Well, not THAT way because that would be way too awesome, I think…

Anyways, this is not about the bunch of married women which I’ve mentioned recently. I’ve known these ladies/girls/women since my uni days, and they are all now happily married to very fine gentlemen/boys/men, and I got asked to join them for dinner tonight – as in the one single guy, me joining 5 married women on a girl’s night out for dinner.

I can’t make it but that’s not the point of this story. The story is that I am realising more and more that married or otherwise unavailable women love my company. Yes, I’m not being very humble about it at all because it’s true.

In fact, I know a third group of married women and much to my mom’s disappointment I hang out with a bunch of girls who all have boyfriends.

Being the honourary sister and gal pal? I’ve got that down pat. Now if I could just get single AND available women to like my company as much as these ladies/girls/women do, then yay! Until then, FML.

I once knew a girl who said that she was ok with being a guy’s secret girlfriend, all the while putting up with the need to be discreet and never having the right to place any demands on the guy’s time. He will see her when he wants, but not the other way around.

She had said that she was getting what she wanted out of the affair: sex and companionship without the commitment and responsibilities of an official girlfriend. But eventually as expected, she got tired of the whole arrangement and thus ended it.

The whole thing may have been totally different if everyone knew of each other’s existence and there was no need to play hide and seek. But alas, while some say that humans are not genetically predisposed to being faithful, we can all definitely agree that we would feel jealous and selfish about sharing our mates.

Some mistresses know their places and behave accordingly, but some also secretly harbour the desire to become “the wife”. But the cold hard truth is: the man will most likely not leave his wife or girlfriend and the mistress will most likely never take her place. The reason the arrangement exists is because the whole thing is illicit and exciting to him. That’s the whole point of the affair – he has the best of both worlds.

Even if he does leave her, there’s no guarantee that he won’t have an affair with someone else. And there’s something inherently unfair in being someone’s guilty pleasure on the side, when that someone has a woman waiting at home and you are his emotional and sexual toy whenever he feels like playing with you.

To a certain extent, this can be applied to men too. Why be with someone for some of the time when you can be with someone else all of the time? In other words, why be someone’s dessert on the side when you can be the main course with someone else?

Last night, I went to The Garden at Leederville with Tham and Robert and we all thought it was an awesome place. It’s right next to the pumping Leederville Hotel and it’s sorta an extension of it. There’s an area enclosed by glass walls that is the dining area, and then a bar with lots of high tables and stools surrounding it. There’s also a roof-top lounge and a couple of sunken vergola areas. It all looked very chic but it still felt very casual and comfortable.

The Leederville Hotel’s main dance area is situated right next to The Garden. You can peek into it and you can see the disco lights bounce off the walls. With the music spilling out from there, you get that nightclub vibe but it was not so loud that you can’t talk to each other. Though you can’t walk across to The Leederville directly – you still have to walk around the block to get to the queue, and at first I thought that kinda sucked but in hindsight, I think it helps gives that secluded feel.

There were a lot of pretty people walking to and fro the place which just makes us guys love it even more. It’s my new favourite night spot.

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I caught Joe Wong on Letterman last night and man, he’s hilarious! The above clip is of that performance. His schtick revolves around him telling his story about being an immigrant in the US, all told in a very thick mainland-Chinese accent. And his deadpan face whilst telling his jokes just adds to the humour.

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Whilst googling his name, I came across another clip showing his first appearance on Letterman early last year. The article which highlighted the clip also mentions the fact that it took Joe 4-years from being discovered by The Late Show’s talent coordinator and audience warm-up comic Eddie Brill, to being actually performing on Letterman. That story is told in depth here:

Tonight on Letterman: A four-year overnight sensation – TV Squad.

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Who wants to be alone? Not me tonight! Wooo! See you at Tiesto!

Even though I’m from KL, I think Penang has the best food in Malaysia. West Malaysia, at least.

Here are some of my favourite foods that I enjoyed during my short stay there last month. First up, my all-time favourite: Char Kuay Teow, or Penang Fried Kuay Teow as it is known outside of Penang.

Wok-fried flat rice noodles with egg, prawns, cockles, beansprouts and chives. Yum.

Next is also a famous food export out of Penang, Hokkien Mee, or Penang Prawn Mee everywhere else.

Hokkien egg noodles, vermicelli, prawns, sliced boiled pork, half an hard-boiled egg, kang-kong greens, beansprouts, all served in a hearty prawn broth with a dollop of sambal belacan. Wooo.

This is a slightly more simple item: Kuay Teow Tng. It consists of flat rice noodles, fish-cake, fishballs, slivers of chicken, pieces of congealed pork blood in clear chicken broth.

Real Mee Goreng, fried by either ethnic Chinese or Indian hawkers? You betcha.

This is Char Kuay Kak – blocks of rice cakes, similar in texture to rice noodles, fried in a similar style to Char Kuay Teow. Delicious? Yes!

And finally, Ice Kacang – Penang’s version of the shaved-ice dessert that is popular throughout South-East Asia.

I miss Penang food.

The other night I was talking to Lydia about my previous post, “To be the rebound, or not to be“. She gave two good reasons why sometimes you might want to wait and not be the rebound guy.

1. Some girls do have to go through the rebound guy before being “normal” again.
2. There’s a chance that the girl might get back together with her ex. If you’ve already stuck your neck out, there’s no place for you to retreat to. It’s already out there. And that’s just really awkward. Even worse is if you do become the rebound guy, and she goes back to him after you. Ouch.

I’ve been the rebound guy once and the whole thing fizzled out pretty fast. Luckily for me, I didn’t feel too much for her so I wasn’t cut deep. And the fooling around was good while it lasted.

Live and learn, right?