A platonic female friend and I had a little tiff this morning which has since blown over. But you tell me what you think.
First, a little background: she works two jobs and she also have a boyfriend. Since I have more free time than she does, she’d be the one who would always call me to catch up.
This morning she was angry that we couldn’t meet up before I fly to KL – our free times didn’t sync up for the past week or two. And there were a few misses too. She postponed on me last week, and I had forgotten to call to let her know that I was actually flying off earlier than thought.
So anyway, I got yelled at. I tried to calm the conversation down by saying, “Hey I’m only going for 2 weeks. I’ll see you when I get back.”
And she replied, “But you don’t understand. I bought you a surprise Christmas gift. If it’s important to you, then you would make the time for it.” Woah, guilt trip! Ignoring the fact that I don’t celebrate Christmas (heathen!) so it really IS not important to me, I honestly had assume that this was just a casual catch-up and it can wait. Now if she had said from the beginning that she had a gift for me, I would have probably preempted my schedule. But it is now too close to my flight because I have other things to do before then.
She said, “I am making the time so why can’t you?” Somehow she had forgotten that she postponed on me last week too. Why must I be free when she is free? I’m not the one getting the poontang so I don’t have to be available whenever she wants me to, right?
My point to this meandering story is this: I know I’m not meant to understand women but it doesn’t mean that I have to like it. And that is possibly the biggest reason why I’m still single because I can’t give in to arguments which I know doesn’t make sense.
And I’m willing to put up with a lot of pent up frustration because of that, so why does that tell you about me? Doomed to be single? Oh noes! 
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It happens. Sometimes when I make plans or rather “surprises” for my platonic guy friends, I’d go crazy if it didn’t turn out the way I want it to be.
I’m not sure if it’s just me or it does happen to some of the dolls out there as well, we usually take times & efforts to plan on something to surprise someone we cherish & yes, it really does get into us when the “plan” fails.
Anyway, isn’t she sweet to have thought of u & bought u something?
Yeah, maybe.
I like your bachelor blogpost. Hahahah
I thought Xmas pressie meant to be surprise? I can feel her ‘frustration’..cos on woman side, they don’t normally wanna tell you if they already bought you a pressie or gift, they like to keep it as s secret until they see you. This is very feminie thing in my personal opinion. They want to ‘show off’ their capability. I know this sound abit funny or bimbo.. but hey, this is WOMAN!!!
by the way, they won’t reveal unless sh*t happend.
Yeah, again, this is WOMAN thingy.
Understand ah? Haha
Wa piang, It’s so me also lor. I’m suppose to meet one of my platonic female friends to watch “The Holiday” together. I was suggesting to watch on the just passed monday cause that is the only free day I had for the week due to my “busy” schedule, then she lament that she’s will be tired after a scheduled badminton session and scold me for being busy.
I lamented that I tried to accomadate my schedule alredy. Just yesterday, I tried to make last minute effort to fix the movie directly after a dinner appointment with my friend, I called her immediately after I confirmed the time and location for the dinner appointment and she scolded me again for that last minute effort I made !!!!
I starting to see myself marrying a vietnamese wife. Muahahahaha.
Ahahahaha…. Marcus… I feel you man! My sentiments.. Anyways, have a good trip home. I’ll be flying back in two days’ time too…
erm …
u can use another word instead of poontang
use “biang per key “
explicist: yes it’s sweet and all, but somehow to be blamed for not caring enough about the “surprise” when I didn’t know about it seems illogical to me. Heh.
cynthia: so it’s a woman thing? ok then I don’t understand. Hahah!
lupin: yes that’s exactly what I’m talking about. And btw, women are women – no matter the race.
ian: same to you dude!
yanzzz: what language is that? Hokkien?
My thoughts from a woman’s perspective: she had been really looking forward to surprising you with a Christmas gift and then was really disappointed when she realised you guys coudln’t meet up before Christmas and took her disappointment out on you. Not saying it’s logical, just my opinion.
I’m sure you would find it a very boring world if you couldn’t watch all the hot girls walking by!!
Men are always saying they don’t understand women, and I guess we can be pretty complicated sometimes! But you hear just as many women around complaining that they don’t ‘get’ men. Common complaints are: men never talk about their feelings, they ‘close up’ emotionally etc.
Anyway, my opinion is accept that men and women are different, ENJOY those differences and try to get along. I like the fact that men are different from women, I wouldn’t want to date another woman cause I like the difference between the sexes. Makes life more interesting and keeps you on your toes
My Dear GOON FRIEND!!
Yes I canceeld at the last minute last thursday cause I tied up at work and also I am out hunting for the GIFTS for you and Fay. This is the only day I am available . YES, so now i Know u dun celebrate Christmas…u didn’t tell me last year when I gave u ur Christmas Gifts
Anyway, the gifts for u and Fay are meant to be a belated BDay and Christmas Gifts since I dun have time to meet up with u guys.
No Hard Feelings.
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year
girlstar7: I do love the differences, just some more than others.
And yes I can’t go by one day without looking at the hot chicks. Woohoo!
Swee: hahahah! ok now that you’ve explained it that way – it was a comedy of errors and miscommunication. Merry Christmas and Happy NY to you too!
to mooiness in reply to girlstar7: I second the notion.
I think she just over-reacted. I think its the personality thing. Sometimes we focus too much on trying to understand each other (man and woman) that we forgot that we are different and we just have accept and deal with it the best way we know how.
Jewelle: ah profound.
Oh noes indeed! I think it’s a girly thing – we are so very different and it’s hard trying to understand each other. My boyfriend and I sort of always disagree about what you and your friend had a little tiff about. Enjoy KL.
mae: thanks I definitely will!