A New York State University study has revealed another area where men are different to women: kissing. According to the study, women use kissing to size up their potential partners while men use it to increase the likelihood of sex. Which is kinda obvious because if women want it and we know you want it, we are gonna do it because it will make you like us and hence fornicate with us. Duh.
Also,
The questionnaires revealed men were less discriminating when it came to deciding who to kiss or who to have sex with.
They were more willing to have sex with someone without kissing, to have sex with someone they are not attracted to and agree to have sex with someone they considered to be a bad kisser.
But kissing was more important as a bonding mechanism to women.
BBC NEWS | Health | Why kissing means more to women
That men are less discriminating is also a long-known, if not proven fact. That will explain why more men than women are inclined to having one-night stands, and more men than women would pay for sex. Is it any surprise that Sydney brothels are expecting a jump in business during APEC? 
Brothels ready for APEC boom | SBS World News Australia
Although the study shows that kissing may not be important for most men, it is important for me. Long time readers would know that although I may crave sex, I still would prefer to have an emotional connection to go along with it. And kissing is a essential part of that connection.
Which goes to explain why I have been having lots of dreams lately where I’d be kissing someone, holding and hugging them rather than boinking them. And for me, those dreams were more erotic than a straight out sex dream would be.
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Remember when you were a teen and you’d just spend hours kissing and not go any further? Now we’re adults, it doens’t seem to happen so much. We just wanna get to the sex part. DOn’t get me wrong, sex is fun, but sometimes it can be fun to just kiss for ages, esp in the new stages of a relationship, to increase that build-up and anticipation of sex.
When there’s a lot of chemistry and the person is a good kisser, it can be a lot of fun! Sometime I miss those teen years when we did make out for hours!
“the anatomical juxtaposition of two orbicularis oris muscles in a state of contraction”
– Henry Gibbons
girlstar7: I DO remember those makeout sessions where sex isn’t the end result. They were fun indeed. I agree with the build-up and anticipation. The best moments are those.
.n: dude, that’s needlessly wordy. Hahah!
I think most men just want to get on with the sex part asap but sometimes you find the right guy who’s a great kisser and it will eventually lead to even better sex. Women really appreciate that.
blur ting: woohoo! good to know that I’m on the right track.