Eat Drink Man WomanWednesday, 23 December 2009 11:25 pm
2 Married Women and 2 Single Men
Tham and I have been seeing two married women on their own for dinner and drinks lately. Tham is a long time friend of the first woman, and the other woman is this woman’s old friend too. Their husbands know about us and don’t seem to mind.
I wonder if the situation was reversed, where Tham and I were two married men who go out on these outings with two single women, how would society view us? Would our wives even let us go to these things? Would they even accept the explanation that we’ve been long time friends? I mean, why would two married men want to hang around two single women, if not for the obvious?
Double standards yeah? Food for thought. 
Good point..but I don’t totally agree. All my serious boyfriends have had female friends, some of whom were single at the time, and some of whom weren’t. In the majority of circumstances, I didnt mind at all. I had met these women, saw that there was no sexual tension and was perfectly fine with them hanging out. I think i would be the same if it was my husband. Just because he is married and she happens to be single, doesn’t mean they can’t be friends…there may not even be sexual tension. Plus I hope I would trust my husband enough not to worry about these things.
I would only start to worry under particular circumstances: e.g. they are speaking WAY too often, spending way too much time together, or there are signs that she is thinking of him as more than a friend.
But if it seemed strictly platonic, I would be perfectly fine with that. My personal belief is that, in MOST cases, you shouldn’t have restrictions on who your spouse can/can’t see…it’s their life, and placing these restrictions only creates more problems and can make them resent you and push them away.
Just my two cents worth anyway, I know many women wouldn’t agree but maybe I’m different!
Although you may say that you don’t mind it, I still think a little bit of doubt and suspicion would creep in whether you like it or not. Even if things on the surface may seem harmless.
But then again, you could also be in the minority of women who think like this.
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