The other night, I was talking about brothels with Sel. Yeah I have awesome female friends. She was saying how she advised a single guy friend to visit a brothel rather than spend money and try to pick up.

Me: wow u adviced that? i am so proud of u. it depends on how much u spend on the night tho. in perth, it’s expensive to go to brothels.
Sel: really? how much?
Me: yar. $180 for half hour. good one that is.
Sel: that’s about 20 drinks.
Me: yeah.
Sel: same same la. hahahah.
Me: yeah true. but no guarantee with a girl at a club.
Sel: my point exactly.

So in summary, a brothel may be more expensive but it’s a sure thing and takes less effort. And sometimes I think it’s good to get it out of the system, so to speak. Heheh. Because having sex on the mind all the time, due to a drought, can cloud one’s judgement. And that ain’t good when you are in the mood for a serious relationship.

Whilst walking back to the office during my lunch hour yesterday, I saw a couple being kissy-face and saying their goodbyes. The guy turned around and started walking away while the girl just stood there for a while, looking at him wistfully.

She started to walk away too before turning around to look at him again. He didn’t turn around. She walked a few more steps and then turned around again to look. I could almost feel how giddy she was as she half-smiled and turned around to walk away for real this time.

But it got me thinking, doesn’t it seem like the girl is more into the guy than he is into her? Although I think that in every relationship, it’s bound to be like that. No one can find that perfect match for each other, even if it may feel like that in the initial stages of the relationship. Sooner or later, the relationship will mean more to one person than the other.

Besides something obvious like the situation above, another indication would be when one partner places the relationship above everything else, while the other treats it with the same importance as other things such as friends and family.

Or, one expects and uses the relationship to fulfill all of their emotional needs while the other has a more balanced approach to it. That is that their happiness in life does not hinge on the one person.

Yes, while it is inevitable that a relationship may not be totally balanced, the goal is still to seek out one where the differences in perception is not irreconcilable. Where the one being doted on does not feel suffocated, and the one doing the doting does not feel unappreciated.