Comments on: Money and Friends

By: mooiness

mooiness — Wed, 21 Nov 2007 02:31:38 +0000

lovie: hahah “flies”! I like that term. Or “vultures”. Basically, come in and eat/drink without contributing anything.

By: lovie

lovie — Wed, 21 Nov 2007 01:42:52 +0000

I totally agree with what you;ve said.
Sometimes it’s really hard to ask people for the money they owed, I don’t want people to think that I don’t trust them or something like that. But the thing is some people just don’t understand, they never “remember”.
I hate “flies”, you know, similar to your “leeches”. I call them flies because whenever there are free food or drink, they will show up, that sort of thing. I hate people like that.

By: mooiness

mooiness — Tue, 20 Nov 2007 02:46:22 +0000

juji: you are right. Money, just like sex tends to complicate things.

By: juji

juji — Tue, 20 Nov 2007 01:25:38 +0000

wow, just as well all my friends are as poor (read: students) as i am … the biggest “loan” i can think of (giving/receiving) was probably the cost of a meal and a drink (or two) – $30?

life is simple when there’s no surplus cash to think about.

By: mooiness

mooiness — Mon, 19 Nov 2007 11:29:05 +0000

yurl: heheh I would have dropped them as outing partners after the first and only time they did this to me. I don’t understand these ppl – they can’t seem to grasp that it isn’t a nice thing to do. And for that, they don’t deserve any friends.

By: yurl

yurl — Mon, 19 Nov 2007 05:30:09 +0000

so true. some friends of mine (lets call them couple x) used to go out for dinners with us as a group of mates. the thing that really pissed my off was couple x used to order loads of cocktails when no one else was drinking, or order expensive items from the wine list and not share it. then they’d expect everyone to go dutch. grrr.

By: mooiness

mooiness — Mon, 19 Nov 2007 03:52:37 +0000

Katie: that’s an excellent way out of lending money! And I agree about the amounts – if it’s small, then I won’t hesitate but bigger amounts will make me stop and think.

And thanks for the make-you-think compliment!

By: Katie

Katie — Mon, 19 Nov 2007 03:25:08 +0000

Money tends to ruin friendships, so I try not to lend to or borrow from my friends. The only ones I might lend to, are ones that I know will pay me back quickly, and have done in the past.

I don’t mind lending the odd $2 or something, but if it’s something bigger, I’ll have to think first – even if the one wanting it is a good friend. Too often I lend and then am put in the difficult position of ASKING for it back. If I don’t want to lend, and don’t want to offend them, I usually say, “My pay day isn’t until next week – I was going to ask YOU!” and they’ll laugh and let it go.

Your posts are great and really make me think (damn you!)

By: mooiness

mooiness — Mon, 19 Nov 2007 00:10:31 +0000

girlstar7: yup exactly. Sometimes it’s not even the amount but the principle of it.

Om: well perhaps, you may have to be a bit more firm with these friends of yours. If they are thick-skinned about it, then maybe you should be thick-skinned too and feign ignorance when they expect you to pay etc.

nadnut: as long as they return the money promptly without you having to ask for it, then I guess it’s ok. Maybe next time, you can practice saying “no” once in a while.

Papa: hahah good one. That’s a way to teach someone to save up.

By: Papa

Papa — Sun, 18 Nov 2007 19:44:23 +0000

My friends and I don’t borrow money from one another, but we do help one another when finances are low. For instance, my friend Jack needed a couple of bucks for a cup of coffee. I helped him by punching out a couple of his back teeth, that way he’ll get some sweet moolah from the Tooth Fairy, but unfortunately for him it really hurts when he drinks anything hot or cold. ;P