Ok after much frivolity with the last couple of posts, time for some deep thoughts. By a stroke of cosmic coincidence, YC of BlackJettas lost an acquiantance and so has Blinkymummy and Adrian (links are to their respective posts about their friends).
And you all have seen me blog about death and natural disasters quite a bit in the past month. So this all just emphasises the eternal truth:
Life is short.
Life as I live it is a path with no set route or destination. Getting too caught up with milestones and such only blinds you to the now. You are only ever going to be in the “now” – you’ve been in the past, and you will never be in the future.
You can plan to the minute detail and things will still happen to f**k it up. I’m not saying “don’t plan” but “life is what happens when you plan“. Set a general course and be prepared for detours but don’t forget to live a little too.
As for the ppl in our lives, there’d be the constants (family, loved ones, dear friends), the fleetings (acquiantances, lovers) and the randoms (ppl we see everyday but do not know the names of, or that kind stranger who gave us his parking ticket with time to spare on it). I truly believe that every personal interaction is valuable. The good ones make us happy, the bad ones make us learn. Everyone that crosses onto your path of life serves a purpose.
Say “thanks” and mean it. Don’t wait for a special occasion: Valetines, birthdays, Mother/Father’s Day, Christmas, New Year’s etc. Say it everytime. Show your appreciation.
And because you can’t possibly stay in physical proximity to all of your dear ones, take a few minutes everyday to send an email, SMS, find them on IM or even make a phone call. You can’t possibly be that busy for even *one* email right? Reach out and touch somebody. They would be glad that you did, and so would you.
And in the end, who we are is as much how we are perceived and remembered by others as how we perceive ourselves.