Comments on: Would you share your lover?

By: mooiness

mooiness — Wed, 31 Aug 2011 07:31:23 +0000

Exactly! And if the arrangement is no longer working out for everyone concerned, then it’s best to be honest about it and disband if necessary.

By: Hades

Hades — Wed, 31 Aug 2011 04:13:29 +0000

I agree. I am a happily married man who believes in monogamy but if someone doesn’t, who am I to lecture him or her on it? However the problem arises when someone is okay with it at first but over time sees the other party paying more attention to the third party than themselves, and envy creeps in. We may think we are emotionally mature but until we come to an emotional bridge we can’t really tell if we can cross it. I chose to avoid that emotional bridge altogether and am happy with my wife, but hey different strokes for different folks!

By: Mooiness! » In an open relationship, but with kids?

Mooiness! » In an open relationship, but with kids? — Sun, 21 Aug 2011 03:51:25 +0000

[...] had a conversation yesterday that reminded me of what I had wrote previously about sharing a lover. I’m pragmatic about it and my opinion of it remains unchanged and that is: if everyone [...]

By: mooiness

mooiness — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 08:42:28 +0000

Yes, feelings can develop from a casual relationship and that’s when you have to re-evaluate the situation. If you can’t come to a new agreement, then it has to be broken up.

By: girlstar7

girlstar7 — Sun, 08 Nov 2009 09:26:21 +0000

There’s a funny scene from the British version of The Office:
Gareth is at a nightclub and starts making out with a biker chick whilst a biker guy watches. Gareth asks, ‘who’s that guy watching?’ And the girl says, very casually, ‘oh that’s just me husband, he doesn’t mind!’ like it’s not a big deal at all.
Whilst I definitely understand the polygamy thing, it’s not without its problems and ground-rules must be set. I think it’s something I could do, in theory, if I didn’t have strong feelings for the guy. I’ve had fuck buddies in the past where both of us were allowed to be with other people and nobody got jealous. However, if I started to fall in love with the guy, it would be a totally different story. Once those feelings kick in, it can be very hard to picture that person being with someone else, and if things got that far, I just don’t think I could do it. I like to think that I’m not a jealous person, but when I develop strong feelings, I can’t stop the jealousy completely.
But for some people, it works just great…that’s why there are so many swingers clubs around making great business!

By: mooiness

mooiness — Sun, 08 Nov 2009 02:39:16 +0000

Yup, totally agree. Which is why I believe there is more than one way to achieve relationship bliss.

By: budgie

budgie — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 08:47:21 +0000

Interesting blog – multiple partners in an open and honest situation, where everyone is harmonious and happy, is called polyamoury (multiple loves). It is not as uncommon as some might think, I myself know a polyamourous triangle who live together and are very strong as their relationship is based on communication, honesty and respect. There is no jealousy if there is no deception I guess.