Comments on: Asking for links is like asking, “Will you be my friend?” http://mooiness.com/2007/06/05/asking-for-links-is-like-asking-will-you-be-my-friend/ I see, I hear and I feel. And then I blog it. Wed, 10 Mar 2010 12:05:14 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: mooiness http://mooiness.com/2007/06/05/asking-for-links-is-like-asking-will-you-be-my-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-110542 mooiness Sun, 20 Jul 2008 05:10:26 +0000 http://mooiness.com/2007/06/05/asking-for-links-is-like-asking-will-you-be-my-friend/#comment-110542 Julie: once again, thanks for liking my post. And I think that it's great that you are keeping a real "living" journal with pictures and videos for your kids. We are after all, the first generation to be able to do that. As for the show-offism, well all of us have egos to feed. Heh. And yeah link away! No need to ask! :) Julie: once again, thanks for liking my post. And I think that it’s great that you are keeping a real “living” journal with pictures and videos for your kids. We are after all, the first generation to be able to do that.

As for the show-offism, well all of us have egos to feed. Heh.

And yeah link away! No need to ask! :)

]]> By: Julie Westra http://mooiness.com/2007/06/05/asking-for-links-is-like-asking-will-you-be-my-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-110539 Julie Westra Sun, 20 Jul 2008 05:05:13 +0000 http://mooiness.com/2007/06/05/asking-for-links-is-like-asking-will-you-be-my-friend/#comment-110539 Again, either I am easily pleased or you are insanely talented, I am blown away by your knowledge of the whole blog world. Thanks for this informative post. I am still a toddler in the realm of blogging and I'm wondering why the heck I even started sometimes, but I keep telling myself it is for my kids, to keep a journal, but it is actually turning into show-off purposes and voyeurism. Not that I mind either of those. Both are better than folding laundry. You are quite the educator. Speaking of linking, can I link you? I think my readers would enjoy your commentary. Again, either I am easily pleased or you are insanely talented, I am blown away by your knowledge of the whole blog world. Thanks for this informative post. I am still a toddler in the realm of blogging and I’m wondering why the heck I even started sometimes, but I keep telling myself it is for my kids, to keep a journal, but it is actually turning into show-off purposes and voyeurism. Not that I mind either of those. Both are better than folding laundry. You are quite the educator. Speaking of linking, can I link you? I think my readers would enjoy your commentary.

]]> By: mooiness http://mooiness.com/2007/06/05/asking-for-links-is-like-asking-will-you-be-my-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-26679 mooiness Wed, 13 Jun 2007 05:48:36 +0000 http://mooiness.com/2007/06/05/asking-for-links-is-like-asking-will-you-be-my-friend/#comment-26679 Lad Litter: yes, acquaintanceship is how I'd describe it too. You have a core base of "friends" and the rest are "acquiantances" and these drift in and out, just like in real life. Lad Litter: yes, acquaintanceship is how I’d describe it too. You have a core base of “friends” and the rest are “acquiantances” and these drift in and out, just like in real life.

]]> By: Lad Litter http://mooiness.com/2007/06/05/asking-for-links-is-like-asking-will-you-be-my-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-26634 Lad Litter Wed, 13 Jun 2007 03:16:18 +0000 http://mooiness.com/2007/06/05/asking-for-links-is-like-asking-will-you-be-my-friend/#comment-26634 Very handy user's guide there, Mooiness. Succinct description of this aspect of blog etiquette. Blogroll linking can be prid quo quo but not in an obsessive way. A bit like acquaintanceship: you drift along and drift away from some and towards others and not always as the result of a value judgment. Which reminds me: must update my blogroll! Very handy user’s guide there, Mooiness. Succinct description of this aspect of blog etiquette. Blogroll linking can be prid quo quo but not in an obsessive way. A bit like acquaintanceship: you drift along and drift away from some and towards others and not always as the result of a value judgment. Which reminds me: must update my blogroll!

]]> By: mooiness http://mooiness.com/2007/06/05/asking-for-links-is-like-asking-will-you-be-my-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-25906 mooiness Wed, 06 Jun 2007 16:29:22 +0000 http://mooiness.com/2007/06/05/asking-for-links-is-like-asking-will-you-be-my-friend/#comment-25906 @ Indra: exactly, you have to show an interest in other ppl first. Otherwise how would they even know of you? thanks for being a subscriber! you are on my list of feeds too. @ Dabido: once again I have to disagree. You have to initiate, especially when you are starting out. No blog exists in a vacuum unless that is your intention. Giving out links and commenting is a form of advertising for you as a blogger. Read the #1 tip here: http://www.problogger.net/archives/2007/06/07/5-uncommon-ways-to-market-your-blog/ I never said to comment and expect ppl to visit or comment back - your comment has to be articulate, relevant and interesting, to get you reciprocal visitors from the blog which you have commented on. Whether or not they comment or link you back comes back to how well you write on your blog, as well as in the comments. If you get linked by a popular blog, even if they don't read you as often, their visitors do explore the blogroll - I have many indirect visitors that way. Google should never be your only source of visitors. I doubt that all your current readers stumbled onto you via Google, did they? I wouldn't have known about you if you never commented here. However if you are content with your circle of readers, then yeah stay put wherever you are - don't comment, and don't link out. That is your prerogative. @ Indra: exactly, you have to show an interest in other ppl first. Otherwise how would they even know of you? thanks for being a subscriber! you are on my list of feeds too.

@ Dabido: once again I have to disagree. You have to initiate, especially when you are starting out. No blog exists in a vacuum unless that is your intention. Giving out links and commenting is a form of advertising for you as a blogger. Read the #1 tip here:
http://www.problogger.net/archives/2007/06/07/5-uncommon-ways-to-market-your-blog/

I never said to comment and expect ppl to visit or comment back – your comment has to be articulate, relevant and interesting, to get you reciprocal visitors from the blog which you have commented on. Whether or not they comment or link you back comes back to how well you write on your blog, as well as in the comments.

If you get linked by a popular blog, even if they don’t read you as often, their visitors do explore the blogroll – I have many indirect visitors that way.

Google should never be your only source of visitors. I doubt that all your current readers stumbled onto you via Google, did they? I wouldn’t have known about you if you never commented here.

However if you are content with your circle of readers, then yeah stay put wherever you are – don’t comment, and don’t link out. That is your prerogative.

]]> By: Dabido http://mooiness.com/2007/06/05/asking-for-links-is-like-asking-will-you-be-my-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-25900 Dabido Wed, 06 Jun 2007 15:10:15 +0000 http://mooiness.com/2007/06/05/asking-for-links-is-like-asking-will-you-be-my-friend/#comment-25900 Marcus - You don't need to initiate contact. A lot of people land on blogs via google etc. Like I said, 'Build it and they'll come' because if they're googling for it, they're most likely got a similar interest and as such 'might' stay if the person writes. You can comment forever on some peoples blogs but they'll never link you as they either aren't interested in you or the blog ... but, those coming in from searches are more likely to have a similar interest. PLUS, too many people expect a 'return linking' [which is what you've posted about], and those sorts of links aren't worth much, as the person might link you, but they may not read you ... What you've said about conversation though I think is the fun thing about blogs. You can have good dialogs spring up, and not necessarily with the owner of the blog. The fun thing is entire threads can be created by the readers. Marcus – You don’t need to initiate contact. A lot of people land on blogs via google etc. Like I said, ‘Build it and they’ll come’ because if they’re googling for it, they’re most likely got a similar interest and as such ‘might’ stay if the person writes.
You can comment forever on some peoples blogs but they’ll never link you as they either aren’t interested in you or the blog … but, those coming in from searches are more likely to have a similar interest.
PLUS, too many people expect a ‘return linking’ [which is what you've posted about], and those sorts of links aren’t worth much, as the person might link you, but they may not read you …

What you’ve said about conversation though I think is the fun thing about blogs. You can have good dialogs spring up, and not necessarily with the owner of the blog. The fun thing is entire threads can be created by the readers.

]]> By: Indra http://mooiness.com/2007/06/05/asking-for-links-is-like-asking-will-you-be-my-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-25899 Indra Wed, 06 Jun 2007 14:58:07 +0000 http://mooiness.com/2007/06/05/asking-for-links-is-like-asking-will-you-be-my-friend/#comment-25899 This is so true. I have to admit, when I first blogged, I was comment-hungry. I want people to comment and all. But yea, soon I realized that I need to do the same on other people's blog first. I only subscribe to a blog if it has a good, enjoyable content (and I assure you Mooi, yours is one :P), so it's only fair that I've got to have a good, enjoyable content before I expect people to read my blog. That's the world of blogging :) This is so true. I have to admit, when I first blogged, I was comment-hungry. I want people to comment and all. But yea, soon I realized that I need to do the same on other people’s blog first.

I only subscribe to a blog if it has a good, enjoyable content (and I assure you Mooi, yours is one :P ), so it’s only fair that I’ve got to have a good, enjoyable content before I expect people to read my blog. That’s the world of blogging :)

]]> By: nadnut http://mooiness.com/2007/06/05/asking-for-links-is-like-asking-will-you-be-my-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-25896 nadnut Wed, 06 Jun 2007 14:14:25 +0000 http://mooiness.com/2007/06/05/asking-for-links-is-like-asking-will-you-be-my-friend/#comment-25896 oops. :X hmmm, thing is ill be there on a study tour trip. maybe ill grab ur number and if i get some free time, will drag u out as a guide? heh. <b>Mooiness says: Have shot you an email!</b> :) oops. :X

hmmm, thing is ill be there on a study tour trip. maybe ill grab ur number and if i get some free time, will drag u out as a guide? heh.

Mooiness says: Have shot you an email! :)

]]> By: mooiness http://mooiness.com/2007/06/05/asking-for-links-is-like-asking-will-you-be-my-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-25895 mooiness Wed, 06 Jun 2007 14:09:19 +0000 http://mooiness.com/2007/06/05/asking-for-links-is-like-asking-will-you-be-my-friend/#comment-25895 Perth lah! I thought I have been obvious about it. Heheh. If you need someone to show you the nightlife, I volunteer! Well, shoot me an email closer to the day. Perth lah! I thought I have been obvious about it. Heheh. If you need someone to show you the nightlife, I volunteer! Well, shoot me an email closer to the day.

]]> By: nadnut http://mooiness.com/2007/06/05/asking-for-links-is-like-asking-will-you-be-my-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-25894 nadnut Wed, 06 Jun 2007 14:07:49 +0000 http://mooiness.com/2007/06/05/asking-for-links-is-like-asking-will-you-be-my-friend/#comment-25894 no worries. btw which part of aus are u in now? ill be in perth in july! no worries. btw which part of aus are u in now? ill be in perth in july!

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