Eat Drink Man WomanTuesday, 4 November 2008 08:37 pm
When a woman is telling you her problems, she doesn’t necessarily want to hear your solutions to them. Most of the time, she already knows what she has to do; she just needs to vent. Furthermore, women think differently from men.
At times, a woman’s thoughts are governed more by emotions and may seem illogical to us. And some would say that they are better lateral thinkers. In any case, a woman does not need to hear your attempt at a logical solution because you are not viewing the problem like she is. She just needs you to listen.
And why is this a good idea? Because looking bored, or getting caught pretending to be interested is better than arguing back and forth about a problem that wasn’t yours to begin with. 
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This also applies to men, not all men are prone to logical thinking.
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P.S also that’s why women have breasts, something for men to stare at whilst listening (man I am I going to get it for that one
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hahaha very very true…your insight into women is pretty good i must say. hahaha~
True That!
I think what you need to do is just think about totally irrelevant things like what you’re having for dinner – that way your brains are still working and you look remotely interested
I must say, there’s nothing worse than a man coming in and trying to solve the problem with their practical thinking. Damn annoying..:P
pretending to listen is always good… your “orhs” are relatively well placed. The *nods* and “uh huhs” are always good practice too.
and i’m qualified to say that on all counts. *giggle*
BigZ: breasts and cleavage are only for glancing at. You’re asking for more trouble if you stare. Heh.
Sarah: heheh thank you thank you! Comes from years of experience and women magazines!
Lupin: word!
sourrain: hey that’s a good technique. thanks for the tip!
Kitty: woohoo! thanks for the endorsement and approval! Hahah!
You should thank the blog because we spend half our time now ranting on the blog, the men are spared!
blur ting: heheh yes, blogging has been an additional venting outlet!
Wow, you really do understand women well!! Well said, I hope more men out there are reading this!
I find that in some situations I really do need advice and it is welcomed. But in these cases, I usually specifically ASK i.e. I need some advice, I don’t know what to do. However, in other situations I really do just need to VENT! In which case it is SOooooo annoying if someone tries to give you logical advice!
girlstar7, I think for myself at least, we learnt from interacting with countless of womens bah. Right Mooi?
Yet, some men never learn. hahaha.
Very true. In fact, the other night I got very emotional over the stupidist thing simply because I’ve been working really hard lately and I’m very tired. Phill was perfect – he listened, he hugged me and made me laugh. Just what I needed, rather than the usual argument over how silly I was being!
girlstar7: heheh but yeah, sometimes you’d like us to take you literally and other times you want us to read between the lines.
Lupin: it’s not just that we never learn, but women are always changing too.
Katie: listening and just being there takes less energy.
hahaha, well to be honest women are more emotional, i admit that.. hahaha …
well some women are exceptional..
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Lina: yeah and some are WAY emotional. Heh.
women. can’t live with ‘em…can’t live without ‘em.
XD
But seriously, this is so true, and more guys really should learn about this…and from the aforementioned Phil. *kowtows*
redbeanjon: yes, you lessen the chances of being yelled at if you say less.
very true! unfortunately most of the time, men don’t get it.
nadnut: positive reinforcements work – you see us doing something correct, you reward us with the “goodies”. Woohoo!
goodies = boobies right?
nadnut: well I meant everything nice that you’d do for us but boobies are cool too.
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boobies are only for moments u guys do very well!
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