My most emotionally satisfying relationship was with a woman whom, despite the strong emotional connection, I did not have sex with. And it lasted a mere 6 weeks.
I met her at Metro like how I met a lot of other women. Heh. I couldn’t remember how but I happened to be there by myself. In walked a bunch of people whom I know, and she was with them. Straight away there was a connection between her and I because we just started talking like we’ve known each other for a long time.
She was visiting from Thailand and she was going to be here for 6 weeks. As soon as I realise that she was only here for the short term, I zoned out right away. Must have been a reflex action to prevent myself from getting hurt. However, that didn’t stop us from really enjoying each other’s company.
Over the next few weeks, we’d see each other 2-3 times a week. We’d have dinner and drinks, and we’d go clubbing. We exchanged gifts and did small errands for each other. People did mistake us for being a couple because if you cancel out the sex, that’s what couples mostly do right?
I would find out that she’s from a rich family and her father was a general in the Thai army. They have a big holiday home here and she drives a nice car. I even fantasised about being her gigolo – that’s how rich they were. But the great thing about her was that she didn’t have an air of arrogance or privilege. It just felt so easy being around her, and it felt very good.
In hindsight, I wonder if the reason that I think the relationship to be emotionally satisfying was because it felt so easy? Neither of us were looking for a relationship, and we were just enjoying the time that fate had given us. 6 weeks is nothing in the bigger picture. At the time it felt too short but simultaneously it felt so fulfilling.
Was I in love and didn’t know it? Hmm, I wonder.
[tags]single life, relationships[/tags]