When they are more into you than you are into them
Whilst walking back to the office during my lunch hour yesterday, I saw a couple being kissy-face and saying their goodbyes. The guy turned around and started walking away while the girl just stood there for a while, looking at him wistfully.
She started to walk away too before turning around to look at him again. He didn’t turn around. She walked a few more steps and then turned around again to look. I could almost feel how giddy she was as she half-smiled and turned around to walk away for real this time.
But it got me thinking, doesn’t it seem like the girl is more into the guy than he is into her? Although I think that in every relationship, it’s bound to be like that. No one can find that perfect match for each other, even if it may feel like that in the initial stages of the relationship. Sooner or later, the relationship will mean more to one person than the other.
Besides something obvious like the situation above, another indication would be when one partner places the relationship above everything else, while the other treats it with the same importance as other things such as friends and family.
Or, one expects and uses the relationship to fulfill all of their emotional needs while the other has a more balanced approach to it. That is that their happiness in life does not hinge on the one person.
Yes, while it is inevitable that a relationship may not be totally balanced, the goal is still to seek out one where the differences in perception is not irreconcilable. Where the one being doted on does not feel suffocated, and the one doing the doting does not feel unappreciated. 
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I think it’s a girl thing. To be more lovey dovey.. to execute the half turn.. hoping to make eye contact with your love ones.. just like in the romantic movies (or at least asian dramas).
A guy, unless you are an emo type (may not necessarily a bad thing), doesn’t usually do this. They would express that they’re into their girl in a more useful, very guy kinda way. Like.. picking up the girl from the airport, move heavy objects, paint the house, mow the lawn or something.
Sometimes, when my boyfriend drop me off at work, I usually want to go all kissy and emo when parting.. then he went.. honey, we’re blocking the traffic.. get out of the car, quick!! Logical, hey, but can still annoy me.
Methinks.. traffic can wait! Don’t u wanna say goodbye properly to me! Hethinks.. God, woman.. I’ll see you again in 8 hours.
Heheh thanks for sharing your story. I do agree with your analysis though. Most guys are ruled by logic rather than emotion.
I think in most couples one person is always slightly more into the relationship than the other. Personally, I’ve been in both situations and I prefer if the guy is more into me!
As Patricia stated, women are more emotional and men tend to be more logical, which means if the woman is more into the relationship she can end up getting emotional, irrational and very hurt.
Of course it’s better to find a relationship where it’s as close to equal as you can get, but this can be difficult! Good luck in your search to find a woman who rocks your world as much as you rock hers!
Yup that would be the ideal relationship but my point is that even if it’s not perfectly balanced, it can still be a good relationship.
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