Ever since my uni days, I’ve had more female friends than guy friends or girlfriends. A lot of my insights into women were gained by being in these platonic relationships. It hasn’t necessarily helped me get more girlfriends because sometimes the more I know about women, the more I hesitate about the emotional investment and maintenance that goes into having a girlfriend. Either that or I can spot bad female behaviour right away and I’d keep my distance from her immediately.

But all that may be the point of another post in the future. This post is about how it isn’t all that bad to be the platonic guy friend. Although I had no illusions about my relationships with these women, it was very comforting and nice to be around them at the time. Emotionally satisfying, if you will.

I’d list the little reasons why …

  • One would always look after me when I’ve had a little too much to drink, propping me up on her couch and pulling a blanket over me.
  • One would always pay me her full attention even as guys try to pick her up. Sometimes she’d pull me away into a corner to avoid other people and we can continue with our conversations.
  • One would leave handwritten notes laced with perfume in my car, so that not only would they be a nice surprise when I find them in the morning, my car would smell like her too.
  • One would let me touch her fake boobs – they were very nice looking, but very firm too. :)
  • One values my opinion of what she wears.
  • One would always cook for me when she can and asks me to go over and eat. Plus her parents loved me. Ch-yeah, who wouldn’t? :P
  • And let’s not forget all the hugging and kissing on the cheeks. I like touching girls, what can I say? Hah!

The situation in my life right now is the same as it has been: I still have more female friends and acquaintances than male ones, and I still like that arrangement very much. So yeah, being the platonic guy friend is not bad. Unless you happen to like the girl a lot, then that would really suck. You can try your luck, and hang around and wait, but don’t wait too long yeah? ;)