While it may be easier for some, being happy generally takes effort and determination. I’ve mentioned previously the need to stay positive and to keep things in perspective. And what we eat matters too. The other factor in one’s happiness is the people we have in our lives.
They say that no man is an island, that we all need to connect with other people to really live life to the fullest. However, if what surrounds that island is toxic, the island will never truly be healthy no matter how hard it tries.
Your effort at your own happiness will feel even harder than it has to be if it’s constantly being eroded by the negativity of those around you. However unlike an island, we have the ability to move away from toxic people.
It will feel hard to move away from friends whom we’ve known for a long time, even though those relationships are past their use-by dates. It’s even harder to move away from family and relatives because there’s a sense of obligation that no matter what happens, “blood is thicker than water”. But yeah, what if the blood was bad?
Therefore, it is useful to understand the sunk costs of personal relationships in these instances. A bad relationship currently is a bad relationship nonetheless, no matter how good it had been in the past. If every effort has been made to improve it and it just wouldn’t budge, then it’s really time to move on.
Happiness cannot be taken for granted. It will take effort, determination, and also courage to walk away from what’s keeping you down especially when what’s keeping you down are people whom you had once wanted in your life.
Yeah it may be hard but hey, we’ve only got one life to live. I prefer to spend it being happy most of the time. Don’t you? So go outside and seek out the positive people in your life. At the very least, the sunshine and fresh air will do you good. 🙂