Comments on: An easy relationship is a real relationship too

By: mooiness

mooiness — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 08:53:24 +0000

That, and also some feel that they have invested too much time into the relationship to give up on it. Even though, time spent should really be considered “sunk costs” that cannot be recovered.

By: blur ting

blur ting — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 05:40:14 +0000

In the case of pre-marital relationships, you are very right. It’s as simple as that but too many people drag all kinds of other emotions into in and hence, never find the courage to split.

By: mooiness

mooiness — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 04:06:22 +0000

Yes, should have made it more clear. I was referring not to marriages where kids, property and finances are involved. Just your regular pre-marital relationships.

By: girlstar7

girlstar7 — Sun, 15 Nov 2009 09:42:10 +0000

I think once marriages become very long-term and children become involved, the situation is completely different. The relationship might seem like really hard work but splitting up may be harder work because you need to think about the children, how they will be affected, who they will live in, not to mention mortgages, the splitting of the assets, division of property etc. I also think that once you are in a long-term marriage things will never be easy: romance is replaced by needs such as looking after children and paying the bills.
However, I think if the situation is where a couple are simply in a relationship where they don’t have property, marriage vows or children they really shouldn’t stay if the relationship feels like all hard work and no fun! If you feel miserable more than you feel happy, that’s a bad sign and you should run…you shouldn’t forsake your own happiness just for the sake of being in ANY relationship rather than being on your own.