All about dealing with change


March 19, 2008 8:46 PM

Four seasons
Fort Photo @ flickr

We know that change is constant. Yet, a lot of the stress in our lives is caused by our fear and anxiety about the unknown future. But no matter how much we plan, a certain amount of our lives have to be left up to fate and chance. There are a few cliched sayings about dealing with change and unexpected happenings:

  • Look on the bright side of life.
  • The light at the end of the tunnel.
  • Every cloud has a silver lining.
  • If life deals you lemons, make lemonade.

Then there’s the famous “Serenity Prayer” by Reinhold Niebuhr, which is profound even if you are not religious:

God, Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
the courage to change the things I can,
and the wisdom to know the difference.

Over the years I have always kept things in perspective. That and the above prayer is how I approach everything in my life. And as cliched as the sayings listed at the top are, if you frame your mind to be positive instead of negative you’d tend to see that life isn’t really as bad as you think. For example, all of you who are reading this now on the Internet, ask yourself this: is your life that bad when you *have* Internet?

I enjoy life to the fullest while always knowing in the back of my mind that it can all so easily go away. And when I hit a kink in my plans, big or small I don’t mope and bitch about how unfair it is – I deal with it so that I can move on. Thinking positive all the time is not easy and it takes effort. But it pays off in the end. Because as Voltaire says,

Life is thickly sown with thorns, and I know no other remedy than to pass quickly through them. The longer we dwell on our misfortunes, the greater is their power to harm us.

And I shall end with a quote from “Ziggy“, a comic that I have never read before until I was searching for think-positive quotes for this post:

You can complain because roses have thorns, or you can rejoice because thorns have roses.

* This post has been brought to you by me being sick again, and feeling sorry for myself the past two days. :mrgreen:

7 thoughts on “All about dealing with change

  1. mooiness Post author

    herman: change of seasons always does it for me.

    blur ting: glad to hear you are feeling better!

    blinkymummy: yeah loh – what timing eh?!

    silverstar: yeah life goes on regardless, how you choose to live it is entirely up to you. 🙂

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