A whole lot of questions …
Other than just not feeling like it, the only time that I could decline an invite to go out with friends would be if I was sick or there was a family thing going on. But here’s the tricky part: what if you felt better later in the night, or the family thing ended earlier than thought and another friend called to ask you out, what would you do?
Go out with this friend?
Reject this second invite and call up the first friend and tell them you can make it after all?
And what if you go out with the second friend, and then the first friend found out?
What are your excuses then? “I haven’t seen the other friend for longer”? I mean what can you say that can possibly make that friend feel less rejected?
Or how about other times, you ditch your friend for a date with a single available male/female? Would that be the only clause acceptable? And what if that male/female becomes a boyfriend/girlfriend? The juggling becomes even more complicated. Sex or friends? Sex is always good but friends last longer than boyfriends or girlfriends usually. Hmm, tough one.
Do your friends exist and are ranked in your head, on imaginary A-lists, B-lists, and C-lists? Do your friends know about your lists? Do they understand that an A-list invite trumps one from the B or C-lists? How would a B or a C-list friend get onto your A-list? Or would they be so pissed off that they are not on your A-list that they don’t care about being friends with you anymore?
The social scene is such a mine field. I reckon it’d be easier if you were a bastard and not care about how other people feel. But then, you wouldn’t have that many friends then, and you wouldn’t be having these issues in the first place!
How do you juggle your social invites? Tips? Advices? Let me know. 🙂