No turning back to bad friends
Remember Wendy? She’s the one who went berserko at me when her boyfriend read what I wrote about his jealousy.
Simon met up with her and the boyfriend for drinks on Friday, and he told me that they had asked about me.
To Wendy …
You want to know how I’m doing? Then you can read this blog and find out. ‘Cos I ain’t gonna see or talk to you again if I can help it. I don’t forget, and I only forgive those who are closest to me and even then it’s difficult. If you think the friendship is salvageable by the both of you saying that you are “ok with me” then you are mistaken. In fact I find that very patronising. What? I’m suppose to forget what you had said to me just because you are “ok with me” now? Well, here’s a fact - I’m not ok with you two. How about that?
A friendship which you had so easily trashed is not worthy of being rescued. Though I can understand if you feel guilty about the whole incident. You damn well should. But I don’t. I got all the facts on my side. Go read through the email conversation that started this mess last August.
Simon said that I should not have read too much into an email conversation, that maybe I should have called instead of replying to your email. But I think that he should have said that to you instead: *you* should have called me on the phone to talk about it, instead of throwing angry accusations at me in an email. I find it ridiculous that you claimed to be surprised by my reaction and that you thought that I over-reacted.
You said that your English isn’t that good and that I misread your words. Well, too bad so sad. For your own sake, use a dictionary. Ignorance is not an excuse.
I don’t apologise for being objective about him when you couldn’t. The fact that you two are still together is good for you - you deserve each other. But I had stopped caring the day you sided with him when it was you who complained to me about him.
People who take friendships for granted do not deserve them. I’ve already moved on and I’m not turning back.
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Ya they don’t deserve our friendship. Just like how my godbro scolded me for judging his gf after he’s the one who started with the accusations. But honestly i don’t give a damn now. Even if he’s with the prettiest model or which miss universe. When they break up he did call and say he’s wrong and sorry but i said it’s ALL TOO LATE. Can’t mend a broken mug.
I think alot of misunderstandings come from badly written emails.
On her part, seeing that it was such a big issue for her, she should’ve picked up the phone and spoke to you personally instead of writing accusutory emails - especially since she admitted that her poor command of english might’ve caused you to misunderstand her…well, it’s too late to take it back.
But the bottom line is, people should not criticize their better halves to friends and expect their real friends to just one-ear-in-one-ear-out.
DeV|LisH: yup agreed - too late for sorry. Lovers come and go, but true friends are forever. Those who don’t understand that, do not deserve our friendship.
sourrain: “But the bottom line is, people should not criticize their better halves to friends and expect their real friends to just one-ear-in-one-ear-out.”
Exactly. The fact that she didn’t grasp this simple concept and the tone in her first email got me really pissed off. And also her delayed reaction, but you and I have gone over that already.
Sometimes people don’t know what they got till it’s gone.
Fredison: yeah I hope she regrets it but ultimately, I just can’t be bothered either way.
I also don’t forgive “friends” who either backstab/ betray or turn on me. And agree with you about the “ok with you” part. Very patronising… and for someone who don’t seem very intelligent, it’s really the pits.
So conclusion is………. no matter how ur fren complain to you about their partner don’t even bother to speak up for him/her. Later ppl said we busybody haha i got one friend always on and off with the bf. At first pity her now………got use to it already like morning sickness only. Ha ha
Rachel: yup, life is too short.
DeV|LisH: in my case, she complained about her bf and then got annoyed that I don’t like him. Like wtf?!
I have a friend that has been on-off-on-off with her bf for years.Everytime they are off she would say that he ‘abuses’ her by screaming at her in public ect.
And then she goes right back to him..saying that she needs to try harder
WTF!!!!!!
We like him more now. At least he is consistent in his ‘abuse’
friendz friendz friendz
i just wish that i can move on and not think bout the past .. i dunno wuts wrong with me. but well, its good that ya move on and not let the past haunt ya down
sourrain: “We like him more now. At least he is consistent in his ‘abuse’”
Hahahah! I would too!
May: I can understand how some ppl can’t help but hold on to the past. I think what always help me is that I think of life as too short to be burdened by negative things, be they other people or things that have happened.
Haha it’s like that one Mooey u got to know when they are on breaking terms she will tell u anything bad about him. But when they on goody goody term then she don’t expect us to go and say the bf is no good for her. Been through that , that’s why now i keep my mouth shut haha
if you are adult, then reply me!!! i post a comment long time ago in one of your blog but you didnt reply. what do you want from me?? this time i didnt do anything and you made Mr S become a bad man now. what do you want to achieve?
i did tell him i am ok now, is because adult do not deal with thing like that!!! i do not feel sorry anymore is because i think it is enough. i am not going to treat you as a stranger if one day i see you on the street. btw,i did not ask for your friendship as well.
i do not want anything from you, do you please just calm down and think what you have written in your blog is necessary?? and you know , i am still reading your blog!!!
DO I DESERVE ALL OF THESES???
Wendy: actually I don’t want anything from you. What I write here are my honest feelings and I am allowed to because it’s my blog. And if you don’t like it, don’t read it.
thanks for the replied. i know this is your blog and i do respect what you want to do.
Reading all these makes me think abt what friendship is all abt. I think Friendship is a gift,a gift is not deserved. Something deserved is a reward not gift. We all have weaknesses. If at the point of our weakness, we lose our friendship becos we are not good enough or smart enough to deserve it, then what is there to cherish abt friendship. It is when we are at our weakest point (when we are not at our best and do stupid or even hurtful things) that we need understanding and forgiveness (ie friendship) the most.
Anyway, just my thoughts and I only know so little.
lipeng: that is noble - your approach to it is more charitable than mine.