Asian men with white fever – Get over it!
It seems like the subject of Asian men dating Caucasian women is a perennial one. I wrote “Why don’t Aussie girls date Asian men?” last October, and I’m still getting search-engine traffic to it now – almost 6 months later.
Judging by the way the search terms were phrased, I’m betting that a lot of these queries are from Asian men (maybe even bitter ones). Here’s some of them:
- asian guy on white girl
- asian man aussie girl
- caucasian women who want to date asian males
- women who like asian men
- white girls for asians
- white chicks like asian men
There are exceptions of course but the cold hard truth is most women prefer their men to be bigger than them; a lot of Asian men are smaller. That’s it. That also answers the inevitable question about why it’s easier for white men to get with Asian women, but not vice-versa.
Even if size does not matter, there’s still other physical preferences. Add to that, cultural preferences. People of all races still tend to pair up with those who share their cultural background – most times, it’s much easier and more comfortable that way.
I have a thing for blondes so I understand the exotic factor. If you really must have a white woman, I’d suggest that you start out by being friends with a few of them first, instead of looking at them purely as a mystical sexual frontier for you to cross. You’d understand better what makes them tick and that might help you reach the next level.
Even then, there’s no guarantee that you will succeed in your little quest because your personalities might not mesh.
All that effort that goes into you trying to bed a white woman can be better spent making yourself attractive to all kinds of women, don’t you think? The world is a smörgåsbord of colours so why be obsessed with just one of them? Be obsessed with them all! Woohoo!

Chow Yun-Fat is one cool Chinese dude
but even he didn’t get to kiss Mira Sorvino!
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haha guys, just exchange your emails and get on with it. Ron, a tip don’t ask a woman to talk about her job too early unless it’s a passion. Just so you know mate (pssst..better tell her to send you pastries! They’re delicious over there…)
@ron: Yes, I work as a screenwriter and I’m studying psychology. A normal day? Oh, that differs… But mostly I’m writing or learning. Sometimes I watch films on TV, more seldom movies. And I don’t like to go out. I know, sounds crazy and weird, but I don’t like that.
And what about you? Do you work? And/or study? And what?
Oh, and sorry, but my heart already belongs to someone else, no matter if I’ve got a chance with him or not. And yes, he’s an Asian man.
@sev: Guy, guy… Now really. He’s just got to come to Austria, then he can buy himself enough pastries
I finished my study long times ago,at the moment ,i m looking for jobs…
Um,,that is good,.,.may be you can make a first move:))
@ron: Ah
Good for you! Aha, well I wish you good luck with finding a job you like 
What do you think I’m trying to do all the time
?? Unfortunately he’s like a hard rock – to get to the innerst bone I’ve got to have faith, much of faith in him and me and to be honest with him and me, and to hope that he’ll one day appreciates me the same as I him. – And another problem is that we’re both living in different countries. Although… If he’d give us a chance, I’d be going to live with him in his country – so much do I love him. But I didn’t tell him I love him, only that I like him very much. But we both know that there’s a deep connection between us. – Well… Love’s really complicated sometimes.
And I don’t know, if I’ve got a really good chance against his ex-wife who he still can’t really forget. I think I’ll be living my life alone, like he’ll have to live alone, if he doesn’t realise that his ex-wife is his past and that he’s got to give love now, here in the present, a chance…
you have facebook???you prefer to talk there or you would like to share your story to the the people who read these threads??
Sure I’m in facebook – most of the world is in facebook. Ah, I don’t think anyone will know who I am
Because this story is so similar to many other love stories that happen at the moment around the globus.
that is true…as u said you two are living in different countries ,so have you see seen him face to face then??
@ron: No, not from face to face, we’ve only seen the other one on all our pictures
But that’s enough, for a first glance, and when you’re writing to each other, you’ll know sometime if this person is exactly the one you’ve been waiting for your whole life…
umm..that is true…may be one day you will finally see him face to face…..who knows.
@ron: Oh, I’m quite sure of that
so you intend to see him or you wait for him to ask whetehr you want to see him or not?
We’ve both said at the beginning that we want to meet each other once
So, I think the possibility that we meet is really high. And I hope he still hasn’t changed his mind, because I haven’t and I won’t.
so how well do you think you understand him at the moment??
@ron: Why are you asking me this???
Geez…love from afar?? Think one of you should grow some balls and set sail to meet that person . Long distance relationships are miserable unless you find a way to see each other more often. Besides, there is such a thing as sexual chemistry which you don’t have if you’ve never met the other person. My advice, life is too short take some risk. Pretend that you’re coming for a holiday vacation and go see him. At least you’ll know for sure instead of sitting there and wondering. The same goes for him. Also, how do you know if he’s not seeing anyone at the moment but lives in online fantasy with you. Gotta see where he lives, what his habits are, how he smells etc. For all you know, might be a complete turn off. This is not about asian/caucasian but just long distance infatuation.
@sev: You’ve made a point there…
But even if I’d love to meet him – I’ve got exams to write and to work on a screenplay with a deadline… But I’ve already thought about visiting his country – and not only because of him
My hope – and I’m fearing it stays as a hope – is that he’s going to come to my country and have a little holiday here and we meet and spend time together, get to know each other really – in person, I mean.
Noone can say for sure if the other one isn’t seeing somebody else at the same time. Well… online fantasy… I’d rather hope not. Because I want to have a fantastic reality and not a real good fantasy… And I hope he thinks the same way…
Well… I believe he knows now how I really think of him and how really deep my feelings are for him… and that I wish him so much to be happy again – even if this should mean that I have to be unhappy and alone because he wants this happiness with someone else. So much do I love him.
And about the smells-side: Okay, that’s a point, but I would even like him should he smoke – and I don’t smoke, never tried. Or if he should drink a little bit of alcohol for example for celebrating something or drinking a beer at the weekend… I still would kiss him the same passionate way like on the other days and I still would like and love him the same. And… when you’re writing to someone lots of messages and find out that you both have the same or similar hobbies and things you like and want to do… then you know really quickly if this person could be a boyfriend material for you or not.
And the best thing is… when I saw his picture for the first time I nearly got a heart attack… my mum was really worried… I couldn’t tear my eyes of his picture and I couldn’t breath… My mind kept telling me “Oh god, oh god! You’ve found him! It’s him! Unbelievable! After all this time… Oh my god! It’s really him! You’ve found him! Or did he find you? Doesn’t matter: It’s really him… it was always him… in the past… in the dreams… in reality now… It’s really, really him…”
And when I got to speak, or rather write to him and when he wrote back to me, I KNEW it was him and no one else that I’ve always waited for all those lonely years… So I know, even if he wouldn’t want to give us a chance – I’d still know that I’ve found my other half… no matter what it took me to overcome. I’ve found this one person I can rely on, this one person I knew the instant “I am home! I’m finally home!”, like my mind screamed, looking at his picture and remembering what we’ve been talking to each other (hobbies, work etc.)
And I know that a long distance relationship wouldn’t really work. Because of that I’d travel to the end of the world to be with him, should he really give us a chance. And shouldn’t he give us a chance because he’s seeking his luck and happiness with someone else he believes is his only reason to live… then I wish him to be happy, really happy. Because love doesn’t ask for a reason. Love doesn’t ask for anything than just giving it a chance. And love gives back more than you can imagine. And sometimes love has even the ability to mend a broken heart, no matter how many pieces it got broken to, if only he/she gets loved back from the person he/she truly and selflessly loves…
dun worry,,just wonder..oh yeah..you study psychology,so you must be able to understand what people are thinking..”)
@ron: Aha. Good joke… Just because someone studies psychology… that doesn’t mean that you understand someone. You must really get to know the other one to ‘know’ him. I can only say in this situation he reacts this or that way. He may think this or that way etc. But that doesn’t say you really know what people are thinking.
And, unfortunately… at the moment my heart is having the ride of a roller coaster… and I don’t know what’s going on in his mind… That does not only disturb me, but also makes me feel vulnerable and insecure… and I’m afraid to lose him, to lose his friendship and maybe more…
umm..don;t think too much,,let see how things will go and do what you want to do now:)
@ron: Thanks
I love him, I really love him. And that’s all that counts… And maybe… maybe he loves me or maybe he loves me one day… – I still have faith in him.
so have you ever talked to him on phone???how was it??Is there any problem in communicating?
@ron: No, he never asked that we should talk on the phone… and it would be really expensive for both of us. But I’ve wrote him in one month 32 sms and in the next month 4-8 sms. I can tell you, that got really expensive for me. So it’s no wonder he didn’t write a single sms to me. But for me these sms and the money I spent on him – it was worth it.
? Tell me…
I don’t know if and what he wants to do next… All I can do know is to wait and hope and pray that he’ll write me again.
Why are you so interested
Nothing special,I always like to hear people’s story…:)
May be you can use next meeting to talk…or even msn is ok if you have a microphone
@ron:
Sure… Hm… When and if he’s writing to me again… I wonder if he’s just busy or… angry… not anymore interested in me… Oh, what do I know…? All I can do is have faith and trust in him – unlimited trust and love.
so how long do you normally wait for his reply?
@ron: How long I wait normally? Well I know he’s a very busy man… so from one day up to one week? Although I hope he’s at least thinking of me
Why?
What exactly did you study? I’m curious… You didn’t tell me.
oh really…so busy…..
I am a finance person….
@ron: Yes, busy. But I deeply respect him for who he is and how he wants to work and live. And I’m really proud of him and his achievements. And I hope that he’ll be also proud of me and the things I do and achieve.
Ah, that’s great
So… Did you find yourself a job in the meantime? Or are you still searching? What’s a normal day in your life like?
@ron: By the way: He’s already written back to me
Great! Well… Although it’s only something about business… a favor I’m doing for him… He’s written at least something. So he isn’t mad at me or something else. Just busy, like me. Maybe I get next time a bigger message
Who knows…
No,economy is really bad here,actually all over the world,so it guess it will be very hard to get a job…my normal day is boring,coz I have a job,but that is not the one i want to do in long term..just work for living now.
That is good to hear that.:)
@ron: I understand. Hey, at least you have a job for the things you need to live. Maybe you’ll get a good opportunity – and jump right into your next and better job
Thanks
No honestly,not being negative,but I know it is nearly impossible to find the job i want as I have been trying to seek one in the past 5 years but fail.
@ron: Oh, that’s sad to hear… But, don’t give up that easily! There’s always a chance, there’s always hope. It may take time, but you’ll get the job you want (the one that makes you happy) once. Just keep trying.
it is ok as I already get used to this feeling…Now my life is like work and sleep as work has made me too tired to do anything else..it is a very physical job…
Oh, I hope you have still got a little time for yourself and your needs of social life… Still, never give up hoping and trying. They say: “Hope is the last thing that dies.”
Seriously,I do not have much social life,most of the time,I just stay at home and sleep because my work is very physical that makes me so exhasuted after work.And I always tell my self I will only fidn a gf if I have a decent job so that I can take care of her.
@ron: I understand that you need your sleep to be ready for work again. Don’t tell youself that all the time – a girl/woman will want to be with you, if she really likes you, no matter if you have a decent job or not. She should like and love you for the person, for who you are, and not because of how much money you’ve got. And something I noticed: Why does every man believe that he’s got to take care of his woman? We’re in the modern world. Most women are working, earning their own money… Of course, I won’t deny that it means much to a woman that the man she loves wants to spend his money on and with her (like she will do the same). But, seriously, if you’re earning enough that you can live with it, that you can live with the money a comfortable life, I think it won’t matter to the woman if you’re not (that) rich as others. For it’s always the person, the character one does fall in love with – no matter if man or woman. So, never give up hope. And love will always find its way. Love is the most powerful craft in the world, unbeatable
I know money cannot buy everything and I can see alot of people who live happily in a simple life.
But at least A decent job will bring her more security.
I guess I had chances in the past not to be single,but i just let them slipped away…..That is why I am still single now.Anyway…..it is ok..
@ron: You’re right. A decent job is always good. But everything needs time, don’t you think?
Ah… Nearly everyone has or had this or that chance. What is important is that you’re NOW taking your chance when you see one. And never give up hope. Life is too short to life in the past or in resignation
It is true..No one know what is going to happened next,hope is always there even though it is slim..
And right..life is too short….we should not worry too much but to enjoy what we have now
so dani:what do you normally talk about when you are writing him something?
@ron: You’re quite curious, you know

?
What I talk about? How he is, how I am, what he’s working on at the moment, what I’m working on at the moment (what I’m allowed to tell by contract), what his new plans are, what my new plans are etc. Why is that so interesting
nothing special…..just like to see how you try to keep in touch with him in this long term relationship….
@ron:
I find it very nice that you think of him and me as a long term relationship, even a relationship. He still hasn’t said a single word that we’re ‘together’, you know. And I believe what he and I, what we both really want, is a long term relationship. And if he’d really give us that chance, it would be one of the most wonderful things that can happen 
And how are you doing?
Me??Always the same everyday…:P
Just keep the relationship like friends now and understand him more then.
@ron:
Good to know that you’re okay
Thanks, I know this is the only thing I can do at the moment. I really want to get to know him really well. And I think he wants to get to know me too
I’ll just have to wait and let things happen.
so how long you have know him for?
@ron: Since February, but to both of us it’s like we’ve known each other for an eternity. When I told him, he said, he feels the same way.
so have you told your friends about this?? what is their opinion?