Comments on: Being single during holidays

By: mooiness

mooiness — Sun, 25 Nov 2007 23:58:33 +0000

rn: we all hope that our heads will be screwed on properly but you can’t help how we feel sometimes.

By: rn

rn — Sun, 25 Nov 2007 16:46:29 +0000

I used to celebrate Mid-Autumn with my brother and my sister and their partners. Needless to say, when the fireworks came up and they all cuddled with each other I felt more alone than ever.

I guess the stats will probably show that more people hook up at the end of the year/beginning of the year due to the big holidays like Christmas, New Year and V day, but I know most of us have our head screwed on properly to know the difference b/w loneliness and genuine fondness of someone, which should be the reason why we explore things further, eh?

By: mooiness

mooiness — Wed, 21 Nov 2007 03:46:23 +0000

Moi: hahah thanks for thinking highly of me! but seeing as how my advice is free, it may not be the best.

By: Moi

Moi — Wed, 21 Nov 2007 03:41:58 +0000

Mooiness, this may be a bit premature, seeing as I only stumbled across your blog today, but I think I would like to employ you as my personal advisor….?

By: mooiness

mooiness — Wed, 21 Nov 2007 02:37:30 +0000

lovie: exactly – like the holidays do not feel quite the same because you are so used to celebrating it with someone.

Moi: whether or not you break up has to be decided by yourself. I will say this though – don’t let the time of the year, or an impending holiday affect your decision because it’s totally superficial. And don’t feel like you have to wait till after the holidays or something. If you don’t feel like being with him anymore, then breakup.

On the other hand, don’t break up just because you think you’d have a sucky holiday period either.

By: Moi

Moi — Wed, 21 Nov 2007 01:59:42 +0000

I know what you mean! My relationship with my boyfriend has been going downhill lately, and as we are not spending Christmas / New Year together, I am wondering if I break up with him so as to avoid the heartache. Or is that another stupid girl thing to do?

By: lovie

lovie — Wed, 21 Nov 2007 01:33:51 +0000

I miss having a special someone during those holidays, but not to the extend that I’ll simply just hook up with someone who I barely know.
I think it’s not that I’ll feel lonely and need someone desperately during those holidays, it’s just that I’ll miss all the good times that I’ve shared with a special someone during those holidays.

By: mooiness

mooiness — Tue, 20 Nov 2007 02:51:06 +0000

alyndabear: that’s what I think too! Unfortunately, “but I love you every other day!” does not satisfy every women. Heheh.

blur ting: yeah the crass exploitation of the couples, and especially men on V-day is ludicrous. Though sometimes it’s funny because you could see a couple out on V-day, and you can immediately tell if they’ve just hooked up recently.

girlstar7: ah point taken. Getting dumped around the holidays may also have a lasting effect by reminding you of it the next time the holidays come again.

But yeah having good friends and family around is the best!

By: girlstar7

girlstar7 — Tue, 20 Nov 2007 00:26:19 +0000

My theory is you’re more likely to feel depressed over the holiday period as a single if you’ve just broken up with someone, esp someone long-term. i.e. you are used to always having someone to spend the holidays with and do coupley things, and now you don’t. i was dumped the day after Christmas last year, and it didn’t make that period very much fun, I’ll tell ya that!
But once you’ve been single for a while and are not in the heartbreak period, I think you get kinda used to it, and there’s no probs with being “alone” over the holiday period. I say “alone” because even if you don’t have a partner, you might still have great family and/or a fantastic set of friends.
I’m single and I have no probs with it. I’m looking forward to flying up to Sydney and having a holiday for a week without having to consult anyone! Also, i really look forward to the Christmas parties.
To to answer yoru question, i’d go with the second option: ‘fuck it, I’m gonna go out and snog some strangers!’

By: blur ting

blur ting — Tue, 20 Nov 2007 00:25:25 +0000

I like your positive attitude and ability to keep yourself occupied and happy all the time.

V days are the worse. It’s so weird to see all these couples trying to be romantic sitting in a packed restaurant with candles flickering on every table. The restaurants squeeze in as many tables as possible so everyone’s sitting so close to each other. How can this be romantic?

But you’re right about women… if we don’t get any special treatment on that day, we’ll feel so depressed …