Sexual frustration leads to gay talk


October 24, 2006 8:09 PM

Sexual frustration. Sometimes I wonder if it would be easier being gay. Or bisexual. You know, play for one team when the other team sucks (oo err) and then switch back.

A gay friend once explained it to me thus:

A gay man is still a MAN. His attitudes about sex and relationships are the same as a straight man.

Brilliant! Which basically means there’s no beating around the bush, no playing coy or hard to get, no suffering the humiliation of finally getting her to go out with you only for her to say to you, “You are such a *great friend* to me”.

Nope, none of that shit. Just straight to the point – wanna boink? And you know how a guy would not mind sleeping with a female friend? Come on you know it. Haven’t you watch “When Harry Met Sally“? No man can be real friends with a woman because of the sex thing. Somewhere in the back of our heads, we’ve contemplated it. And we weren’t even drunk.

So yeah straight men wouldn’t mind sleeping with their female friends, but their female friends may have a problem with that, unless they play that game which is rare. Because someone’s feelings always get hurt blah blah.

Queer as Folk

But gay men don’t have that “friends” problem. No stupid ladder theory for them. Friend, schmeind. “You look hot. Let’s have sex. If the sex is crap, then we can still be friends.” Well at least that’s how I imagine gay men would behave. I haven’t watched enough of “Queer as Folk” to know – watching men kissing and fondling each other just doesn’t do it for me. That is, I would watch it more if it weren’t for the gay sex scenes. Ironic!

I think I lost my point four paragraphs ago. Oh yes, I think gay men have it easier because they don’t have to deal with women’s mind games. If they want sex, they can have it – just like a woman actually. Though I could be wrong. I’d hate it if I were to turn gay and then realise that gay men are just like women, head games and all except with penises, no breasts, and rough skin. *shudder*

Ugh. I am gonna go watch some straight porn to reaffirm myself now. :mrgreen:

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10 thoughts on “Sexual frustration leads to gay talk

  1. girlstar7

    I think you are right what you said about gay men. Even though they are gay they are still MEN and think like men. I have a few gay acquaintances and friends and have visited gay bars quite a few times. And yes, like you said, it appears that things are much more direct and much more promiscous in the gay world. From what I understand there are way more one night stands, sex on the first date (if they actually go on a date), sleeping with friends, having sex with numerous partners etc. Of course, this is a stereotype, and there are many gay men out there that are also very monagamous and prefer not to sleep around.
    I know guys get annoyed with women’s mind games and can totally understand. You seem to be getting quite frustrated with the female species in general here, but remember not all women play mind games!
    And as much as men hate women playing mind games, women hate the fact that men are only after one thing. Sometimes, we get over yet another guy trying to get into our pants. And sometimes when guys are chasing and chasing we just think, ‘god would he just leave me alone’? but are just too nice to say it. If you ever want a woman’s perspective, just ask me…I’m happy to try to interpret the behaviour for you (although some woemn are just head fucks and beyond comprehension)….

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  2. simplysiti

    I seriously think that everyone should set boundaries right from the start.

    I hate it when women are made to believe, either through implied conduct or what the man said, that there is more to the relationship than just sex when he simply wants a shagbuddy.

    I equally hate it when the man expects more, such as exclusivity and all that possessive bullcrap, when there is nothing but just sex.

    Either way, it is equally frustrating.

    Judging from what I was told by my gay friends, both gay and lesbians for that matter, homosexual relationships are not spared from such dramas either.

    But hey, at least, as a consolation, women are heaps more pleasant to look at and we dont smell bad. Haha.

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  3. V

    *pats*

    Yesterday on the train i heard some girl complaining really loudly about how she hadnt had sex in 5 months and she was wondering if “it” worked anymore. LOL

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  4. mooiness Post author

    Tom: getting laid is not hard. Getting laid *with the right person* IS. And I’m working on it. πŸ˜‰

    girlstar7: yes the gay scene is a little bit more prosmiscuous and cavalier than the mainstream. As for women and their mind games, I think it’s the women that I’ve been meeting. Damn it.

    And head fucks? I avoid them like a plague – those are easier to spot than the others.

    simplysiti: yeah I’m exaggerating the differences for comic effect. And I do still love women. Woohoo!

    V: hahaha good story. I am ALWAYS thinking that. Shit. πŸ˜›

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  5. yc

    yc: we’ve shared bed countless times, but nothing happen before.

    friend: no. it hasn’t happen.

    yc: no. it won’t happen.

    friend: nope. it hasn’t happen. yet.

    yc: what do you mean it hasn’t happen yet?

    friend: no man will share a bed with a woman that he doesn’t want to have sex with.

    yc: but i’ve shared bed with platonic friends and never once sex was involved.

    friend: that’s what you think.what i’m saying is they all want to have sex with you. or at least thought about it. have you read this before? http://www.laddertheory.com/

    yc: … so you’re trying to tell me that you want to have sex with me or you’ve at least thought about it?

    friend: well,there’s something about man… man thinks about it even when he doesn’t want it…

    yc: -_-

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  6. Tom

    A good root will definitely clear your head from all those pent-up frustration…then you can continue your quest to find ‘the right person’ without an impaired judgement πŸ™‚

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  7. Mirebella

    But gay men dont have the added fear of unwanted pregnancies now do they? Hell – if a women had those liberation/s – random sex would be all more rampant than it is now I reckon πŸ™‚

    Good reading btw!

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  8. mooiness Post author

    YC: that’s what I’m talking about. πŸ˜€ (sorry that your comment got spam-filtered!)

    Tom: unfortunately (or am I fortunate?) for me, a good root for me requires an emotional connection. I did do it a few months back just to “get it out of the way” but it wasn’t satisfying at all.

    Mirabella: you make a good point re: pregnancies. But even then I think men and women view sex differently. πŸ˜‰ Thanks for the compliment and sorry too that your comment was spam-filtered.

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