I just read this morning that Pink has separated from her husband. In the announcement by her PR was this little gem:
This decision was made by best friends with a huge amount of love and respect for one another
While the marriage is over, their friendship has never been stronger.
It seems to me that in the celeb world, there are two standard cliches. You either have “irreconcilable differences” or the break up was “mutual and we remain good friends”. So it’s either you had a really bad relationship breakdown, or the best outcome from a breakup ever. There’s no in between.
The nicer outcome seems to indicate that there is a possibility that breakups can be a pleasant experience, as opposed to the depression, anxiety, and anger that can accompany the act of two people no longer wanting to be together. Note that I’m not talking about what happens after the breakup – given time, people can reconcile and most remain civil to one another. I’m specifically talking about the act of breaking up. Even if you are a warm hearted and forgiving person, you have to admit that breaking up is not the nicest thing to go through.
The other thing that I don’t see happening much in the real world is people remaining, or becoming really good friends after a breakup. Civil yes, but “friendship has never been stronger”?
I will allow “friends”, but “good friends” is a bit too much. The situation in Seinfeld with Jerry and Elaine is not the norm. If two people started out as good friends before becoming lovers, then maybe they can remain friendly after. But even then, not as “good friends” – I don’t believe that two people will automatically fall back down to the level they were at before the relationship went from platonic to amorous.