Think you know how to read women?
Before guys knew how to read women, we really really didn’t know how to read women. With the lack of experience and knowledge, every little thing that a girl does can be interpreted favourably.
In other words, we read too much into it. Check it:
- She calls or messages you.
- She asks you to go shopping or have coffee with her. If you are lucky, maybe even lunch or dinner.
- She asks you to help her in something.
- She talks to you and is genuinely interested in what you have to say.
Wait, wouldn’t a good female friend do all that anyway? Ok so we should look at the physical signs and body language instead:
- She twirls her hair when she talks to you.
- She crosses her knees in your direction.
- She leans in towards you when you are talking.
- She touches her body during your conversation.
- She touches your body during your conversation.
- She’s smiling a lot.
Ah yes, she’s flirting. There can’t be any doubt to that right? Erm well, some girls like flirting without actually following through. Yes it’s confusing. And it’s embarrassing when you stick your neck out and realise, “Oh haha, you didn’t really mean that?! Neither did I!” *turns around and cry*
So how do you know if there’s something more? When there’s doubt, it’s kinda hard to tell. That is why some guys are kinda thick when it comes to reading signals from women who are interested in them. They’ve taught themselves to not read too much into it to protect themselves.
So yeah ladies, sometimes you really have to spell it out for us. 
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quite true. But some guys…*sigh…
and btw…leaning towards u may not necessary mean she’s interested lei. haha, 4 all u know…she’s prob playing ard with her knowledge on body language.
eh guys are the same lor… arms around you, touch you… just as bad what…
and i agree with mf… mebbe she’s hard of hearing hahaha
anyway, don’t fret, we’ll tell you if a girl’s playing you or not. that’s what us galpals are for *giggle*
its going to be thursday!! wO0T WooT!
mf: what? Toying with us? That’s just plain evil. Heheh.
Kitty: actually guys are simple - if a guy is doing that, you can be sure that if you want him, you can have him. Because he’s already signaling that he’s in the mood for more.
And yeah always good to have female wing-men! Partay!
Women nowadays are more upfront. If they do all of the above, it probably means that they like you as a person and are comfortable with you, which is important in any friendship or relationship anyway.
If they really want to be romantically involved after that, they probably won’t keep you guessing for too long. They’ll be longing to show you or even kiss you. In other words, you will know if she has the hots for you. That’s when you decide whether you like to take it further or not.
Women (and some men) can be really hard to read. I find some just are afraid to come off rude so they overdo the whole “friendly” thing and of course this leads to misunderstandings.
Before I got engaged, I sometimes used to let guys know I was interested by poking fun at them AND/or pretending to play fight with them. Seems weird, but it usually got me the attention I wanted.:)
It’s difficult for women because what we think is a clear clear signal is actually too subtle for men to pick up! Then we think he’s not interested so we give up. And if we make it clear enough for men to get, then we feel like we’re whoring it up lol. Life is complicated.
I remember when Phill and I first met up, he was driving me home and I put my hand right next to his in between the car seats. To me that was a clear signal that HEY I LIKE YOU, TAKE MY HAND but nothing happened. When I talked to him about it later, he hadn’t even realised I had done it! lol
Hmmm yes we women can be complicated, can’t we? Some girls flirt only cause it makes them feel good and cause they like the attention. Others do it cause they want you. Some girls act friendly cause they just want to be your friend, others actually LIKE you.
I like to think I’m pretty easy to read. When I like a guy, I make it pretty obvious. Even when I don’t mean to, guys say they can always kinda tell. However, I can get myself into trouble by acting friendly and guys interpret it as me being interested.
Male/female dynamics, keeps life interesting, hey?!
My best friend (male) is always checking my body language. He constantly tells me to correct my misleading signals like leaning towards someone when they talk or touching them and smiling often. I also have a bad habit of saying to people that I like them when I do.
I try to be more aloof when I`m with people who seem like they`d get the wrong idea but generally, that`s how I am. I mean if I wanted to be more than friends, I would either ask or say so (helps that I have a really high tolerance for rejection). I think everyone should! Makes life that much easier, wouldn`t you say?
Amen, Brother! And then later after the moment has well and truly passed you hear that the signals you were desperately holding back from misinterpreting were genuine.
My wife doesn’t understnd playful flirting. She thinks that if you’re not interested, you shouldn’t act as if you are.
blur ting: it’s true. Most times you can tell if a woman is into you. It’s those who are naturally flirty that confuses things for us.
Silverstar: you are right about being afraid of coming off as rude. Though sometimes I think you have to be cruel to be kind.
Katie: ok your hand just being there for your then-not boyfriend to hold is a very vague signal! I can imagine what he was thinking: should I or shouldn’t I? What if she really wanted to just rest her hand there??? Hahah.
girlstar7: the dynamics is great, I agree. Ideally I think everyone should assume that flirting is just flirting and not think too much of it. After all, if a man or a woman really wants a person there are definitely a lot more direct ways than being coy about it.
Yuuka: yes! If ppl can be more upfront there’d be less miscommunication, and less waste time and effort barking up the wrong tree.
Lad Litter: hahah oh man that is so true! You’d be like kicking yourself, “Argh!” I can understand your wife’s point though. There is such a thing as excessive flirting.
To the ladies out there, if you are not interested, just say that you are not interested. Hahaha.
Lupin - but women have ego too. They want to test water, just to see if they’re attractive.
Blur thing - I mean cases that u know at the instant that you are not.
I don’t know if Mooi agree with me, guys in general are stupid when comes to discerning these things
Lupin: at times yes - my first instinct is to act blur after past disappointments.
I confess that I’m the type that loves physical contact espcially when i feel comfortable talking to someone. By physical contact i mean a pat on the shoulder, a slap on the hand or even sometimes pulling the other ear of the other person (not to the extent of twisting it off). All these actions are just a form of expression that im enjoying the company and conversation.
However it has been more than once that i’ve been lectured by male friends that these are misleading signals to the MEN out there.
I’ve heeded that advises n tried to restrict myself…but it makes me feel so stifled that i no longer feel geniunely happy to have hearty laugh. It is as though, its wrong to laugh ur heart out… how sad can that be?
So i’ve given up trying to live up to the society’s standards and by myself. If the guy wants to take it the wrong way, i will always walk away. Since men are the ones who are crying out to us not to mislead, they lose someone who’s good to have a great conversation with
joey: well, your first two behaviour are ok but the ear-pulling is kinda intimate. But it does depend on the guy - some reads too much into it, and some are oblivious. Until you figure the guy out, I think it’s always best to play it safe.
Who knows, you might be the one who had lost a good friend to talk nothing with if you walked away or had played it wrong.
yeah, i agree with that. so it shall be reserved for the right kind of recipients!
thank you for the heads up