Would I date Madonna? Hell yeah
but I’d be realistic about it. 😉
Don’t expect your boyfriend or girlfriend to suddenly change just because they are going out with you. And this is especially true when he or she has many friends of the opposite sex. Sometimes they have more friends of the opposite sex than not. And they like it that way. In fact, that was how you both met in the first place.
Don’t go into the relationship thinking that they would abandon their male or female friends just because of you. They won’t do it, and their friends wouldn’t expect them to either. Especially when you are the newcomer.
To me the problem starts when you expect yourself to be the exclusive member of the opposite sex that they’re allowed to have in their social circle. As in the one and only. Sure they can have other friends, so long as they are of the same sex.
Some of you may think that you are generous because you still allow them to stay in touch with their friends of the opposite sex. But then you have rules like they cannot go out one on one with them, at night, for drinks, for clubbing … whatever.
Yes I expect certain boundaries to be drawn once two people are dating exclusively. But trust is also important. If you go into the relationship being highly suspicious and thinking that they might cheat on you, then it’s doomed from the start. If the person respects you and is trustworthy, then they would act accordingly in the relationship. If they aren’t, then maybe you should not be with them afterall.
Boyfriend material? Go into it with your eyes wide open.
(from his MySpace page)
What you see now is what you will get. Don’t like it? Then don’t get involved. But if you do get involved, then don’t complain and stress out about it.
All that energy that you would spend making up rules, stressing over their whereabouts, being jealous and arguing over petty things like who called whom and when, could be used better don’t you think? If you are realistic and practical about it, I guarantee that you will have a better relationship.
And remember, you are the one who gets to go home with them. That counts for something right?