Mom wants me to steal people’s girlfriends
I think mom is getting more desperate than I am.
Mom: All the girls that you see these days, none of them are single?
Me: Nope.
Mom: They’ve all got boyfriends?
Me: Yup.
Mom: Ever thought of stealing them?
Me: Err …. no because karma is a bitch.
Mom: Yes yes, I suppose you are right.
And she would know: she’s a devout Buddhist.
10 out of 10 men agree: Megan Fox is hot
A recent study done at Wake Forest University and Queens College in the US found that when it comes to physical attractiveness of the opposite sex, there are frequently more consensus among men than there are among women.
“Men agree a lot more about who they find attractive and unattractive than women agree about who they find attractive and unattractive,” says Dustin Wood, assistant professor of psychology. “This study shows we can quantify the extent to which men agree about which women are attractive and vice versa.”
Science Daily – Rating Attractiveness: Consensus Among Men, Not Women, Study Finds
What this means is that a group of men will almost certainly find the same women attractive, while what some women will find physically attractive is not necessarily true for other women in the same group.
Translation: heterosexual men faces more competition for mates than heterosexual women do. Indirectly, this means men need to expend more time, energy and yes, money, in attracting mates and then guarding them from other potential suitors.
Women may have you think that it’s hard to be a woman in the dating game too, that it ain’t easy looking pretty all the time, and men can be such jerks and you think it’s easy walking in these heels?!
But I dare say that men have to go through more for the same goal. Why do we need to get into a good school? So that we can get a good job. Why do we need a good job? So that we can have money. And why do we need to have money? So that we can afford a nice car, a house and nice dinners at expensive restaurants. And why do we do all of that? Chicks, man. It’s all for the chicks. 
(see Defamer)
Rich Guy for her, Pretty Girl for him
The other day, I was telling Tham one of my theories about how men and women select their mates.
Two guys of similar appearance and personality.
Nice guys.
One is rich, one not so rich.
The girl will always pick the rich one.
I don’t see anything wrong with the above. I don’t see any need to get bitter about it because that’s the reality.
A couple of months back there was an episode of “Lie To Me” where the lie-detection experts were hired by a rich guy to analyse his fiance. His question: does she love him for him or because he’s rich?
After speaking with the woman casually without her knowing who they were, and analysing her responses and body language, the team of experts concluded that she does indeed love him for his money. The rich guy was disappointed and wanted to call off the wedding. Then the team added, “Yes she loves you for your money, but she also loves you. To her, the two are indistinguishable.” Still not convinced by that argument, the team then poses the question, “How is that different to you loving her because she’s a beautiful woman?”
And the answer is: there is no difference. Men are biologically driven to mate with young and pretty women because those traits are perceived to be synonymous with health and good genes, while women prefer mates who can provide for her and her children.*
So as much as we like to think of ourselves as not being shallow or materialistic, to a certain extent we all are. So, let’s not get hung up about it, let’s accept the reality and mate accordingly. At the very least, I dare say that that will lead to less angst and bitterness about who doesn’t deserve whom.
* for further reading on this, check out Desmond Morris’ excellent documentary and book, “The Human Animal“.
When you’re single,
you’re exactly as happy as you are.When you’re married,
you can only be as happy as the least
happy person in the relationship.
My favourite shows on TV besides crime procedurals like “CSI” and “Law and Order”, are shows that explore the funny dynamics of male-female relationships, and “Rules of Engagement” is one of those shows. The characters include a married couple, a young couple who just got engaged, and their single guy friend who doesn’t want to settle down even though he’s turning 40.
The show is full of great lines like the above and the casting is spot on, especially Patrick Warburton as the husband, and David Spade as the sleazy older guy. To give you a feel of the show, here’s a clip showing the cast doing a read through of part of an episode.
And here are some outtakes.
And yes, I like to think of myself as the David Spade character in the show. Although I am not as lucky with women. 
I’ve always enjoyed female company. I like being around them, talking to them, and interacting with them even if most of the time it doesn’t lead to anything romantic. So yeah, I love it.
And when I’m not with them, I think about them. Some days when I’m in a reflective mood, I like walking around the perfume counters of a department store. I like walking around taking in the scents which can, at any random time, trigger a memory of an encounter, an ex-girlfriend or a relationship that never was.
That memory can trigger more memories, or it can lead me down a path of wondering and reminiscing. And most times, I would walk out smiling. 
For those in it, love is truly blind
When you are not in love, you see the problems and pitfalls.
When you are in it, you don’t see them at all.
When you are not in love, you see the pros and cons.
When you are in it, you see all the pros but not the cons.
When you are not in love, you won’t put up with the bad and the ugly.
When you are in it, you put up with it despite the bad and the ugly.
When you are not in love, you can’t understand what goes through their minds.
When you are in it, you can’t understand why people mind so much.
When what is obviously bad to them, seem insignificant to you.
For those in it then, like you,
Love is truly blind.
I see, I hear and I feel. And then I blog it.
