Two comments on the “Suicide/Love” post deserved to be mentioned – one is great and supremely profound, and another is misguided or so I feel.
Firstly for the profound, Dark Harf said:
If there’s nothing to live for, then what is there to die for?
If it’s meaningless to live, then what’s the meaning behind dying?
I got nothing better to add to that. It is that profound. Bravo. With a dash of dark humour, she goes into more detail in her post “Attempting Suicide“.
And for the misguided one, Ronnie said:
Suicide is not choice; it happens
when pain exceeds resources for coping with pain.
Suicide is neither wrong nor right; it is not a defect of character; it is morally neutral. It is simply an imbalance of pain versus coping your ability to cope.
What might be bearable to someone else, may not be bearable to you.
Suicide IS NOT A CHOICE.
similar to BEING ATTRACTED to someone IS NOT A CHOICE, except suicide is in the context of one’s life & death.
The reason I feel that Ronnie’s statement is misguided is because suicide IS a choice. It’s definitely not a reflex action nor natural – even an animal at its most desperate would not kill itself. Don’t give me examples of lemmings or beached whales. That lemmings would commit suicide is a myth; whales do not beach themselves because they want to kill themselves, they beach because of confusion and disorientation.
Which brings us back to my point: suicide is a choice that only highly sentient beings, ie. humans can make. Ronnie also mentioned coping mechanisms to which I would like to say that no one is expected to cope with life’s difficulties on their own. We all reach out for that extra help now and again, be it friends and family, a therapist, or drugs for our mental conditions but not to kill ourselves with.
Yes life can be overwhelming sometimes but how we choose to cope with it is a choice. You can deal with it like most of us do, or you throw the towel in and off yourself. And therein lies the choice.
Live for love, or die for love? I’d rather live for love even if it takes me an entire lifetime to find it. Because even if I don’t find love, there’s so much more in life worth living for.
[tags]suicide, love, relationships[/tags]