Feminine charms allow women to get away with a lot of things, especially with guys. I say boo to that. You girls should know this: the only reason why some guys let you get away with the bullshit that you pull on them is because they are either shagging you or they want to shag you. And even then there’s a limit.

The rest of us who aren’t infatuated with you will treat you the way we would treat a guy friend and that is we would call you out on your crap and put you in your place. The day that we can’t even be bothered with that is the day that we can’t be bothered with the friendship anymore either.

It doesn’t have to come to that and we are not asking for a lot. A little common decency, consideration and politeness goes a long way. That’s how you want to be treated yourself, right?

And if you are a guy and you constantly find yourself being taken for granted by your female friends, this mantra will serve you well.

Her boyfriend is the one who has to put up with her shit because he’s the one who gets the poontang.

Today, while I was the only person on my team who was free to talk a call, a customer hung up on me three times. The first time he got offended by something that I said (I don’t know what) and just hung up abruptly. A minute later, he called and got me again. Recognising my voice, he asked for my manager immediately without even a hello and when I said that he wasn’t available to take a call, he hung up on me again. And funnily enough he called a few minutes later and got me again. He heard me introduced myself and then hung up instantly. Heheh. I would feel for him if he wasn’t so rude.

For the rest of the day I analysed my words over and over again to try and understand what I could have said differently. In the end I couldn’t so I thought, “ah fuck it, some things are not meant to be understood.”

My opinion on happiness is the same – it’s not necessary to understand why you are happy. You just are. And as long as your pursuit of happiness is not immoral or illegal and it doesn’t harm yourself or other people then you are doing fine. Even better if it is not based on arbitrary milestones or timetable, whether yours or other people’s. All of which is a long way of saying:

You are happy because you are happy.

It doesn’t have to be logical and it doesn’t need a reason. Some need a lot to be happy and some don’t. There’s no right way or wrong way about it. What works for you may not work for me and I’m not going to try your way just because you feel that there’s no possible reason that I should be happy with what I have.

And if you say that I don’t know what I’m missing out on, I’m gonna say that if I don’t know what I’m missing out on, I can’t be missing it now can I?

Ignorance is bliss. Look at how happy they are.

… because this could have turned out very differently if he was.

As it is, because he’s 14 people are fretting that he might have to be locked up in a jail with adult criminals because Indonesia does not have a juvenile detention system.

Indonesia juveniles in adult jails – Asia-Pacific – Al Jazeera English.

While a rabid mob is frothing at the mouth about boycotting Bali until Indonesia releases the boy.

Support grows for boycott over arrest of 14-year-old – Sydney Morning Herald

The boy even got a call from the Prime Minister.

Prime Minister Julia Gillard has spoken to a 14-year-old boy facing drugs charges in Bali | The Australian.

Make no mistake about it – if he was 18 years or older he would not be getting the same treatment. But the government is obligated to help especially when the person involved is a minor. I would expect the government to offer consular and legal assistance as well as arranging for a way for the parents to stay in touch with boy, all of which have been done. One would also expect the government to push for leniency and if jail time was required, to push for the kid to be housed in a better environment if there exists one.

However to expect the government to ask for his unconditional release is idiotic. We wouldn’t take kindly if the situation was reversed. We expect foreigners to respect our laws and culture when they come into this country so why the hypocrisy and double-standards? Our former foreign minister, Alexander Downer had wrote an excellent piece about this mentality before so I will just quote him on this:

After about 10 minutes as foreign minister I was a little surprised to learn I was “responsible” for miscreant Australians who got into trouble in foreign countries.

No, no, no, don’t get it wrong – drug traffickers, drunks, kleptomaniacs and fraudsters weren’t responsible for their own stupidity – I was.

It’s about time that great nanny in Canberra, the Federal Government, turned around and told people they are responsible for their own decisions.

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Remember two things when you travel. First, there are no special laws for Australians overseas. Foreigners make the laws over there, not us. And secondly, foreigners do things differently and they’re entitled to.

Idiot Aussies: Grow up and take responsibility | Adelaide Now.

All this blame and finger-pointing going on about the evil Indonesian drug dealers and big bad Indonesian police but no one talks about the kid’s stupidity …

Bali teen ‘bragged about drugs before arrest’.

… or asks the question about why the parents didn’t educate the kid about the dangers of associating with drugs in South-East Asian countries?

But very luckily for him, due to his age even the Indonesian government might be looking to avoid a diplomatic incident and will be going easy on him.

Police have confirmed to AAP they are now more likely to deal with the boy under article 128 of Indonesia’s narcotics laws.

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Bali Police drugs squad chief Mulyadi said that while the investigation was ongoing, he suggested it was now more likely the boy would avoid a jail term.

Hopes rise Bali teen can avoid prison | The Australian.

My take from all of this? It’s never too early to talk to your kids about drugs especially when you are taking them on holidays to places that enforce the death penalty for drug possession and trafficking. And that other places are precisely that: other places and not Australia.

The past two weeks I have been doing what every single person who lives alone would have to do – buying groceries, cooking and cleaning up, vacuuming and doing the laundry. It’s tiring drudgery, especially after coming home from work and you feel like doing nothing at all.

I got thinking about how much more time and effort it is for those who are parents. Even more impressive are the single parents, those who can’t afford hired help or day care, or those who don’t have in-laws or parents near by to help out with the kids. And it must be especially hard for those who work long hours or do manual labour.

And then this is assuming that the kids that you have are healthy both physically and mentally. I can’t yet imagine myself sacrificing so much of my free time and energy, and my social life to looking after someone other than myself. So to all the parents out there, my parents and your parents, I salute thee.