We wade through the bad dates so that
we might be lucky enough to stumble onto a good one
(picture credit: Tombre @ stock.xchng)
It could be any kind of situation where two person could meet, but mostly where the first few encounters involve shallow chit-chat, alcohol consumption, attraction to their looks and maybe even a little dancing. Or it could be mostly virtual: numbers or email addresses were swapped early on, and flirty messaging ensued.
Then you decided to take it to the next level by going on a proper date where you’re both sober, where you see each other in brighter lights and you can hear each other speak properly. Suddenly all that mysterious and flirtatious fun you had before isn’t so mysterious or fun anymore. In a split second, you’ve changed your mind about the other person.
The polite thing to do would be to at least sit through the date, but then comes the tricky bit: how do you end the date without giving the other person hope of another one, but without being cruel and heartless about it?
Are there any other alternatives to saying, “I’ll call you” as a soft let-down? Do you sugar-coat it even more by saying, “Thanks I have a lovely time. We should do this again soon”? Or would that be giving the other person false hope? Another one that I’ve heard used is, “Give me a call sometime” which is of course, code for “please don’t”.
Out of the above, I’ve used “I’ll call you”. Think I deserved my dry-patch now?
And if you were the unfortunate person who got pre-dumped, how many ignored calls or messages would you allow before calling it quits? My limit is two. If the person is into you, he or she won’t be ignoring your calls and messages.
Human courtship, eh? Sometimes I wish we can skip it all and just get to the point. It’s hard enough to look for someone who you can start a relationship with. In between all the potentially good ones, you gotta wade through the ones who are maybes only – the ones where you have to be evil and be a totally cold bitch or bastard with.
The ones which will make you question yourself, “Who am I to be rejecting him/her?”
Too many questions. And I’m still sick so this is too much thinking for one night. But feel free to continue in the comments. 😉