Why don’t Aussie girls date Asian men?
because he snagged a white woman
Got your attention? The title is taken from Sam de Brito’s post on his SMH blog “All Men Are Liars“.
With such a provocative title, his post was bound to get a load of comments. At last count, there were 425, mostly from Asian males and Anglo females as expected. It took me an hour to wade through the first 300 or so. If you want to go and read the post and the comments first, go ahead. We’ll wait for you.
The rest of you, follow me …
Let’s get a few facts out of the way to set the mood right for this post:
- Yes, I know Asian-Australians are “Aussies” too but in this context, it will mean its traditional connotation of white Anglo-Saxons. And Asian will mean “East Asian” or yellow-skinned Asians, and yes I know Asia is a big place with many different-coloured people.
- I’ve never dated an Aussie girl but I would like to. Having said that, I don’t resent the fact that it’s harder for me as an Asian guy to date a white girl, than it is for an Asian girl to date a white man.
- And generally, I don’t “aim” for Aussie, Asian or whatever. I do aim for a nice and caring person. Date the person, not the race right?
To answer the question in the title, I will explain it from my point of view. To me, there are two big aspects as to why you wouldn’t see that many Asian male and Aussie female pairings: cultural, and physical.
Cultural
As a Chinese person, I am very family-centric. My family will always come first before anyone else. This thinking guides a lot of my behaviour which some Aussies probably wouldn’t understand. And when there’s no cultural connection, it’s that much harder to make an emotional connection.
However being family-centric is also a reason why I get along with Italians and Greeks, and to a certain extent, the Irish famously. In a way, our families behave very much the same. Unfortunately, all the nice Italian/Greek/Irish girls that I’ve met were never available.
In some of the comments, Anglo girls bemoan that they would like to date an Asian guy but they never get approached by them. Again, this is a cultural thing. Aussie men are more gung-ho and more willing to stick their neck out in a bar or club situation. Make a fool of yourself? Who cares!? However, Asian men don’t want to “lose face”.
Most times I don’t approach a strange girl (any girl, not just Aussies) unless I already know her and there’s a spark. This commenter echoed my sentiments.
I’m a Korean and my girlfriend is Anglo. I would absolutely approach white girls if I got to know one in a work/educational/recreational environment, but to be honest I probably wouldn’t try to pick one up in a bar scene where I would be entering the fray with no idea what she was like, and vice versa.
Why? Well I guess due to the rarity of mixed race couples where the male is Asian and the girl is Anglo, I’ve started to assume that white girls wouldn’t be interested in me, and would bar me from the get go. As I said, if I got to know a white girl first in one of the aforementioned settings and I thought there was a bit of a spark, nothing would stop me from having a go, but I wouldn’t approach one at random in a pub.
Tofuloaf at October 17, 2006 10:40 AM
Physical
All women would like their men taller and bigger. Asian men are generally smaller and shorter, sometimes too small or too short for a typical Aussie girl. I’m 5’4″ (164cm) and 60kgs. Therefore, the pool of white women for me to potentially date is that much more limited.
No point crying about it, it’s reality. Just like how most men would prefer a woman with a curvy body, there’s nothing wrong with having physical preferences.
In the comments, there are Anglo women who proclaim that they prefer Caucasian, rather than Asian features in a man. This is the same for Asian women who’d date Anglo men exclusively. Again, it’s a preference rather than a racial thing.
There was also the obligatory mention of penis sizes in the comments. Yes we are smaller, but we can still rock the boat quite well thank you very much.
Conclusion
In general it is true that the majority of Aussie women would date within their own cultural background, but that is true for people of all other cultures in this country. One tends to stick with what one knows and feels comfortable with.
in “The Dragon”
However there are many exceptions like the sons of Bing Lee of the electronics chain in NSW, and prominent Sydney neurosurgeon Charlie Teo. In my family alone, there is one male cousin who’s only ever dated white girls, and another about to marry one.
Personally I don’t think of it along racial or cultural terms at all. It’s all highly superficial and preference-based anyway. Even if the Asian guy is as ocker as they come, that doesn’t necessarily make it easier for him to snag an Aussie girl if she prefers a white fella physically.
So no, I don’t stress too much over how come I don’t get to date a white girl. Instead, I stress over how come I don’t get to date a girl, any girl at all! 
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Hey Whatfish – thanks for your comment! It was really insightful.
I understand completely about that vibe that you are describing, those most times I don’t think it’s racism, even though I know it exists and have experienced it.
Personally, I don’t go for a girl of any particular race. I just go for a nice girl, it shouldn’t matter.
Good luck with the French girl! Oh la la!
Hey now rires mate. I do not intend to racialise things either.
I guess my message was to ditch the unconventional methods (online/speed dating) because you get the pickiest singles there (who usually have their issues). But I’m sure the Asian brothers know that since I noticed that I was one of the few Asians in such events.
Stick to social groups where you can interact (get to know them as friends first) and your personality will shine there. Do something about it, get out more and meet “your girl” regardless any race.
WhatFish: exactly! I find that I “work” the best in a group situation where I can mingle. You just have to start me off with the one person in that group and off I go!
Its kinda hard to stick around with Aussie girls in school. Well I admit that I’m the kind that doesn’t like to be rejected or left out. But what really matter is that the topic that you started with some Aussie girls that most of the topic is about my races and my country, and then the conversation just ended as soon as i finished my speech. And that really makes me lose hope because it makes me felt like the girl is losing her interest in me. And then she turn away. I sometime feel sad and hopeless and I think maybe we’re not born to be confident enough to start a conversation with like not well known Aussie girls.
I just started my education in Adelaide this year and I’m quiet interested to meet some Aussie girls and hang around like friends. Because we can learn from each other as we’re from the diffrent country and family background.
All in all, the problem is that we(Asian Guys)don’t know what standard we are in their eyes. At first I though they are freindly and more assertive than we do, but things is just not what I had aspected. Well maybe I was wrong about it. Or maybe, I lost confident easily and become more passive after the girls.
But anyway, If you have any help that you wanna offer, kindly refer to my blog and jus give some comment on my blog. (www.cyrilyong.blogspot.com) thanks.
CyrilY: I think you are probably analysing it too much. Don’t see their race and approach them like how you’d approach Asian girls (am assuming that you are ok mingling with Asian girls). And you are right about just treating them as friends first – don’t think too far ahead.
Also, don’t let interesting Asian girls pass under your radar just because you are trying to know one or two Aussie girls.
Bruce lee isn’t full (asian or)chinese blooded. He is also 1/3 German!.
Thanks Man. I appreciate that.
cj: ah interesting to know! thanks for that!
Hello there,
Fellow Aussie-Asian here….adding my 2 cents on this white hot topic (pardon the pun!)
Frankly, I dont have an issue with interracial relationships if it’s purely based on so called “compatibility” or “love”.
However, I do find it rather annoying/quite sad that some Asian-Australian girls who continually attempt to “dissolve” the issue by saying they respect Asian culture and where they came from but just refuse to date their own men. I once questioned her if a Asian and non-Asian man were near identical career, physical size, aesthetics wise, would they give the Asian bloke a chance…she replied with a simple statement saying that no matter how great the Asian guy is, she refuses to date them. She basically wouldnt accept anything from a single Asian guy and wishes not to know them (on a romantic level). Pretty ironic really when 90% of this girl’s mates (of both genders) are Asian and personally I feel as if her whole persona is quite Asian based.
However, at the end of the day, you must respect freedom and personal choices.
Sorry for being a bit off topic.
Just something else to ponder is that maybe we shall look at the way Asian women were treated in Asian society. Not a hell of a lot of respect, denied a lot of previledges men were bestowed with, treated pretty badly – wife and child beating were OK, polygamy..etc the list goes on…
Will: thanks for your interesting story. I find your friend’s behaviour rather frustrating as well, but it’s probably just physical preferences – she wants white men. Just like how some of us would prefer slim women etc.
As for the historical mistreatment of women, that may explain ppl’s behaviour a generation ago but that doesn’t cut it for the generation now. Especially if they have been brought up in liberal Westernised families.
With regards to the behaviour…despite all this, stereotypes die hard.
I’m a first time visitor to your site, and found this post really intriguing. To each their own.. but as an Anglo girl, I like to think I’m not fussy when it comes to cultures – have dated an Aussie, Italian & Irish lad in my time, and my partner of five years is half Sri Lankan, and I wouldn’t change a thing!
Although I have to say, being 5’8 and er, hardly skinny, I have never attracted any Asian men, myself.
alyndabear: thanks for dropping by and for your thoughts! Being open-minded is definitely the way to go!
The gist of my post was aimed more at Asian guys who seem to worry and get obsessed about dating Anglos, to the point that they may be missing out on a perfectly fine Asian women in front of them.
Regarding your size, I am 5’4″ and I used to date a 5’7″ who was heavier than me – curvy in the right spots. Haha! I think it’s usually women who have a problem with a shorter guy, rather than the other way around. Personally, I think it’s flattering.
“The gist of my post was aimed more at Asian guys who seem to worry and get obsessed about dating Anglos, to the point that they may be missing out on a perfectly fine Asian women in front of them.”
Sorry to barge in, but I think this is somewhat (amongst Asian blokes I know of..) to be a lesser issue than the “Why are Asian women going out with White blokes”.
Amongst everything I’ve said, I reckon it all comes down to physical size. Unfortunately Asian blokes (I’m 1.68m btw, a shade about 5’6″) is that we’re on the undesireable end of the physical scale. Unless you have a killer personality, it’s going to take a bit to win over most women, both Asian and non-Asian.
Will: Of course it takes personality to win over a girl and make a relationship last. That’s a given.
Yes, everyone has physical preferences so it’s up to luck and effort sometimes to find the right match in looks *and* personality.
Worrying about how some girl do not like your height, your race, your looks etc. is pointless. Much better to just move on and look elsewhere.
Plus this short Asian guy (ie. me) do not care why some Asian girls prefer white men. I don’t resent them for that. And I don’t have any problems with being born Asian, though your last paragraph seems to imply that maybe you do.
Not that I do or do not, but perhaps it’s reasonable to assume it all pretty much boils down the physical factor. All I am saying is that it takes much *less* effort if you’re taller/bigger. Perhaps it may even be the key to dating white women, all women.
I’ve also notice even amongst very Westernised Asian women, it seems those who still desire an Asian man seems to be targeting very big Asian blokes (by Asian standards). These Asian men are usually between 175-183cm mark.
Probably to a further extent, if you look amongst inter Asian dating/marriage (no stats to back up though) is that often people from North East Asia (Northern Chinese, Koreans) seem to score highly with other Asian women than those from either Japan or South East Asian. Korean men seem to be very popular amongst Japanese women…again, I’d say physical factor.
er whatever
I’m an Aussie girl
and I love Asian boys
I never think they’re interested in me bahaha
cat: oh you’d be surprised.
oh please,im 5.1 at a push,so dating taller bigger guys just doesnt work for me,ive said it before and will say it again,asian men are a breed apart,in a good way,the way they are brought up,and the fact they feel they have to compete with caucasian males,leads to men who are better groomed and mannered,i have dated a couple of asian men,and i wont go back to caucasian,only problem is finding them,where are you all?
emma: thanks for your point of view! Asian men are around but I think they tend to be in the background and less forward when it comes to picking up women.
Me, I just go out, have fun and talk to people without necessarily looking to pick up.
It is true that aussie girls wont date not only asian but also darker males from India, pakistan etc countries.I have noticed three kind of aussies girls/ladies. The older generation ,the ones who are above 60 have not had much interaction with darker males and they are overtly biased. The woman between 35 to 50 are nice to talk to and they would chat up but when it comes to dating,they wet their pants. if they fix a date , 90% chances are that u would get cancellation a few hours before.These women are covertly biased.
However the younger generation especially between 18 to 30 are more open and dont mind going out with darker men. There is a subconcious complex in women above 35 and they are not attracted to darker men.That is my experience.
Pradeep: that’s an interesting perspective – thanks for that! Though I think this preference for a lighter skin is not just confined to Caucasians. Some Asians also prefer a fairer looking companion.
But if they don’t like you, that’s their loss. There’s nothing wrong with dating within our own races – even if dating a white woman may seem to some Asians to be the international standard for having “made it”.
Asian men are as family-centric as Asian females, but that doesn’t stop your sisters from cross-cultural relationships. One thing all my Asian female friends have told me they like about Western guys is that they give them more autonomy. So, it makes sense that Asian men would be more interested in the Submissive Asiatic female than the independent Anglo-female who would not tollerate such outdated and insecure nonsense.
jimba: agreed about Asian females though not all Asian males desire submissive women.
The thing is its the same in the US, at least in the southwest and east coast, its a tad bit easier in th emiddle or up in northwest, notice I said TAD bit. This is based personal, observation, and other sources.
You also have a lot of asian girls wh oare sellouts and refuse to date or hook up with their own race, soley because of that here in southwest U.S.
Also notice those guys you listed are super financially weathly. Not much you can do about it at all just hope.
Mr Anon.: about the sellouts and the wealthy guys who are the exception – true that.
Glad I found this website!
Here in the northeast (New York) it is very very bad. Every asian female that I know has never dated an asian guy nor are they remotely interested. It’s disturbing to say the least. It’s very sad in my opinion.
One thing I have noticed though, all the asian girls I know, and that’s a lot, have no problem having an asian guy be their best friend. I think it allows them to have it both ways. They date white men but feel connected and legit by having asian guy friends.
I’ve expressed my views to some of them, some blow it off and pretend they don’t know what I’m talking about, but a couple have told me it’s true, they talk about it amongst themselves like it’s a secret but don’t acknowledge it publicly…kinda like governments and UFO’s…ya know?
So not sure what you guys could take from this but I figured I’d chime in on this issue.
Now some may ask why I’m still friends with them? Well, perhaps I’m hoping some will find their ways back home and not ignore who and what they really are…
James
Hi James.
Thanks for your input! It’s always great to hear the experience of Asian guys in another part of the world.
Regarding your friends, personally I’d stay friends with them too but I won’t hold out the hope that they’d somehow, someday turn back and date an Asian guy.
What I’d do is go mix around a big variety of people which increases the chance of you meeting someone nice anyway. And as some of the comments here show, there are some white girls who are into Asian men.
Hi Mooiness,
My buddy is asian and he’s actually never dated an asian girl!! He’s married to a white girl and she’s very pretty.
He’s very good looking but even with that, asian girls aren’t interested in him! And you know what? He could care less! He’s “over it”. Happily married now….
I don’t think I’m holding out, perhaps a little bit, I just feel that I am in no man’s land.
I’m asian male who actually likes his culture but I’m very american at the same time. So it would make sense that I “should” be able to find and attract an asian-american female, you would think that would be a perfect fit…
I’ve joked with my friends that we asian males are dealing with a “silent epidemic”…
In any event, thanks for having a website like this, this issue should be exposed more as it seems the only “group” of people that really know what’s going on are asian men.
(because we’re the only ones dealing with it)
It would also be nice if some asian females could come here and talk about this. When I visited California, there were a lot of AF/AM and the AF that I talked to really do not like and associate with the asian females who closed the door on AM’s….
So there does seem to be two groups of asian females, but I fear that the number of AF that don’t abandon their heritage/culture is getting slimmer by the generation….
James: I think you pointed out the key factor and that is location. Cali girls vs NY girls have different attitudes etc. It’s the same over here in Western Australia, there isn’t a problem with us dating Asian girls per se. Perhaps you need to look elsewhere other than NY, or at least a different part of town anyway if you really want an Asian girl?
And like your married friend, I have a cousin who’s only ever dated white girls, and another who’s married one.
I understand the part about being connected culturally. You know what other girls I like: Italians and Irish girls because they share similar Asian family values.
I’d be like your married friend and not fret so much about it though. Just widen your scope a little and enjoy life in the mean time.
Location location location!
Yeah they are quite snooty here. Again it’s sad… the white girls are much more opened minded but they won’t actually role the dice and seriously date an AM. The AF however will give you a look if you try to kick it to them as if they are just simply not interested in you.
One other thing is that I have seen very very pretty AF girls with pretty ugly white guys. No offense to them, but guys that are over weight, and don’t look like they groom. I saw two couples today while having some Dim Sum….
I guess as long as they are white, they lower their standards because he’s white and that’s all that really matters to them…they can tell their mom how they got themselves a white guy….whatever….
I try not to let it bother me too much, I just keep thinking that all these AF have lost their souls in some way…
As for the Irish/Italian thing I am with you on that! My last GF was an italian beauty!! I have yet to date Irish but I would like to give that a shot….
Anyways glad I could get some of this stuff off my chest, I hope more people see this blog and can contribute!!
The key to the mystery of why some (or lots depending on your experience) westernized Asians – male or female – would reject dating their own kind lies in the media portrayals within their respective countries. For too many people, what they see on the tube, magazines, etc., is what they aspire to, emulate or desire.
What DL said in comment #22 is exactly right.
alan: agreed! Having spend my formative years in an Asian country (Malaysia), and then ever since in Australia, I can see that “pro-Western” attitude in amongst a lot of those born and bred here.
That said though, there are all kinds of ppl out there – why focus on those who don’t like Asian males (and/or females)?
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haha, white chicks will be white chicks.
Great blog..just found it. I think maybe Asian men need to be more forward with white chicks and approach them if they like them. I’m half Asian, half white and used to find it hard to “read” Asian guys, to gauge whether they’re interested in you or not. So yeah, Asian guys need to be bolder when it comes to white chicks compared to Asian chicks.
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Tini: thanks for dropping by! I agree with your sentiment though it’s most probably a cultural thing when Asian guys are less brash than Caucasians.
I take offense at you writing that Asian men have smaller penises. What are your sources?
Whoever thinks that Asian women are [more] submissive really needs to get out more. And travel. It’s a myth these days.
VERY interesting topic mate!.
I am a part brown Kiwi, only a little taller than you, and we will not comment on nob size, because number 84 is offended! lol.
I have had Aussie girlfriends, and Chinese ones, AND Japanese ones, as well as just about the entire European map of women too.
And I can tell you the secret mate. Asian guys don’t get Aussie girls for the reasons you list, true enough, but the REAL reason isn’t anything to do with race, and has everything to do with culture.
I got swags and swags of friends, from every race there is, I never dated a girl without being mates with her brothers except once in my 40 years of dating, and I honestly tell you the secret I KNOW about this, because I know what my mates that don’t get the girls, don’t do.
You asian guys don’t date Aussie girls because you are not (culturally) brave enough to ask them. That’s all. It is not looks, or brains or money or nob size.
There you go. If I could spare the time to fly over, I could show you how it is done, would be happy to help you, mate. Nice blokes like yourself have nice girls ALL AROUND THEM waiting, waiting, CRYING OUT for a laugh and feed and a leg-over, and you don’t ask, so you don’t get sport.
If a Maori like me can date a blonde-haired-blue-eyed Aussie girl, don’t fool yourself for a second that RACE is holding you back.
Next time you talk to one of your Asian mates who HAS dated a Aussie, tell him my opinion , and you see. He will laugh and say “Dead right”.
Go ask them, Mooi Mate!.
Kiwi Tigger: thanks for your thoughts. I agree about the cultural aspect, which I’d talked about. I have no problems talking to women of all kind but that may not be the case for all Asian men.
this is stupid…my last 3 girls friends have been from europe…..all caucasian…. russian greek and german and my parents are from hong kong…. u just gotta put ur ass on the line and go and talk to people…..
lets face it. we, asian guys just suck at dating due to our small penises.
I find this whole phenom quite disconcerting and a bit funny. I’m a Chinese american girl in the BAY Area. I see more yellow girls with Nordic partners, so what. If that’s how they please to do things then let ‘em be. I for one am neither jealous nor proud (just a bit irritated at times). Same with every other kind of IR union, really.
I think we are just taking our sweet, sweet time in realizing that if damn near an entire race of people were inferior or unattractive they wouldn’t be around. Don’t buy that white man shit. While he was telling you that his white woman was the precious gem of the earth, he was down in the slave shacks romping around with Negro women, diluting the African blood. Don’t believe me, just take one look at slave-descended Black americans and compare them to their brothers back in the motherland.
Everything you know is BS drummed up by the insecure and the desperate of our past. It just builds on from there, thanks to us. Nowadays, with society very deeply stratified, I can see how some will find mostly [x race] more compatible. That’s fine. but beyond things like your favorite hipster rock band and yuppie Starbucks lattes we’re all extremely alike… people need to realize that, it’d make life much happier. My only advice to anyone is to get over your in/superiority complex and just try to be happy in your own way, as our human race has come this far and you deserve it. Plus, you’d be just that much cooler if you weren’t you know, a self-loathing paranoid racist (or the reverse of self-hate). For those of us not too tied down, that means checking out all the colors, be it yellow, black, brown, white, red, or what have you. Trust me, there are plenty of people out there who can’t wait to bust out and be things that probably will defy your typecasting of them.
Yeah, you’re still gonna be a loser for dating or not dating someone because of race (“Oh, but [x race] is so ugly! WAH WAH WAH!”) Really, get over it.
uh, ok Isi, if we’re all extremely alike, then why are asian women going with white men specifically AND not going with asian men?
Your thoughts contradict the current situation.
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Well I am 183cm (around 6′) tall and around 80 kg. I would say I am a pretty big Asian guy, even bigger than half of the white guys that I know. I also think I behave much like an Aussie than an Asian. Therefore I concluded that the only reason that makes me not being able to date a girl must be because I look ugly as f**k. But after asking many friends of mine (most of them are Aussies too), I get told I am not a hot/sexy guy, but I don’t look crap. So I now have no idea why no girls would date me? LOL
At the end of the day we are all the same on the inside,well with the bones and the blood etc.What i don’t understand is why ppl are making such a big deal about this,i have dated men from across Asia with the exception of japan,and at the end of the day men are still men! i do however enjoy the company of Asian men compared to Aussies,and not being Aussie myself may contribute to that fact(im English),i don’t always understand Aussies,they think a little different,but so does everyone,its just Asian men are more physically appealing to me,and better conversationalists,once you get them started,but they are still human and need the same things we all do,so why “Caucasian”girls give them a wide berth is beyond me,all i can say is more for me! but to all those Asian men out there who think “we white girls are all the same” look a little closer and you will find tolerant and broad minded ppl who are culturally different but also culturally accepting,i admit that there are some really big cultural differences,but if you meet someone who isn’t willing to work through them with you,they arent worth your time!
Hi, I’m a French asian, meaning I was born in France, raised there, and my parents are asians. I had the luck to have a pretty good education, very conservative, with asian values about honor and family, but liberal about my social life. I am generally considered french culturaly, more than asian. It gave me confidence in life and helped me socialy in the West, but block many doors in Asia (I’ll come to that).
France is very different from Australia, as the immigration is based on a different history. To be short, asians are the favorite immigrants, then comes the eastern europeans, the black africans, and the last, the north african arabs. It is perceived and taken in the same order for sexual preference, for work confidence and apparent material success amongst French caucasian women from the middle class.
I used to date mainly caucasian women, I never really had any problem in France or even England, at some point I even thought it was easier for asians. I realise later that it was just a generalisation, I understood that I was not especially attracted to asian girls. I never really liked all the cute, kawai cliche, or the castrating ambitious cliche of an asian woman. And when I went to work in asia, I actually attracted more asian women, but was really crazily successful with caucasian women (they were almost untouchable or invisible for asian men).
I can maybe draw a very general comparision between Australia and France, the main problem both sex are facing are generaly cultural. The more the dating rite is different, the more it is difficult. For example the different expectations in a relationship, and even the family expectations can seriously block people to start any thing serious.
When I arrived in Sydney, in a superficial level, I noticed the difficulty to have eye contact with women, compared to France, in daily life (buses, trains, street…). In contrast I notice the strange curiosity that caucasian women in Australia have when they understand that you are actually interested in them. There is a strong tension in there attitude, something very close to a taboo ready to be broken, definitely something that will break one day…But it is still generally the same approach, the difference is that french prefers sometime more confrontations on intellectual ground, even looking for conflictual point of view as a pretext to attract attention. Of course, like in a lot of Western country, it is generaly the woman who does the first step. Maybe that’s something difficult to understand for typical asian men ?
I am now married to a beautiful australian woman, from polish-german-english background. The only people that are actually racist (but not malicious) about my couple are asians, maybe it is specific to the city ?
Funny no? It seems abnormal for a handsome guy like me to actually have a beautifull white wife !!!
How strange… I am being categorise as a banana by asians…..
i’m south east asian in adelaide that came from overseas… 5 years that i’ve been here… so far, i’ve only hoooked up with 1 aussie chick who has the hots for asians, been picked up by another aussie customer at work which i didn’t date becuase it would affect my work…
i think the the issue is same for everyone in every race.. .there’s always people that either not attracted to the opposite race or just feel unfamilliar with the opposite race and therefore do not approach each other or do not know how to react/respond to each other…
but if you wanna really date a hot european/aussie bla bla bla… just have the courage and approach/socialise… plus… looking good of course is a very good plus… cause we asians are generally a bit shorter in height and have a smaller body… work that ^&%&%* body out!!! after all, aussie blokes are bigger and they work out man… gotta fight for what you want!!! hahahaha
go asians@!!!