When a woman is telling you her problems, she doesn’t necessarily want to hear your solutions to them. Most of the time, she already knows what she has to do; she just needs to vent. Furthermore, women think differently from men.
At times, a woman’s thoughts are governed more by emotions and may seem illogical to us. And some would say that they are better lateral thinkers. In any case, a woman does not need to hear your attempt at a logical solution because you are not viewing the problem like she is. She just needs you to listen.
And why is this a good idea? Because looking bored, or getting caught pretending to be interested is better than arguing back and forth about a problem that wasn’t yours to begin with. ![]()
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23 Responses to “Just shut up and listen”
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Nov 04 2008 / 9:06 pm
This also applies to men, not all men are prone to logical thinking.
For example here is an unrelated, yet nevertheless interesting website I think you would in enjoy
http://www.televisiontunes.com/index.php
P.S also that’s why women have breasts, something for men to stare at whilst listening (man I am I going to get it for that one
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Nov 04 2008 / 10:12 pm
hahaha very very true…your insight into women is pretty good i must say. hahaha~
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Nov 05 2008 / 12:00 am
True That!
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Nov 05 2008 / 2:51 am
I think what you need to do is just think about totally irrelevant things like what you’re having for dinner - that way your brains are still working and you look remotely interested
I must say, there’s nothing worse than a man coming in and trying to solve the problem with their practical thinking. Damn annoying..:P
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Nov 05 2008 / 4:11 am
pretending to listen is always good… your “orhs” are relatively well placed. The *nods* and “uh huhs” are always good practice too.
and i’m qualified to say that on all counts. *giggle* -
Nov 05 2008 / 8:11 am
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Nov 05 2008 / 12:07 pm
You should thank the blog because we spend half our time now ranting on the blog, the men are spared!
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Nov 05 2008 / 1:33 pm
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Nov 05 2008 / 2:22 pm
Wow, you really do understand women well!! Well said, I hope more men out there are reading this!
I find that in some situations I really do need advice and it is welcomed. But in these cases, I usually specifically ASK i.e. I need some advice, I don’t know what to do. However, in other situations I really do just need to VENT! In which case it is SOooooo annoying if someone tries to give you logical advice! -
Nov 05 2008 / 2:30 pm
girlstar7, I think for myself at least, we learnt from interacting with countless of womens bah. Right Mooi?
Yet, some men never learn. hahaha.
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Nov 05 2008 / 3:21 pm
Very true. In fact, the other night I got very emotional over the stupidist thing simply because I’ve been working really hard lately and I’m very tired. Phill was perfect - he listened, he hugged me and made me laugh. Just what I needed, rather than the usual argument over how silly I was being!
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Nov 05 2008 / 8:43 pm
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Nov 05 2008 / 9:38 pm
hahaha, well to be honest women are more emotional, i admit that.. hahaha …
well some women are exceptional..
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Nov 06 2008 / 8:03 am
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Nov 06 2008 / 4:36 pm
women. can’t live with ‘em…can’t live without ‘em.
XD
But seriously, this is so true, and more guys really should learn about this…and from the aforementioned Phil. *kowtows*
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Nov 06 2008 / 9:32 pm
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Nov 06 2008 / 11:07 pm
very true! unfortunately most of the time, men don’t get it.
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Nov 07 2008 / 10:26 am
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Nov 07 2008 / 1:24 pm
goodies = boobies right?
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Nov 07 2008 / 1:40 pm
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Nov 08 2008 / 2:23 am
boobies are only for moments u guys do very well!

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