Comments on: What if my girlfriends were fuck buddies instead?

By: mooiness

mooiness — Fri, 06 Nov 2009 06:39:50 +0000

Lina: yup, a relationship does involve effort and headaches. I guess if you are with the right person, those things should ideally be less.

By: Mooiness! » Would you share your lover?

Mooiness! » Would you share your lover? — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 12:29:09 +0000

[...] wrote in the previous post that if there wasn’t any emotional maintenance involved in my past relationships, then they [...]

By: Lina

Lina — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 01:59:55 +0000

Yupe, I agree with you. Sex has to come with emotional connection.
But sometimes, FB is seems to be fun exciting coz there’s no emotional maintenance required, all that is needed is physical maintenance and attachment.

Get into a relationship is easy but when comes to maintaining it, it such a hassle. A relationship is not about an individual but it’s a equation of 1+1 = 2. so for now I rather enjoy my life and go for a casual dating hahaha

By: mooiness

mooiness — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 11:12:47 +0000

girlstar7: yup, having a part-time lover comes with its own problems too. It’s never as clear-cut as ppl make them to be.

stu: hahah same wavelength alright. I agree with what you said – the modern generation is less likely to put up with emotional crap for the sake of maintaining a relationship. Ironically, I don’t think our generation is necessarily happier than our parents’.

By: stu

stu — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 10:56:24 +0000

Whoa…are we on kinda the same thought wave this week or what lol

http://yelpar.blogspot.com/2009/11/i-take-thee-i-think.html

By: girlstar7

girlstar7 — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 08:28:12 +0000

At the two-month stage you are generally still in the honeymoon period: I find after two months I am still very much in lust, I still get excited just thinking about them, and still have not yet had that first argument. If things already seemed like hard work after only two months, pulling the plug was probably the best thing you could’ve done! Imagine what things would’ve been like after 2 years!!
Relationships ARE hard work and if you meet the right person it’s worth it…but the first few months should be the fun time of getting to know each other, NOT a time to think ‘omg what have I got myself into!’
I’ve had fuck buddies in the past and they can be a great thing…after a while you begin to know each other and what the other one likes, which makes it easier than a one-night stand…yet you don’t have the emotional drama of a relationship. Of course, fuck-buddy situations can get complicated because often one person will start to develop feelings for the other….But that’s a whole nother blog post in itself: being in a casual r’ship where you develop feelings!

By: mooiness

mooiness — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 08:16:08 +0000

Yes, sex with someone whom you don’t have an emotional connection with is indeed kinda dull and surreal.

Thanks for the kind wishes!

By: Sherbie

Sherbie — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 04:09:25 +0000

Hey, interesting views. I think I used to be like tat when I was younger…but now come to think of it, it feels pretty weird to just make love with someone for the sake of satisfying your physical needs.

Being in a r/s and maintaining it is not easy,but hey once u have found that someone, I can tell you it’s all worth it!

Good luck in your pursuit of happiness! =)