Men are dense


January 31, 2008 10:58 PM

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A lot of problems in a relationship stem from the fact the woman in the relationship give too much credit to the man. The woman think that the man is as intuitive about emotions, feelings and things in general as she is. I’m here to tell you that we are built differently and that men are dense. Men need specifics, and men need directions. Communication is important. Don’t assume that we can guess what you are thinking. When you say that “we should know”, we really don’t. Otherwise, why would you be mad at us in the first place?

So if he did something wrong, tell him.
If he did something right, tell him.
You want this, you don’t like that. You don’t like that person. Why? He doesn’t know, so tell him.
Too slow, too fast, not enough, too much. Right there, no not there. Harder, softer.
Whatever, just tell him.

But hey, only once though. Twice maximum. Because a man is not a child. If he doesn’t learn or listen after you’ve told him more than once, why are you still with him? If you are still with him, then err … you got no excuses. 😉

9 thoughts on “Men are dense

  1. bunnygoeszen

    I think it takes more than once or twice for some stuff to sink in. Otherwise, men would be doing their fair share of the housework automatically after the second reminder. Which, doesn’t happen.

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  2. girlstar7

    A lot of girls will give guys the silent treatment, but not say why they are angry. I know guys hate this, understandably, so I try not to do it. I’ve had it done myself by female friends and I hate it just as much, so I know exactly how it feels! There are some situations where girls will get pissed off over the silliest things, and not tell their bf about it. If it’s something stupid and petty, talk to him about it, and for God sakes, get over it!
    Although I have seen situations where the girl definitely has the right to be pissed off. For example, guy is paying WAY more attention to another girl in front of her, guy forgets her b’day, guy says he’ll come pick her up and forgets to come. But if the guy continually does these sorts of things, he’s a bad boyfriend anyway, and it’s time for the girl to cut her losses and find someone who’ll treat her better. 🙂

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  3. Lad Litter

    I remember well the silent treatment from the early days of our marriage. I would never know why. This might sound petty and small-minded, but I just used to respond in kind until she was ready to talk to me. Sometimes that would take a couple of days. It soon stopped.

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  4. blur ting

    Yah, I realise that too. I used to assume they know but you’re quite right. Once I was so mad over something he said and I gave the silent treatment for days. He couldn’t figure out what I was mad at. That made me even more mad of course.

    Then I realised it’s so silly for me to be fuming inside while he goes about his life not even aware anything was amiss. The lesson is, don’t suffer alone, make sure he also suffers together! 🙂

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  5. mooiness Post author

    bunnygoeszen: I’m gonna defend some of us men by saying that not all of us are lazy, dirty slobs. 😉

    girlstar7: that’s exactly right on both points!

    Lad Litter: hahah yeah I’ve always wondered why it is that women would rather give you the silent treatment than tell you what was bothering them.

    blur ting: I got this story to tell. When I used to live with 4 girls, one of them would wait for her overseas bf to call. One night, he was late and eventually didn’t call. She was mad because she had something important to talk to him about. I asked her that if it was so important, then why can’t she call him? Her answer – “That’s not the point! He’s the one that should be calling!” Hahah. Women. 😀

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