A friendship revisited

May 31, 2008 8:17 PM

Almost two years ago, I had lost Wendy as a friend when I disagreed with her then-boyfriend’s insecurities and wrote about them here. What I didn’t reveal then was that before that he had also mocked my sexuality by calling me gay in front of her – it went on for the whole of that one night, annoying the hell out of me. It was illogical since I was the one who introduced them, but it made sense when I viewed it under the bigger context of him being insecure.

So yeah I didn’t like him and I wasn’t afraid to show it. But that distressed Wendy greatly, and we stopped talking or seeing each other for a long time.

Recently, about two months ago they’d broken up. Before that even happened though, as inevitable as I had always thought it to be, we had started to talk again. It was more or less forced upon us because Wendy had become Simon’s housemate. Being civil to her wasn’t that difficult because although I had been disappointed with her, I never hated her; he was the one whom I’d despised more.

No words of apology were spoken. I think we were both stubborn in our views in that we both thought what we did at the time was the right thing to do. Despite that, we gradually rediscovered why we became friends in the first place.

And it’s a nice feeling revisiting a friendship which I had written off. I’m not saying that it’s back to how it was – when you have a deep wound, even if it heals over there’d still be a scar, but what we have now is definitely nicer than before.

Yes it’s a very nice feeling indeed. ๐Ÿ™‚

8 thoughts on “A friendship revisited

  1. ckl

    “Iโ€™m not saying that itโ€™s back to how it was – when you have a deep wound, even if it heals over thereโ€™d still be a scar…” – so true!

  2. girlstar7

    The guy sounds like a dick head, and it sounds like he was just insecure about the fact that his girlfriend has male friends. Sometimes people need to realise for themselves that they are in a shit relationship that is going nowhere. Obviously your friend has realised this and now you can be friends again although things may never be quite the same as they were before. Glad to hear things are better than they were!

  3. blur ting

    That’s nice to hear. I’m sure deep down inside she knows that you both went apart because of her ex. I bet she’s having that nice feeling to be friends with you again too. ๐Ÿ™‚

  4. mooiness Post author

    herman: Bros before hos!

    ckl: just like a scar, one can’t expect for it to totally heal. That’d just be too frustrating. Better to enjoy the present reality.

    girlstar7: oh yeah, he was ok to me before they started going out. After that, he was just obnoxious.

    sourrain: I thank you on her behalf. ๐Ÿ˜‰

    blur ting: yeah I think that fact is fairly obvious. Hah!


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