Comments on: Stealing someone’s unhappy girlfriend http://mooiness.com/2008/01/20/stealing-someones-unhappy-girlfriend/ I see, I hear and I feel. And then I blog it. Sun, 20 May 2012 09:39:41 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Mooiness! » Mom wants me to steal people’s girlfriends http://mooiness.com/2008/01/20/stealing-someones-unhappy-girlfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-167715 Mooiness! » Mom wants me to steal people’s girlfriends Fri, 03 Jul 2009 13:04:45 +0000 http://mooiness.com/2008/01/20/stealing-someones-unhappy-girlfriend/#comment-167715 [...] of them are single? Me: Nope. Mom: They’ve all got boyfriends? Me: Yup. Mom: Ever thought of stealing them? Me: Err …. no because karma is a bitch. Mom: Yes yes, I suppose you are [...] [...] of them are single? Me: Nope. Mom: They’ve all got boyfriends? Me: Yup. Mom: Ever thought of stealing them? Me: Err …. no because karma is a bitch. Mom: Yes yes, I suppose you are [...]

]]> By: mooiness http://mooiness.com/2008/01/20/stealing-someones-unhappy-girlfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-146767 mooiness Tue, 03 Feb 2009 03:17:07 +0000 http://mooiness.com/2008/01/20/stealing-someones-unhappy-girlfriend/#comment-146767 lovesick: if she might be leaving the UK soon, then there's no harm in confessing your feelings. Worst scenario, you never see her again which would be the same outcome as you not telling her. So I say, "Go for it!" lovesick: if she might be leaving the UK soon, then there’s no harm in confessing your feelings. Worst scenario, you never see her again which would be the same outcome as you not telling her. So I say, “Go for it!”

]]> By: lovesick http://mooiness.com/2008/01/20/stealing-someones-unhappy-girlfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-146599 lovesick Mon, 02 Feb 2009 00:11:43 +0000 http://mooiness.com/2008/01/20/stealing-someones-unhappy-girlfriend/#comment-146599 I think I'm entering a situation which could get very nasty. I really like this girl; she's from the US and is studying here in the UK at the same University as me. She recently organised a meeting with me in a park at around midnight (yeah I know, cliché right), where we discussed everything and anything. She'd not left her accommodation all day and needed a walk / talk. The conversation then turned to her current relationship and it became clear that she isn’t happy. They apparently spend a lot of time together, but it's a matter of quantity, not quality. He is very paranoid that I will snatch her away from him; as a matter of fact, he lashed out at me verbally one evening a couple of months back, but had since apologised. I thought that was the end of it, but clearly not. It seemed that she was asking for help and/or advice, but unfortunately, being the kind of person who enjoys a quiet life (but wishes he didn't), I sat on the fence and gave her my honest opinion, but not before I'd given her my dishonest opinion. Although I think she knows that I'm interested in her, I didn't allow myself to make any moves or even hint at any strong feelings for her. I recently saw them together and they seemed to be happy. He was all over her and she seemed quite receptive to the attention. Once or twice though, our eyes met and she seemed to be saying “help!” I don’t know if she genuinely loves him, or if she’s really thinking of moving on and just pretending for now as she has to live with him. Either way, is it a justifiable use of my time / effort to get involved with someone who won’t be around for much longer as she hates living in the UK? I think I’m entering a situation which could get very nasty. I really like this girl; she’s from the US and is studying here in the UK at the same University as me. She recently organised a meeting with me in a park at around midnight (yeah I know, cliché right), where we discussed everything and anything. She’d not left her accommodation all day and needed a walk / talk. The conversation then turned to her current relationship and it became clear that she isn’t happy. They apparently spend a lot of time together, but it’s a matter of quantity, not quality. He is very paranoid that I will snatch her away from him; as a matter of fact, he lashed out at me verbally one evening a couple of months back, but had since apologised. I thought that was the end of it, but clearly not. It seemed that she was asking for help and/or advice, but unfortunately, being the kind of person who enjoys a quiet life (but wishes he didn’t), I sat on the fence and gave her my honest opinion, but not before I’d given her my dishonest opinion. Although I think she knows that I’m interested in her, I didn’t allow myself to make any moves or even hint at any strong feelings for her.
I recently saw them together and they seemed to be happy. He was all over her and she seemed quite receptive to the attention. Once or twice though, our eyes met and she seemed to be saying “help!”
I don’t know if she genuinely loves him, or if she’s really thinking of moving on and just pretending for now as she has to live with him. Either way, is it a justifiable use of my time / effort to get involved with someone who won’t be around for much longer as she hates living in the UK?

]]> By: mooiness http://mooiness.com/2008/01/20/stealing-someones-unhappy-girlfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-70384 mooiness Tue, 22 Jan 2008 11:10:10 +0000 http://mooiness.com/2008/01/20/stealing-someones-unhappy-girlfriend/#comment-70384 WaterLearner: agreed on all points though as you've said, sometimes emotions cloud our logic. :) WaterLearner: agreed on all points though as you’ve said, sometimes emotions cloud our logic. :)

]]> By: WaterLearner http://mooiness.com/2008/01/20/stealing-someones-unhappy-girlfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-70328 WaterLearner Tue, 22 Jan 2008 03:41:50 +0000 http://mooiness.com/2008/01/20/stealing-someones-unhappy-girlfriend/#comment-70328 It takes courage and effort for a person to move out of a relationship. It take a lot of wisdom and inner strength to know when and how to do it. Things of the heart can be such difficult things to handle. Sometimes only the parties involved would know best. At other times, the parties involved are the most blinded ones due to the presence of heated emotions. But I think if a relationship does not work. It's best to move out and move on. ASAP! It takes courage and effort for a person to move out of a relationship. It take a lot of wisdom and inner strength to know when and how to do it.

Things of the heart can be such difficult things to handle. Sometimes only the parties involved would know best. At other times, the parties involved are the most blinded ones due to the presence of heated emotions.

But I think if a relationship does not work. It’s best to move out and move on. ASAP!

]]> By: mooiness http://mooiness.com/2008/01/20/stealing-someones-unhappy-girlfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-70228 mooiness Mon, 21 Jan 2008 12:52:23 +0000 http://mooiness.com/2008/01/20/stealing-someones-unhappy-girlfriend/#comment-70228 blur ting: oh yeah I know the rebound period - unless of course, the previous relationship has been coasting on neutral for a very long time. And no, I'm not going to encourage her to cheat. Which brings me to ... Dabido: no, I would never go with a woman if she hasn't resolved her present situation yet. And nope, not gonna help someone cheat on their partners either - no matter how deserving it may seem for the other guy. girlstar7: yeah it's good that the topic generated this discussion. Everyone makes very logical arguments. Though sometimes logic fails us when we are not thinking straight, only the fool would repeat the same mistake twice. :) blur ting: oh yeah I know the rebound period – unless of course, the previous relationship has been coasting on neutral for a very long time. And no, I’m not going to encourage her to cheat. Which brings me to …

Dabido: no, I would never go with a woman if she hasn’t resolved her present situation yet. And nope, not gonna help someone cheat on their partners either – no matter how deserving it may seem for the other guy.

girlstar7: yeah it’s good that the topic generated this discussion. Everyone makes very logical arguments. Though sometimes logic fails us when we are not thinking straight, only the fool would repeat the same mistake twice. :)

]]> By: girlstar7 http://mooiness.com/2008/01/20/stealing-someones-unhappy-girlfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-70227 girlstar7 Mon, 21 Jan 2008 12:20:10 +0000 http://mooiness.com/2008/01/20/stealing-someones-unhappy-girlfriend/#comment-70227 I read this first and was all ready to make a comment, but I think everything I want to say has been said. I pretty much agree with Steph: a) do you want a woman who can't be on her own and b) you would be the rebound guy I've got a friend who is EXACTLY like this. She stays in unsatisfying relationships and cheats, but refuses to end them cause she doesn't want to be on her own. I don't understand it, and I tell her what I think, but hey, it's her life! I read this first and was all ready to make a comment, but I think everything I want to say has been said. I pretty much agree with Steph: a) do you want a woman who can’t be on her own and b) you would be the rebound guy
I’ve got a friend who is EXACTLY like this. She stays in unsatisfying relationships and cheats, but refuses to end them cause she doesn’t want to be on her own. I don’t understand it, and I tell her what I think, but hey, it’s her life!

]]> By: Dabido http://mooiness.com/2008/01/20/stealing-someones-unhappy-girlfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-70226 Dabido Mon, 21 Jan 2008 12:02:45 +0000 http://mooiness.com/2008/01/20/stealing-someones-unhappy-girlfriend/#comment-70226 If they cheat with you, they'll cheat on you. Make sure they break up and are 100% available before you make a move on them. Too many guys I've heard make comments like 'they don't care if a women they like has a BF or is married etc', and they make a move. It can be quite annoying when a persistent person keeps badgering claiming that you or your GF / BF etc are unhappy when you're not. But, all relationships go through tough times. Just because person A is unhappy doesn't mean they'll put up with anything person B does just to be a couple. If they do, it's usually because of a self esteem problem. Better to help their esteem and get them to make the right move [ ie leave person B they are unhappy with] than to be the 'other person'. [Because like they say, if they cheat with you, they'll cheat on you]. I know I was told by LOTS of people to make a move on a married woman at work years ago [even by my boss], but I wouldn't. Her an her husband ended up breaking up, and then his brain clicked into gear and they got back together and were very happy. [Imagine if I'd run off with her and then she or I dumped each other. I would have broken up a marriage which was just going through a troubled spot rather than helping keep them together]. But, if you REALLY like someone and you know they want an OUT from a relationship [if they mention it and it's not just hearsay], then you can always make it clear you'd wait for them to 'complete' the relationship BEFORE you make a move on them. Starting a relationship with an 'unresolved relationship' hanging over you can be pretty daunting and can even lead to the new relationship breaking up. If they cheat with you, they’ll cheat on you.

Make sure they break up and are 100% available before you make a move on them.

Too many guys I’ve heard make comments like ‘they don’t care if a women they like has a BF or is married etc’, and they make a move. It can be quite annoying when a persistent person keeps badgering claiming that you or your GF / BF etc are unhappy when you’re not.

But, all relationships go through tough times. Just because person A is unhappy doesn’t mean they’ll put up with anything person B does just to be a couple. If they do, it’s usually because of a self esteem problem. Better to help their esteem and get them to make the right move [ ie leave person B they are unhappy with] than to be the ‘other person’. [Because like they say, if they cheat with you, they'll cheat on you].

I know I was told by LOTS of people to make a move on a married woman at work years ago [even by my boss], but I wouldn’t. Her an her husband ended up breaking up, and then his brain clicked into gear and they got back together and were very happy. [Imagine if I'd run off with her and then she or I dumped each other. I would have broken up a marriage which was just going through a troubled spot rather than helping keep them together].

But, if you REALLY like someone and you know they want an OUT from a relationship [if they mention it and it's not just hearsay], then you can always make it clear you’d wait for them to ‘complete’ the relationship BEFORE you make a move on them. Starting a relationship with an ‘unresolved relationship’ hanging over you can be pretty daunting and can even lead to the new relationship breaking up.

]]> By: blur ting http://mooiness.com/2008/01/20/stealing-someones-unhappy-girlfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-70224 blur ting Mon, 21 Jan 2008 11:06:53 +0000 http://mooiness.com/2008/01/20/stealing-someones-unhappy-girlfriend/#comment-70224 I forgot to mention about the rebound period. You probably know alot about this already. That said, I guess you still need to give her time before she's ready to love again. I forgot to mention about the rebound period. You probably know alot about this already. That said, I guess you still need to give her time before she’s ready to love again.

]]> By: mooiness http://mooiness.com/2008/01/20/stealing-someones-unhappy-girlfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-70223 mooiness Mon, 21 Jan 2008 10:28:49 +0000 http://mooiness.com/2008/01/20/stealing-someones-unhappy-girlfriend/#comment-70223 herman: well, that can come even from an exclusive relationship. ;) sourrain / dreymer: yeah which is why although the theory sounds good and all, I'm probably going to stick to my good old ways - as successful as they have been! Hahahah. herman: well, that can come even from an exclusive relationship. ;)

sourrain / dreymer: yeah which is why although the theory sounds good and all, I’m probably going to stick to my good old ways – as successful as they have been! Hahahah.

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