I’d happily take a big detour, or walk around the block to avoid bumping into someone. And then I bump into them anyway. “Oh hi, what a coincidence.” Wow, what a liar.
I’d stand in the stairwell if I know that if I walk out a minute or two sooner, I might have to make small talk with someone that I bump into the building occasionally. You know what, I really don’t want to know what’s up with you. I only ask because yeah, I got nothing else to say to you. Man, I hate that.
I’d pretend to stare out the window of the bus or train if I see in my peripheral vision someone whom I want to avoid eye contact with, just in case they recognise me and force me into small talk when I just want to sit and day dream away on my trip home or to work. It’s ok, we don’t have to talk. Really.
I stifle my natural smile and look stern, in case random people think it’s an invitation to make small talk about the weather or “oh, I didn’t know you take this bus/train too.” Yeah I do, and silence is golden.
Unless I’m in a social situation, I don’t like making small talk. Speed-dating is not a social situation. It’s fake and forced. Stop suggesting that idea to me.
I sound like I’m an anti-social bastard, and that is true. I have to be in the mood or I have to know you well and like spending time with you, or both, to be able to make small talk and let it mean something more than just you know, small talk. I think you deserve more than just empty words. Everyone does really. I don’t want your empty words, and I’m sure you don’t want mine.
So yeah that’s my excuse and I’m sticking to it.
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16 Responses to “Being an anti-social bastard”
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Jul 02 2008 / 10:22 pm
Sadly, this post reminds me of me.
I’m VERY social online.
But in the real world….I can be pretty damn avoidant.
I’ll see people I know and my gut reaction is to hide or pretend not to see them. UNLESS it’s someone that I am close to. But if it’s going to lead to a small-talk situation….
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Jul 02 2008 / 11:32 pm
I do that all the time. =X
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Jul 03 2008 / 3:34 am
Heh I do that too!
But I make exceptions for really pretty girls. (Shallow, I know) =P
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Jul 03 2008 / 9:49 am
Oh, the looking stern part should work. Then again, some people can be very persistent and annoying.
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Jul 03 2008 / 5:15 pm
Wahlau, frighteningnya. I suddenly got an anime image of someone frozen in mid small talk, covered in ice from your blizzardlike glare. Lol!
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Jul 03 2008 / 8:15 pm
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Jul 04 2008 / 11:31 am
I put on a very serious face (esp. in the gym) cos I dun like to do small talks, and tat puts pple off hehe.
Very bad, I know
Now tat I made some frens in the gym, they told me I had a very unfriendly face last time.

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Jul 04 2008 / 6:52 pm
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Jul 05 2008 / 10:53 am
i have been in this attitude mode for years anti social or whatever they call it are being true to yourself sometimes..no ones like to fake it ! or maybee yeah some do !
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Jul 05 2008 / 5:31 pm
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Jul 06 2008 / 7:00 pm
haha that is so much like me too. i hate seeing ppl you know on public transport especially monday morning when you don’t feel like talking to anyone at all.
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Jul 18 2008 / 9:31 pm
Agree with this 100%.
I suggest a public awareness campaign with the message “If you are on public transport and vaguely recognise someone the best thing is to smile, maybe even say hi, then walk on. There is no need for uncomfortable small talk if you have nothing to talk about”.
I assume you always travel with a book and something to listen to (good deterrants to an extent).
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Jul 18 2008 / 10:16 pm
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Aug 17 2008 / 1:41 pm
Hey! I just blogged about something similar to this.. though in another context. http://www.xtralicious.com/2008/07/09/running-a-business-vs-being-true-to-yourself/
Heh.
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Aug 17 2008 / 8:18 pm
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