Pretty in Pink, movie poster
Contrary to what it says on the movie poster, in the real world nice guys are not as noble and would not be as happy as Ducky at the end of the movie when Andie got with Blane

I mentioned something called “The Ducky Syndrome” previously - the nice guy likes the pretty girl but the pretty girl likes the handsome/macho-er rich guy, and the nice guy is relegated to mere “friends” status. Although the character of Blane played by Andrew McCarthy is meant to be hated by the audience for ruining whatever chances that Ducky would ever have had with Andie, and for making Andie go through an emotional roller-coaster to finally be with him, he was actually a nice guy.

So there lies the rub. Being nice would help you cinch the deal if the girl is already into your looks, wealth or social status. Being nice alone is not enough.

And to make things complicated, women at different stages of their lives want different things. Younger women usually are more into the superficial and do not care if the guy will be nice to her or not. But how do you know what stage she’s at? Well you wouldn’t know until you’ve started going after her.

There are tell-tale signs that she isn’t at the stage that would make her worth your time and effort, and money to go after. One good indicator is you doing all the giving and she’s doing all the taking, even as she blatantly tells you about other guys that she prefers. When you get that, abort the chase. I repeat: ABORT.

The other problem with being stupidly nice, and letting her walk over you is that no girl would want a guy with no backbone anyway. Don’t fool yourself that you’d win her over by being nice because to her by then, you are a servant boy with no pay or benefits. Or worse, a sugar daddy with no benefits.

In a way, nice guys are just as masochistic as the girls who love the challenge of taming the bad boy. Even if the bad boy tones down his behaviour to hook the girl in at first, after he knows that she’d stick through his bullshit the bad behaviour returns.

Bad boys are bad because the girls who are into them let them get away with their bad behaviour. And it is the same with the nice guys who are forever complaining about not getting anywhere with girls. It is because the nice guys let women get away with their own bad behaviour.

For the above reason there will always be nice guys who’d never learn, and there will always be hotchicks with douchebags. (via MetaFilter)

Hot Chicks with Doucebags

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