we get here in Oz is also a small subset of what you can get in Japan. Chinese food on the other hand is very well represented.
The answer to your question is simple: too racist or simply the family may not be very accepting. A white woman in the US tried to marry a Japanese assistant professor. Although he was making a lot more than any member of the young lady’s family, they consider it marrying down.
Chell: [sorry, misread your comment - have edited my comment to reflect this though the gist of it still holds true] there are racists in all societies and you are generalising Caucasian attitudes about Asian people – your theory is based on just one scenario.
well not being a typical white australian female,i have found it hard to find a asian male to date,maybe they find us scary,who knows,but when i have dated asian males i would never go back to caucasian,i feel less intimidated and more relaxed around asian men,they appreciate western women and treat us with respect,and have higher standards of personal grooming,so when the caucasasian male population realises this,the staring and the racist attitudes may subside,its sad cos we are all the same colour on the inside.
Emma: judging by the search terms that land ppl onto this post, I’d say that women like you are very much in demand.
Asian men who may be scared off by you would probably be scared by self-confident and non-submissive women of all kind, not just white. Their loss.
Best of luck in your dating endeavours. And you are right, we are all the same under the skin.
I once know a American born and raised chinese guy that swore to never ever date white girls. Heck, he wouldn’t even befriend white people, which was absolutely shocking as he grew up in CA with around 80% population who are Anglo saxons!
I think he just don’t have the guts to handle independent women. Well, tough luck on him as submissive asian chicks are fast running out of supply…
nasilemak: true that – I find independent women more fascinating and interesting. I don’t like hearing my own thoughts echo back.
Well, my common is gonna be quite general. First of all i wanna say, i think its a lot diferent in europe, where a lot of asian guys are adopted. I was raised and live in denmark, was adopted from korea, and i have never ever dated an asian girl.. And i have never felt this problem being able to date a white girl. hmm, i think a lot of the issue, also she be founded in some fundamental issues that exsist in US as a country..
Den: interesting insight – thanks! I agree that a large part of it is due to cultural upbringing. How well two people connect with each other most times depend on how they can connect culturally and emotionally. But then you’d still have to contend with physical preferences.
nice site and nice discussion , first impression is , wow man, you live in Australia , a place where the majority is arian one might think u are tired of dating native girls
I think that over the past 10-15 years they are trying to globalize our physical attraction patterns , too ! Blame the Industry , Hollywood, publicity , … less variation ,more sales …ABC of capitalism!
It`s like we`ve all turned into stupid french or italian fashion designers based in London hiring pale russian models.
I like them all, but Ive always had the best luck with blondies, since im the `italian` type I guess , im in Argentina which is -like Australia- a country of inmigrants too , mainly from mediterranean europe , but also from easter europe , poland etc but I`ve lived in different places too since I was a kid , and I experienced that was it is extremely beautiful in one place , it is a dime a dozen in another , just go to Brasil which is a bus ride from here, and things are different from here. There are many , many Asians here too , but they never interact with locals , they`re always within their own tribe, a real pitty. My 2cents
Electrico: thanks for the thoughts! I think that Western media/entertainment, in particular American has shaped attitudes regarding what is beautiful. Unfortunately, this tends to be the anglo-caucasian look.
As for the Asians who only mingle with themselves when the world is full of different cultures and colours – they are missing out.
Hey buddy,
I’m a young 25 years old Asian migrant living in Sydney and I must say I went through a roller-coaster ride of emotion on this issue.
Let me tell you why. I came into this country 5 years ago to study and then work. At work, I have female white co-workers (within my age group) who have these “racist” vibe in them and I’ve come to realise that they live in a white area and only have white friends. Many such Aussies think Australia is the best (too nationalistic to open to the world) and have a false sense of self-confidence.
I went into the dating scene, trying Speed Dating, Online Dating, etc. I’ve quite a courageous nature so I threw myself into the deep sea and see how it goes.
- Speed Dating (Fast Impressions) – never got a match because these girls have high expectations (which is why they are still single in the first place)
- Online Dating (RSVP.com) – they have too many men to choose from and a long unrealistic shopping list. Most are not open-minded enough to try an Asian
- Exclusive dating service – was told that the Caucasian girls in my age group prefer Caucasian guys. It doesn’t get more racist than that, physical attributes was not factored in.
I did get to meet some decent people out of both avenues though. Mostly Asian, a Canadian white and an Europian white girl. Aussie white girl is still zero for now.
I know racism really well and I’m still positive as anyone will have something that others do not like. So I can’t be too bothered by narrow-minded people.
Many Aussies are not comfortable talking about these issues and some even avoid it at best. Sometimes I wished I was in some liberal European country or even back at home but I’ve grown to realise that I need to stick to my principles and values (as the problem does not lie in me) and meet the right kind of people.
I am going out with a French girl next week and I met her through a social group. Things are getting better here.
Cheers,
WhatFish