Depending on the woman, I can be friends with someone who has rejected me. But I definitely cannot be friends with an ex. I’d shed friends who’ve disappointed me one way or another – a break up is no less of a reason to not be friends with someone. No matter who’s right or wrong, there’s no good breakup, no matter how much one can pretend it to be. And in my view, once you’ve gone beyond being friends, how can you just “drop” back one level after? It doesn’t work for me.
I is not sentimental. Not only can’t I be friends with an ex, I don’t keep anything which would remind me of them either. Gifts, gushy love notes, clothing – I give it away or I throw it all out. I make the same surgical cuts from my life when it comes to ex-loves as much as I do to people who’ve outlived my friendship. Perhaps even more so.
It’s a cold and cynical approach but I don’t need baggage to drag me down. And I don’t want baggage to spoil the next relationship that I get into. I think approaching a new relationship with a clean slate is healthier than being all “spoilt goods” about it.
I have remembered the good times and I have moved on. Dwelling on the past ain’t gonna bring back a lost love, unless you are lucky enough to revisit it. Then again, I don’t believe in that either. Ch-yeah, think I will die a cynical old bastard. Rock on.