I’m not personal any more?


September 8, 2006 7:46 PM

A reader had commented on my recent post, “Personal blogs and how I write mine“:

I used to find your blog writings interesting but I must say for awhile now, it has been lacking a certain “oomph”. You seem to be preaching too much and telling your readers what to do/write/blog, it has lost that personal touch that you talk so much about. Now ordinarily I wouldnt comment, as the rule goes, if you dont like what you read, then move on and just dont read it, but since you asked, I hope you appreciate this sincere comment.

I never thought that I would come across as “preaching”. I merely wanted to share tips and things that I’ve learnt about blogging and life in general with my readers. As for lacking that personal touch, I really didn’t expect this. How much more personal can I get when I blog about losing a friend through blogging? 😉

I can understand the lack of a personal touch when I share links to interesting stuff on the net but that’s only done maybe 2-3 times a week, max.

Mooiness, Marcus Ooi, mooi

I’ve talked about my sex life (or lack thereof!), and my life as a single man many many times, and will continue to do so. I know I haven’t talked much about my past recently but I thought that was well-covered already. Some of those posts are in the sidebar under “Facets of Me”.

As for being mediocre sometimes, it happens and I know it myself. Trying to think of words to chain up together in interesting and coherent sentences once a day, every day does drain my creativity a little. And on top of that, I try to balance my blogging with my “real” life – which is a good source of writing material by the way (stop preaching!).

So here’s another question to my readers, what else can I do to inject more of me into this blog and make it less sucky? Or do you feel that things are just fine and dandy as they are? Being so intimately connected with my blog, it does take people other than myself to see its shortcomings.

Fire away! And thank you for being honest. 🙂

14 thoughts on “I’m not personal any more?

  1. sourrain

    As the card-wielding self-voted Mooiness Fan Club president,I say you shall include naughty pictures,preferably those of roo.

    But seriously.You know I am (mostly)honest, and I would like to say, with or without the oomph,you are not blogging for work or money. It is a labour of love, and sometimes blog readers do tend to get a ‘overly possesive’ over their favourite author.Heck, blogging ‘is’ hard work and draining.There have been a number of posts which I spent 3 hours on,tapping away on my obsolete laptop

    I don’t think you are trying to preach, but its more like sharing and really caring what does your readers think of your material. Why do I say this? Because when someone comments and say that no,your ‘opinion’ is wrong because of this or that, you actually consider what the reader says, instead of just snubbing it like bloggers who actually preach

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  2. ian

    Yeah sourrain has a point. We sort of lose the essence of our blogs’ personality when we pay too much care to readers’ expectations. A balance is all we need. Maybe a short soul searching session might fire up your much needed inspirations?

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  3. HIT MY HEAD IF U DONT LIKE IT.

    HEY! I REGESTERED TODAY N SO I’M THIS MUCH OLD.FORGET WHAT OTHERS HAS TO SAY ,INFACT,TRY NOT TO EXPECT AND DO AND WRITE WHAT U FEEL LIKE.WELL, IF U DON’T WHERE’S UR UNIQUE INDIVIDUALITY? BE BLUNT AND ACCEPT THINGS WITH A ROAR IF NOT BY A LAUGHTER.THINKING BOUT WHAT OTHERS HAS TO SAY WILLAFFECT YOUR SPONTANITY THAT SHOULD OOZE EASILY.BYE TAKE CARE.

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  4. Kate

    Nah, i think u are doing perfectly fine… nobody’s life is interesting every single day.. just blog away the way you wanted….that’s real life and you… but of cos, with more pics of your handsome Snoop pls… 😉

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  5. mooiness Post author

    sourrain: President for Life! I shall try my best with the naughty pictures. And I agree with you *ahem* that I don’t argue for the sake of arguing. :mrgreen:

    ian: soul-search? no need lah, I know what I’m all about. Now inspiration to write on my low days, that’s a different story.

    herman: thanks for your vote!

    YC: yay!

    HIT MY HEAD IF U DONT LIKE IT: thanks for the advice and your enthusiasm. Heh.

    Kate: thanks for your vote as well. Pics of Snoop? Err can, if it brings in the chicks I’m more than happy to oblige. 😛

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  6. mae

    I like what I read so far. I suppose it’s nice that you keep your posts short and succinct. That you tell things the way they are and what you go through everyday. I don’t quite think it lacks personal touch, because I agree it takes effort to be personal but still savour the privacy benefits everyone is entitled to have.

    And I love Snoop. 😛 My friend’s dog’s called Snoop too. Your doggie is probably as famous as you. He’s adorable lah!

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  7. Eunice

    Well, i like some of the stuff that you’d written. Just be who you are and write anything that you feel like to. Whoever thinks you’re preaching, they can just go and read someone else’s blog.

    Thanks for sharing. 🙂

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  8. mooiness Post author

    mae: you are correct, it’s hard to be personal and yet still allow for that bit of privacy. Snoop and I thank you for your support!

    Eunice: you like “some” only ah? Hahah, just kidding. Thanks for the ‘yes’ vote.

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  9. LupinTan

    Dude, Well, you lose some friends, you gain more. Like me, I don’t think I would ever know a bugger from down under if not for BM.

    You do have an interesting blog, I mean if that person felt that you lost touch in your writing, it’s good to comment someway to address it, but does it matter. If your blog is really that uninteresting, you will lose readership anyway. But question here is, you write the blog for readership or just plain expression?

    Like that certain bitch in my area, remember? She already lost tons of readership by now, and she’s the one who going for readership.

    So dude, no worries, I will be one of those buggers that put you in the daily “must visit” blogs.

    All the best
    Lupin from “Uniquely” SG
    Out.

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  10. mooiness Post author

    Lupin: I see your point that if this blog was not interesting, I’d be losing readership anyway. At this point, I’m still gaining readers. Woohoo!

    I strive for a balance between writing for myself and writing to gain an audience. It’s the interactivity that makes a blog good.

    Though I know that pandering to what others want or expect of this blog may actually make it more sucky because I’m not writing for myself anymore.

    As for that bee-yotch in your neck of woods, I see that she’s no longer on STOMP either. 😉

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