I’ve stayed away from commenting about the SE-Asian blogosphere, ripe as it is for criticism. I’ve thought that the bloggers that I tend to criticise are the same two every time and it got repetitive. The last time I criticised a famous blogger was almost a year ago. And what do you know – this time it’s the same dude again.
In a nutshell:
- Kenny Sia blogged about an accident to which he had witnessed. An accident in which 4 people, including 2 children had died.
- Kenny posted up some pictures of the scene. A couple of those showed the limp form of a little girl. No shot of blood or of the face, mind you.
- A good number of commentators called him callous and insensitive for posting those photos, that he should have helped out more instead of taking photos.
- Kenny’s die-hard fans said, “What’s the big deal? Those photos are not worse than those shown in the local newspapers” and that he only took those photos after doing all that he could.
I am neutral with regards to the photos, and to his actions on the scene. I can see the argument from both sides. I can even understand his motivations to post the photos, even though I don’t necessarily agree with them. It was Kenny’s reactions to the criticisms which proved more fascinating to me.
Regarding taking photos instead of helping, Kenny’s response #1:
You can telephone the local Kuching police and check with them who at the scene provided the most help. Go ahead. I had given them my IC number and they know exactly who I am.
Then using a guilt trip to try and silence his critics, Kenny’s response #2:
You guys sure have a lot to say about me posting up this entry. But how many of you truly cared about the young girl still battling for her life in the hospital.
The LEAST you could do is call Sarawak General Hospital (+6082 257555), find out about her condition, and if need be, pledge a donation to her family.
If you have already done so, you have my praise. If you haven’t, shame on you.
The tone of his first response struck me as him wanting recognition for doing something any reasonable person would have done in the same situation, ie. calling the police and ambulance and helping direct traffic around the accident.
The second response indicates to me that because he had said so and perhaps had done so, everyone should donate to the family. If not, they don’t have the right to criticise him.
Subsequent commentators picked those two points apart.
“a reader” said:
Why are you asking your reader to answer if you should help in any way possible especially financially ? We know that you are from a well-off family and please if you feel like giving a donation to the little girl or the family do so.. quietly.
If you feel like visiting her in the hospital by all means do so. As I see that there is not so much of a point here to show it in your blog, some more asking for other’s approval. What if we say you should donate RM 1 million to the kid can u do it ? I would say for those people who wish to give a donation, do so in a manner answerable to your heart, not passing the responsibility to others and worst still making a huge publicity out of it.
John Stu said:
Kenny, there are hundreds of accidents happening everyday. Why should I provide help and support to this particular victim?
Because the famous celebrity Kenny Sia is rallying behind them for his own personal reasons? Even if I did do something for any victim of any tragedy, no one will know about it, because I wont publish it on the internet, unlike you.
… Secondly, helping someone does not have to involve publicising how you have helped, and saying things like “had i not done this, that wouldn’t have happened”. Saving a life is a beautiful thing, flaunting that you have saved a life or aided the saving of a life is sad. Sad in the sense that you seem to want recognition for that.
Lastly, I quote “The LEAST you could do is call Sarawak General Hospital (+6082 257555), find out about her condition, and if need be, pledge a donation to her family. If you have already done so, you have my praise. If you haven’t, shame on you.” Unquote.
Alright, so you have “donated”, big deal. And as if people care whether they have your praises or not, hey? And this ties in with Point Number 2.
I know, Kenny, you expected people to heap praises on you for “doing good” when you clicked the “Post This Awesome Entry” button – but it ended up showing how immature you are deep down.
My own thoughts are these:
- You don’t win an argument by saying someone else cannot criticise you because they did not go through the exact same situation as you have. Sometimes it does take an unbiased outsider to be objective about it.
- You can be kind-hearted and generous. You can even brag about it on your blog. But to use it to lord it over your critics is lame. You donate and help because it’s the right thing to do, and doing so is its own reward. You don’t do it to get recognition or to win a petty argument.
People tend to forget that Kenny is only 24/25 this year because he comes across as very self-assured on his blog. So perhaps he hasn’t really grasped the nuances and etiquettes of polite society yet. Perhaps he’s still learning.
Although, seeing as how he once said in September 2005, that a critic deserved to get into the car accident that she did because she dared to criticise him, this latest dust up only shows that he hasn’t really gained much humility or sense of decency since that incident almost 2 years ago. He still has a lot to learn indeed.