“I don’t see a ring on her finger”.
I have a friend who once firmly operated on that principle. Any woman who wasn’t married was fair game to him. It doesn’t matter that she’s been with the same guy forever. He’d say,
They’ve been together how long? And they haven’t gotten married yet? More reason for her to ditch the loser.
During his years of conquest, some girls would leave their boyfriends for him, some would cheat on their boyfriends with him, and then there were those who got pissed off and annoyed by his persistence. And sometimes angry and jealous boyfriends would get involved and that is never good.
I don’t believe in breaking up a couple because even if I don’t believe in karma, what’s to say that the same thing wouldn’t happen to me? Because if a woman in a relationship can be swayed by someone better who comes along, I wouldn’t be secure with her ever – there will always be someone better than me out there. And of course, there’s no telling what some psychotic jilted ex would do to me.
Thus, I wouldn’t initiate contact or I wouldn’t pursue it if I knew the woman wasn’t available. But I’m going to contradict myself here and say that if it was the woman who initiated contact and wanted to push things further then I may not turn her down. Depending on whether I am physically attracted to her of course. I would never be able to do it with someone I don’t feel for.
Jupiter ImagesIf that happens, I guess I’m still ruining the relationship for the boyfriend. However, I will treat it as something casual and not push for a relationship because what’s to say that she wouldn’t continue to seek for sex outside of the relationship?
I do know one or two couples whose beginnings started out as something illicit or on the side, or either the man or the woman had instigated the breakup of an existing relationship, and yet they have ended up married. Last I know, they are still happy together.
For me, I’m not ready to take the chance in a situation like that yet. But who knows? I may get desperate enough. 😉