You hate them too? Cool. But don’t tell them I said that.
People are funny. I had this conversation with a friend the other night. My words are in italic.
You know so-and-so?
Yeah. I don’t like them.
You too? Excellent. Wanna hear a story?
Cool.
But whatever I tell you, that stays on this table ok?
Why? You don’t like them. I don’t like them. Who am I gonna tell?
I don’t care. Just don’t spread it.
So you don’t like them …
Yes.
But you don’t want them to know about it …
Yes.
Because … ?
Well, we are sorta still friends.
Riiiight.
I am so much more simple as a person. I don’t believe in spending the effort to keep up appearances. If I don’t like you, I don’t like you. If it’s clearcut, there’s no in between is there? So why even bother? As I grow older, I have less and less time to maintain relationships which are of no benefit to me.
Yeah you can call me selfish. But hey, one life to live and all that. I sure as hell ain’t gonna spend it worrying about what people whom I don’t like think of me.
No time for losers, ’cause we are the champions!
“We Are The Champions” - Queen
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I don’t see the point either of maintaining a supposed friendship with someone you can’t stand.
Yeah and it gets entertaining with all the behind-the-back bitching and the pretend smiling and friendliness.
I will just refrain from talking to them.
Unless it’s work, no choice
Lupin: yup indifference is the best way to deal with people you don’t like. It’s the most energy efficient because it takes none!
sometimes there’s a need to be on cordial terms with them. e.g colleagues or classmates. zzz
nadnut: yeah lah, be civil but that’d be the maximum of my niceness towards them.
Have finally found somebody who shares the same mentality as me!!! Yay!
Kate: yay us!
It’s a guy thing. There are women who could hate your guts and you’d never know. Blokes are a little more obvious. Women will still compliment those they hate on new hairstyles, sympathize about your sick mum etc, keeping things nice. Blokes ignore those they dislike. Worked out with a colleague that it’s actually more professional to be a backstabbing bitch.
Lad Litter: hahah! you’re probably right. That is also why I don’t get too close to my colleagues - it’s just easier that way.
Okay don’t shoo me away. I’m more like your friend, but like what nadnut said, one still needs to be on cordial terms, and especially if the bloke involved is one of your relations.
earthember: well of course when you add family into the mix, it becomes a little bit more complicated.
Great post. And you know me, I call a spade a spade. I don’t like you you will know it. Vice versa. Even for colleagues and family, if I don’t like them, I will be cordial but cold. And believe me, they KNOW they are in my little black book. And I cannot stand people who don’t like me pretend to be nice to me to my face and then snipe about me behind my back. Ptui!
Rachel: I agree - hypocrites like that are the worst.