Comments on: What you see is what you get

By: mooiness

mooiness — Fri, 03 Nov 2006 17:04:08 +0000

Su: oh I understand that perfectly because I was in the same situation except that I was the friend of the girl.

By: Su

Su — Fri, 03 Nov 2006 11:59:57 +0000

Trust is everything. Making sure that their bf / gf have no friends of the opposite sex won’t help. If they want to disloyal, it can happen anywhere, anytime.

I had a ‘weird’ experience once when I was back in Msia, my platonic friend starting going out with his current gf while she was overseas. When she came back to Msia, she kept pestering him that she wants to meet me. She said she wanted to meet me since I am so close to him. Oh boy, what a weird experience.

By: mooiness

mooiness — Thu, 02 Nov 2006 10:48:56 +0000

girlstar7: excellent idea! definitely worthy of a post on its own.

By: girlstar7

girlstar7 — Thu, 02 Nov 2006 10:39:57 +0000

Yes, but another question to pose is this: are you comfortable with your significant other being friends with their ex boyfriend/girlfriend? The female/male friends thing has never been an issue in any of my r/ships as I’m not overly jealous and none of my boyfriends have been either. BUT the ex issue certainly has been…a post for another time maybe???

By: mooiness

mooiness — Thu, 02 Nov 2006 04:27:01 +0000

An: trust IS important. If nothing else, when you have trust you have more time to enjoy the relationship as opposed to being stressed out by the doubts and jealousies.

Lupin: I’ve been in that situation and I have had male and female friends complain to me about their bfs/gfs about the same situation.

Advice? I think you can sense a jealous or possessive person somehow. Then it’s up to you whether you want to pursue a relationship with such a person.

ian: the dude is just there to illustrate my point about some guys having lotsa female friends. That’s all.

My point to all this is that, if you go into a relationship willingly with a girl who has a lot of guy friends or vice-versa, then you have to be a little more trusting and flexible about it.

Otherwise, the relationship will crap out due to all the stress and arguments.

By: ian

ian — Thu, 02 Nov 2006 03:25:37 +0000

What’s the implication of that dude’s MySpace? I don’t get this part. As for the rest, I’m wondering if it’s going to be utterly difficult… I’ll have to be there to try it for myself to know then…

By: LupinTan

LupinTan — Thu, 02 Nov 2006 02:09:59 +0000

I was talking with my platonic friend yesterday in regards to this. This is wat I told her.

“Look dear, I might have a problem explaining my relationship with you to my future gf/wife”

“Not only you, but another 1-2 girls also, I will be having difficulties explaining my relationship with them to my future gf/wife”

Hahaha. Timely entries, kudos.

Question is, are you in this kinda situation rite now? How are you handling it then? Give me some pointers, hahaha.

By: An

An — Thu, 02 Nov 2006 01:19:00 +0000

yah. As they always say, Trust is very impt in a relationship.

Cute guy, sexy gals… wooow! lucky dude. Hehe! Will go back and check out the Myspace before any further comments. =P

By: mooiness

mooiness — Thu, 02 Nov 2006 00:33:21 +0000

sourrain: some random dude I found on Google.

herman: exactly, her friends would resent you, she would resent you and the whole relationship just goes downhill from there.

Leonard: you went without your gf? why not?

I’m flying over Sunday.

CW: exactly. Expecting ppl to change is a crapshoot. If one can accept the now, any improvements later would be an even bigger bonus.

By: CW

CW — Wed, 01 Nov 2006 21:52:21 +0000

Couldn’t agree more. If you can’t trust the person, it’s going to be very stressful for you both. And expecting a person to change to suit you is not realistic and quite unfair on them, I feel.