It is true that we hurt the people we love the most. And one of the ways that happen too easily is when we start taking them for granted. We expect things from them just because and we don’t thank them for it. So conversely, the easiest way to maintain a strong relationship is to show gratitude.
They found that, the more often a participant acted understanding, validating and caring toward their partner, the more appreciated their partner felt, and the happier both were in the relationship. These behavioral displays — leaning in to your partner when they are speaking, making eye contact, giving comforting touches — are important ways that people show gratitude.
Compared to saying “I love you”, showing thanks is much easier to do and less awkward to say if one grows up in a family that don’t say it often, if ever. Saying “thank you” is an equally powerful way to show that you care, especially when you don’t have to. Even more so when you say the two words rather than a perfunctory “thanks”.
So, say thank you often to the people in your life and really mean it. It’s the easiest way to make them feel good, and when they feel good you’d feel good.