Female bartenders: the good and the bad
It’s always good to know the person behind the bar. You get served quicker, you get recommended drinks and sometimes they make them stronger at no extra charge. To build up such a relationship with a bartender, Simon and I have the routine down pat.
We’d make our way around the pub or a club, getting drinks from as many different bartenders as possible. Once we meet ones who we consider friendly and who give good service, we’d go back to them for more.
One thing that we notice is that male bartenders tend to be the most friendly and unassuming. They are therefore the easiest to become familiar with. The worst bartenders are more often than not female, especially the pretty ones. I can understand that they’ve probably been hit on and had to deal with jerks the whole night, but they chose the job so the least that they can do is deal with it and not show attitude.
The most annoying would be when I’d wait patiently at the bar, seeing other people being served before me even though I was there first, and yet still being polite and holding a smile, and have a surly looking, pouty-face, sook of a bartender come up to me with an exasperated look, making it seem like she’s doing me a huge favour.
Then there are those who has selective friendliness – you’d see them all friendly to a bunch of people next to you, and then turn to face you with the most anal-retentive look. All within a turn of her face which is quite amazing to watch.
I mean, you are behind the bar to serve drinks. You’re not there to judge how good looking I am, or how rich or classy I seem. That’s a job for the door bitch and if she had let me in, then I don’t see why I should cop an attitude from you.
That is why we absolutely love female bartenders who are the opposite of the above. The ones who we don’t mind tipping now and again are the ones who always smile and look happy to see us, who asks us what we’ve been up to, and who knows what we want without us saying it.
It’s a two way street of course. Having been a waiter, I believe that you have to be a good customer first before you deserve good service. But the staff turnover in the industry is high so, like going after a woman, one shouldn’t waste time on a bartender who doesn’t reciprocate.
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It’s funny, I haven’t noticed this about female bartenders so much…they are usually indifferent towards me: not too friendly as they have a job to do, but not too surly either.
I think it might be because, as a female, in the club scene you have sleazy guys hitting on you ALL NIGHT. it can get really really annoying at the best of times…sometimes you just want to be left the hell alone. I know they shouldn’t take this out on you, but that’s what they most likely are doing. They are probably thinking, ‘great, another guy trying to sleaze onto me.’ So they put their guard up and act hostile.
Although if you don’t want sleazy guys cracking onto you, you probably shouldn’t be working at a bar where it’s bound to happen!
Hope you had a good weekend par-taying despite the hostile bartenders…and hope you met some nice ones too
Good post. One of my friends gives rum & cokes (etc) to her friends and simply charges them for the coke. It’s good to have connections.
I agree with you that male bartenders tend to be more friendly. It’s not because I am a female then he is being friendly to me. ^^ Male bartenders do treat my male friends friendly as well!!! My friends and I used to get a lot of free drinks and better services from this particular male bartenders until he quit the job! =(
Normally I would prefer to buy my drinks from a male bartender because they are more friendly to everyone. I do understand that those pretty female bartenders might get hit on a lot of times every week, so it’s normal for them to put the guard out to protect themselves.
hah, I learn something new again today.
I don’t know about bartenders but I saw how differently salesgirls treat customers. Last week, my son YK went into Crumpler shop in Raffles City. I went in about 5 minutes later and saw YK asking the sales girl if they had a particular model, she looked at him scornfully and gave him a curt reply. I watched from a distance away but didn’t say anything (she didn’t know YK and I are related). I went up to her later to ask about something else, she gave me the widest smile and was very friendly and polite towards me.
I guess she’s probably tired of young school students going up to her, asking lots of questions but end up not buying. She has forgotten that it’s the students ( their biggest customer base) who’re paying her salary.
That’s Ambar in the pic yah ?
girlstar7: oh we do know a couple of nice ones. And in general, we don’t let bad service spoil our night – we just go to a different bartender.
Katie: exactly! that’s one of the perks. With us, we sometimes get a double-shot for the price of one.
sophia: I do understand the need to put their guard up, but there’s a difference between being cold and perfunctory, and pure disdain.
blur ting: agreed – these ppl have jobs because we customers buy their products and services. You cannot lose sight of that, even if a small minority of customers are indeed dickheads.
herman: Metro City – downstairs.
dinner also kenot? suppper? lol but then perth is damn far away… hehe
There`s a beautiful female bartender working at Metro (or at least, she`s there everytime I happen to go). She`s always cheery and armed with a smile. She`s quick and very good at her job too (the long island tea is crap though apparently). I love her. Sometimes I can`t help but admire her for a few minutes while I stand there waiting for my drinks.
smashpOp: it’s not as if I can just take a taxi you know! Hahah!
Yuuka: beautiful eh? I’ve stopped going to Metro in a while. Maybe this is a good enough of a reason to go have a look see.
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As a female in the industry I can say a crappy bartender is a crappy bartender period. Male or female, part of your job actually the biggest part is customer relations. However just because a bartender hooks you up with free alcohol does not make them a good bartender it makes them a thief. They are stealing from the bar owner, every drink is a five dollar bill flying out the window. If the bartender is good at their job their customers won’t mind paying full price. As for bartending schools I believe it is a waste of money and time. As a bar manager I would rather train someone with no bar knowledge but a great enthusiastic personality than have to reteach someone from a bartending school.