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Here’s how I understand S&M, or sadomasochism sex. Or at least the masochistic part of it anyway.

You know how when you hit your shin on something, or kick something hard and the pain just courses through your body and you clutch yourself in agony? And then when the pain starts to subside, you feel a relief? To those who’d like to be dominated and have pain inflicted upon them, the masochists, I’d surmise that this relief is felt more intensely by them than the average person. And hence, it’s pleasurable to them.

And about being submissive, perhaps it’s also a form of relief. Perhaps the person always have to be the dominant one at home or at work, not by choice but by circumstance. They have to make the major decisions, and plan and control almost everything. Maybe it’s a a relief to not being in charge and not knowing what is to come, which is pleasurable to them in a perverse way.

I’m not a masochist but I can understand how masochistic role-play can be sexy and exciting for some.

As for sadists and dominants, they are the exact opposite. They have no control over the major aspects of their lives or perhaps they are downtrodden at home or at work. So it feels good to turn the tables around in the bedroom. That part I understand but aggressive sex and wanting to inflict pain is just kinda freaky to me. I guess that’s why you would need “safewords” - a pent-up person may have a big load of aggression to unload which may be dangerous.

What brought this on? I hit my shin and it felt good afterwards. Don’t tell anyone I said that. And no I do not want to be dominated. I prefer equal opportunity sex.

p.s. If you are reading this at work, are you nuts?! :mrgreen:

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