So Wendy’s boyfriend Shau saw what I wrote about him late last week. I was wondering at first, “What took him so long?” Heh. But get this, he wasn’t so much angry that I blogged about him as he was angry that she complained about him to me. Me – a friend who has known her longer than he has. Of course she’s gonna complain to me! What does his reaction tell you about him then?
Wendy had seen that post and even commented on it. Her comment said that the reason I may have a bad impression of him was that I only hear the bad stuff from her. Yes, she would be correct. That’s logical ain’t it?
Yesterday I got a scathing email from her saying that she feels betrayed that I wrote about her complaints. Why? Because she and him ended up arguing over it. The impression that I got was that our friendship is now over.
To Wendy …
I wrote the post on Friday night. You were ok with me on Saturday night. You were ok to leave a comment on the post on Monday. But you are not ok with it anymore now that he got angry about it. Basically, you are pissed with me not because I blogged about it, but because he found out. Damn. Surely your feelings of injustice are misplaced? I merely shone a light on what you had told me yourself. If that makes it awkward for the two of you because you now have to deal with the issue of trust, think about this – it was something that you were gonna have to face sooner or later anyway.
I’m not taking back my words. I can’t anyway. This is blogging for you – it’s already out in the ether. Even if I could, I’m still not apologising for it. I wrote what I wrote because believe it or not I feel somewhat responsible – you did meet him through me. From what you have told me, I do not agree with his control over you. But you’ve turned it around now and say that I’ve been too harsh about him because he’s generally nice to you. So why did you complain to me in the first place?!
Here’s my parting advice to you:
To prevent a similar incident like what happened between us from happening again with another friend, try talking more to the person whom you should really be talking to: him. Tell *him* why you are unhappy enough to complain to other people about *your* relationship.
I wish you both the best of luck. If your relationship works out and I’m made to look like an idiot, I’d be the first to admit it. I might even blog about it. 😉
I’ve mentioned in the past about not airing other people’s dirty laundry for fear of losing friends. I’ve violated that rule and I’m suffering the consequences. Now I’m compounding it by blogging about it! Woohoo. Hardcore blogger, yes I am.