LinksFriday, 12 September 2008 09:14 pm

Continuing on with this week’s theme of love and all that, this is a song by one of my favourite dance vocalists, Nadia Ali (formerly of Iio, of “Rapture” fame) called “Crash and Burn” – a song about the risk of falling in love. It’s cheesy but overlaid on a great beat and tune.

Here are the words to it, which reads like a script to every person’s first experiences with love …

You knew me better than anyone ever
And I remember your very first letter
We were so young and all that we wanted was more

We feed each other like rebels on Harley’s
And I knew how to enter your body
But at the speed that we drove we were bound to wash out

We flew…

And I could read every word you were thinking
You gave me something I never was given
It was heaven and hell all at once as we laughed, and cried

There always needs to be one that is willin’
To throw a rope down to someone who’s slippin’
But sometimes you gotta know when to let it go…

[x2]
We flew, rockets to the sun
Knowin’ we’d crash and burn
That’s the risk we run when you fall, in love

Rockets to the sun
Knowin’ we’d crash and burn
That’s the risk we run when you fall, in love

We flew, rockets to the sun
Knowin’ we’d crash and burn
That’s the risk we run when you fall, in love

In love, in love, in love, in love…

We flew rockets to the sun
Knowin’ we would crash and burn
We flew rockets to the sun
Knowin’ we would crash and burn

Eat Drink Man WomanTuesday, 9 September 2008 10:45 pm

Clay cupids
ernestbon @ stock.xchng

I don’t believe in persistence. Worse than spending a lot of time and energy to pursue a girl who is available, is waiting for that girl who isn’t. There are several reasons why this is generally a bad idea.

  1. As soon as a girl meets you, you are immediately placed on one of her two “ladders” – the friends-only ladder, and the potential-boyfriend ladder. It’s called the ladder theory. If you are on the friends-only ladder, it’s a long distance to try and jump across to the potential-boyfriend ladder. And you probably wouldn’t find out until she becomes single and you find out the hard way. Think of all that time wasted on a girl that you weren’t ever gonna get anyway!

    Things may not be quite as bad if you are on the potential-boyfriend ladder and you are hanging around until she’s available. But, you still have to wait no matter what. Think of other girls who may be just as good for you but you had overlooked because you are hanging around this one girl like a chump.

  2. How much time are you gonna give it? You may think that you are in with a chance because of signals that you interpret, or words that she says. But nothing is concrete and she may just be stringing you along. She probably enjoys the extra attention to supplement her relationship with her boyfriend.

    You may also think that you are in with a chance because it seems like her relationship is on shaky grounds. But women are a sentimental creature and are more willing to try and patch things up because of the fond memories that she has of the relationship, no matter how bleak and unhealthy it currently is. So if you are gonna be hanging around, be prepared to suffer through her mini break-ups and making up with her boyfriend, which will feel like you’d been kicked in the nuts each time that it happens.

  3. Ok so she’s finally available. But unless you just want to nail her for the sex, you probably think that’s it’s wise to not jump in right away. You’d think that it’s best that your relationship is not the rebound relationship. You want it to last, see? So you play it cool. But then how long do you wait again?

    Meanwhile, she meets some random dude in a club who ends up being the rebound guy but it’s ok for him because at least he’s getting some sex out of it. And you’re not! Oh the agony. Turns out you should have jumped in right away anyway. Chivalry is dead, my friend.

So yeah, waiting for that girl who isn’t available right now? Bad idea. But as cynical as I am, I’m not ruling out the off chance that things may turn out ok for all parties concern. I say this because I’ve seen this work for one guy before. He was the guy who was hanging around this girl whom I had tried to ask out.

He waited for her while she was with another guy. He waited for her after the break up to give her some time, because she “wasn’t ready for a relationship yet”. He even waited around while other guys like me tried to ask her out. Gotta admire the guy’s patience, huh?

Me? I can’t do it because I don’t believe that it should be so hard. But that’s probably why I’m single and he married her. ;)

Eat Drink Man WomanSunday, 7 September 2008 01:48 pm

A single complete sprout
Nerian @ stock.xchng

Being a perennial single person, there are frequent times when I’d ask myself:

  • Why is everyone else coupled up except for me?
  • Is there something wrong with me?
  • Why do I always meet people who are not available?
  • Why do I not feel something for people who are available?

If I’m not careful, I can spiral into a deep depression as a result of all that self-doubt. That is why I have a mantra:

“I complete myself.”

To me, human love is an artificial construct. Contrary to social expectations, sappy rom-coms and commercials, I feel that it is not the key component of one’s happiness, nor is it the only way to attain happiness. Therefore, love does not complete me – I complete me.

If you accept the mantra, then when love actually comes, it is not a crutch, and it does not fill a void; it’s the wonderful thing that elevates you into an extraordinary place.

LinksFriday, 5 September 2008 09:48 pm

These Christians know how to party. Big ups! :mrgreen:

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Personal and TechWednesday, 3 September 2008 10:01 pm

My iPhone 3G

This is my second month with the iPhone 3G. For the most part, I love using it and it has been a worthwhile purchase. Before I get to how it’s changed my daily commute and other things, I’ll list the things that I wish could have been done better or that took a while to get used to.

The not-so-good includes:

  1. It can’t recognise numbers stored on the SIM card, and therefore cannot transfer them from the SIM to the phone. To get all my contacts onto the phone, I had to use my colleague’s Mac and its bluetooth connection to first transfer the numbers off my Nokia 6280 onto the address book in his Mac, and then use iTunes to transfer the numbers to my iPhone. If I didn’t have access to a Mac, well I probably would have had to do it manually.
  2. You can’t easily save numbers from calls missed, received, and dialed, or in text messages. There’s just no function to do so. You have to manually key the number in by flipping back and forth between the call log and the virtual keypad, which thankfully retains what you type as you flip between screens. Otherwise, this would have been an even bigger pain.

    (Update 6th Jan 2009 – ok I’m a dork. I’ve now figured out that touching on the blue arrow is different to touching the actual number that it is next to. It takes you to a screen that allows you to save the number. :P )

  3. I’m ok with the camera being 2 Megapixel but the focus is slow and it’s kinda fiddly to use because the shutter button is virtual. This makes it hard to take self-potraits or reverse shots. And you can’t do MMS which is a glaring deficiency in such a multimedia capable phone. Oh yeah, no video either but that’s not that big a deal.
  4. I’ve mentioned this before and that is: the virtual keyboard takes a little while getting used to. And even after that, you can’t do single-hand texting easily like you can with a phone with a more tactile feel. So you can forget about texting coherently if you are holding a drink in your other hand.
  5. You can do your own custom ring tones but it’s not as straight forward as copying a sound or a song onto the phone. And you can’t do custom message tones, even if you buy them from the iTunes store. Because the phone just doesn’t have that capability. And that sucks. I miss my Yoda message tone that says, “Mmm, message from the dark side you have.”
  6. The phone software updates can potentially fail and you will have to restore your phone from the automatic backups (now I know why iTunes do it!). Which is not so bad if it didn’t mean having to sync up my songs to the phone again. Depending on how many songs you had on the phone, this can take a while. Because yeah, when the updates fail? It wipes the hard disk clean. Oh you’d also have to re-download any apps which you have downloaded from the iTunes Apps store previously. This area of the phone should have been done much better than this.

Ok so those are my major complaints. But I still enjoy using the phone a lot. The big sell for me? 3G Internet surfing and the iPod touch functionalities. Thanks to both of these, my daily commute feels shorter and is much more enjoyable.

Despite reports of 3G reception problems, on my daily route to and from work the signals are strong enough for me to have a good surfing experience. I use Google Reader, and news sites like News.com.au and NYTimes.com – all of which have iPhone versions so they are light on the multimedia and loads up fairly quickly. The amount of information on screen is just right, and text is easy to read and scrolling is smooth. Try and read a full size site though and that’s when you really notice the inadequacy of the screen, so I don’t.

Checking my Gmail is also simple and easy to set up. I don’t compose or reply to messages though because that would take too much effort. Other useful internet applets includes Yahoo! Weather and Google Maps, both of which I use quite often.

There are also other apps, free or paid ones, available from the iTunes Apps store. So far, I’ve got the Facebook one and the New York Times one.

My iPhone3G as an iPod touch

And finally, the iPod touch. I love it, I don’t know how I lived without it. I’m now listening to more music than I did before. I’ve been ripping a lot of CDs, and in addition to what I normally download (shhh), I’ve been purchasing more music as well in CD form and from the iTunes store. The iTunes store is quite well done because if I find one song that I like, it recommends 5 more to me. This can get addictive and it’s very easy to just click and purchase more than you want to.

To really enjoy the iPod, I’d highly recommend getting a pair of 3rd party headphones. I got a pair of Seinheiser in-ear ones from the Apple store. And these are great. Like how you’d press normal earphones into your ear to hear better, except you don’t have to because these block out outside noise. You don’t have to turn it up so it’s good for your hearing and you don’t disturb others. Only downside is that it can get quite mucky because you are pushing them into your ears, so you will have to clean them after every use.

And lastly, because you are constantly touching the phone it will require daily cleaning if you want it to look its best all the time. Oh yeah I almost forgot – the phone itself? Call reception and quality is nothing fantastic, but nothing shoddy either. It’s adequate.

As a package though, you are getting so much more than a phone. Because of the way it looks, the touch screen, and how it feels in your hand, the whole thing just rocks.

Eat Drink Man Woman and News CommentarySunday, 31 August 2008 08:45 pm

Greg Bird is a player in the National Rugby League and Katie Milligan is his American girlfriend. Early last week, Greg allegedly glassed Katie in the eye while arguing in his apartment. When they were attended to in a hospital, they had told medical staff that it was Greg’s friend Brent Watson who did it.

Luckily, Brent was not stupid and he also had a solid alibi. He went to the police and told his version of events. Greg Bird was then charged with maliciously inflicting grievous bodily harm and assault occasioning actual bodily harm, and his league club the Cronulla Sharks had stood him down indefinitely.

LeagueHQ – The footballer, the glassed girlfriend and his fall guy … one teed-off mate
Police charge NRL ace Greg Bird for lover Katie Milligan assault | NEWS.com.au

So I’m trying to understand Katie’s actions and logic here. Perhaps this is his first violent outburst, or perhaps she thought that she was to be blamed for provoking him. And she thought it’s probably not worth it to trash his reputation and career over, so she had agreed with him to frame a friend of his. In the heat of the moment, I can sorta understand how all of that could have happened.

But what went through the minds of these two deluded individuals to make them think that Brent Watson was just going to quietly take the wrap for something that he didn’t do? Friends or not, this was something ridiculous to expect a person to do.

And after being discharged from hospital, we’ve now learnt that Katie had signed with a lawyer linked to Greg’s management. Which probably means that she’s still on his side, potentially hampering police investigations into the assault.

Greg Bird’s girlfriend Katie Milligan may not speak out | NEWS.com.au

All of which begs the question? Why do seemingly intelligent women put up with violent men and make excuses for them? I can understand it if children are involved and leaving the man is not a simple thing to do. I can even understand it if the woman is financially dependent on the man.

But with Katie, none of this applies. Helping him excuse his behaviour away and trying to cover up for him is the first step to something worst. Katie was lucky not to have lost her eye. Next time might be a different story. And if next time, she still sticks up for him then she really deserves the man that she’s got.

Because she’s shown to him that he can do whatever he wants with her, she can forget about getting any respect or dignity from him. Why should he when she doesn’t even have respect and dignity for herself?

Photo bloggingThursday, 28 August 2008 08:39 pm

Blur ting thinks that I’m a brilliant blogger. She said,

An animal lover, Mooiness is also a party animal (on weekends only) who blogs brilliantly about the night life in Australia and his admiration for babes.

Why thank you very much! Erm yeah I always have a problem with such high praise. I only hope that I don’t suck from hereon. Heh.

But yeah she’s right on all counts. I have a pet staffordshire-terrier cross called “Snoop” whom I love running and playing with.

snoop-window

I’m a caffeine …

caffeinated-stuff

fueled clubber …

gary-me-future-music-festival

who likes partying with the ladies. :mrgreen:

clubbing-with-girls

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